Would you marry someone who already had children?
By amandajb1981
@amandajb1981 (12)
United States
May 29, 2007 12:33am CST
I married a mand that already had three kids. I was only nineteen and people thought i was crazy. We now have two of our own. My stepkids were 2,4,and 5 when I met my husband they are now 9, 10, and 11. I love them all so much. We have a big family and sometimes people look at us like we are crazy but I wouldn't change a thing. I am truely happy and I believe I am a fairly good mom and stepmom. So would you or are you married to someone with kids or are you a step mom
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@amandajb1981 (12)
• United States
29 May 07
so you would prefer not to marry someone who has children. If someone had told me I'd marry a man with three kids I would have told them they were crazy but I fell in love with him and in the process fell in love with his kids too. You just never know. I now say never say never.
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@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
6 Jan 08
It would NEVER bother me to marry someone who has kids. I would hope they feel the same way since I have 3 girls of my own. I love kids & have plenty of room in my life & heart for more kids.
@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
30 May 07
I would most definitely marry a guy who already had children, that would not be a turnoff for me at all. If anything it would make me realize how good a father he could be to our kids one day and thats so sexy when a man is with his kids and taking responsibility for them.
I have a 4yr old daughter and I would expect the same from any guy who wanted to be with me..he has to be 100% accepting towards my daughter otherwise he will be kicked to the curb!
Amandajb1981 you are so blesses to have a big loving family...people would love to be in your position, having a big family is the best, I imagine your family has tons of laughs. Good for you..dont let no one tell you different.
@jodenton (222)
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20 Sep 07
Yes, I did. Like you, if someone had told me that I would marry a man with kids then I'd have laughed at them and I had my reservations before I met them.
However, love is too strong sometimes for the head!!
My stepchildren when me and my husband got together were 12,11 and 1. I was 21. My husband was 31. When we used to go on day trips I could see people mentally trying to place us all cos I obviously wasn't old enough to have the eldest two kids. That used to amuse me!!
@mrskitty (74)
• Philippines
17 Aug 07
Doesnt matter to me if he has a kid already, because in my true love story it was already happened, and asking myself before why it was happened to me? then I came to realized that maybe it was my destiny and god's plan for us, because If I was not their stepmom, how will be my 2 stepkids life's now? As long I know he truly loves me, it doesnt matter to his past life.
@erielle (1280)
• United States
29 May 07
Well, if I were single and I happened to find a man whom had chidren of his own, I think it would depend. I would have to get to know his children very well before starting a relationship with their father. I would also make sure that there is peace between the children's mother and I. But, no.. there is nothing wrong with it. It is about doing what makes you happy.
@gwenmari1029 (1481)
• Philippines
29 May 07
if i really love that person and he loves me too the same way that i love him, i don't think that i'd still care if he already has kids. it's like buying something that you like and having 3 little freebies on the side :)
i admire you for following your heart and not listening to other people. there are just certain things that can make you a lot happier and give you a feeling of fulfillment that other people can not comprehend in their own.
@Melissa528 (744)
• United States
30 May 07
I have a son and i'm a single mom so I hope the fact that I have a son does not put me out of the running for a good man. I would marry a person that has children only IF I get a chance to meet the children and develop a relationship with them. This is also a good opportunity to see the parenting skills of the person that I want to marry. I have a child and WILL NOT marry a person that does not have love and respect for my son so I would like to think that my "future spouse" would feel the same way.
