Is working two jobs selfish?

@toe_ster (771)
United States
May 29, 2007 1:50am CST
If one parent chooses to work two jobs, is it being selfish? I am not taking it for granted. I acknowledge the sacrifice, but isn't it being selfish to the kids? There are alternatives an other parents work it out. Both parents work at different times. Or one parent works and makes nough for both incomes. BUt to voluntarily choose to work two jobs? Any thoughts on the matter???
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• United States
29 May 07
I don't think working two jobs is selfish. I always thought that I worked hard for my kids to have better things. I also was use to working all the time that it was just natural. Now I don't work at all. I guess it depends on yourself and how you really feel about working 2 jobs. And do you think it is hurting your kids?
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@toe_ster (771)
• United States
29 May 07
I think it is hurting the kids the most. We have 3 kids. Ages 6,4, and 1. He never sees the 6 year old anymore. MAybe for a couple hours on the weekend between jobs. He sees the 4 year old for like 15 minutes between jobs, and the 1 year old the most because he is at home and my husband has to come home and shower and change. So he gets an hour to two each day. The kids are constantly asking for him. They miss him. They wakes up and he is at work, they comehome from school and he is at work, and they got to bed while he is still at work. I like the part about getting ahead but to what sacrifice?
@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
29 May 07
In my opinion, if you don't have children and you are single or your spouse doesn't mind and you have a loving relationship, then I think it's not being selfish. But when there are children involved, they need both of their parent's love and attention as they are growing up. There are a lot of working parents that are work-a-holics and are being selfish to their children. If they want to work extra hard to make more and more money throughout their lives, then they shouldn't even consider having children. It's hard enough for us as a family; Mark works over 12 hours each work day and sleeps most of the off-time. We don't get to spend much time together as a family. It's not that he wants to work so much, it's required of him.
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@sunshine4 (8706)
• United States
29 May 07
Many have to work two jobs to live a lifestyle that they want for their children. I don't think that it is selfish at all. I think that it teaches their children that it takes hard work to get ahead in this world. In the winter, my husband works his first job 6 days a week and another job 5 nights a week. It isn't that we need the money, but it makes it easier for us to have a great Christmas for our children and we also use this money to get ahead a bit.
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• United States
29 May 07
I don't think working more than one job is selfish. Yes, it can make it difficult to spend time with kids/family but sometimes more than one job is necessary to make ends and help the family to have a better life. And sometimes working a lot is how a person feels fulfilled, which is important to everyone in the family's happiness and well-being. I do see how someone working more than one job when he/she doesn't need to can be seen as selfish by some, but it's not selfish in my opinion.
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