If you are engaged to someone, do they have a say in how you spend your money?

@AdamMax (260)
United States
May 29, 2007 10:46am CST
Does your fiance' have a right to tell you how to spend your money before you are married?
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@krayzee (1160)
• Romania
31 May 07
Well, I don't think anyone has the _right_ to tell me how to do anything. Married or not. However I do think the person you're sharing your life with should have a say in how the money is spent. Because (especially when you're engaged) the whole point of a relationship is of two becoming one and sharing all their joys and problems. Including the financial ones. Bottom line is that I'd accept my hubby's opinion on how the money is spent at any time, we talk about it, we take decisions about it together, etc. But is he telling me how to spend my money? No he's not, and I wouldn't accept it any other way.
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@feralwoman (2199)
• Australia
31 May 07
No, I don't think they do have that right either before or after marriage! LOL ;)
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@Ashgun (472)
30 May 07
Yeah i think he can since he is your fiance! If you would have asked me the same question but that person was not your fiance but your boyfriend i would have said no... But you are engaged to that person; then that mean you are planning to go further with him in the near future! So he do have a say about how much you spend... But i dont really know whats your situation and it must be something that you really dont appreciate with your fiance because you thought about asking others opinions! (thats what i think and i may be wrong) As i said your fiance may just have a say about the money you spend but he must not have full control of every single penny you spend!!!
@huilee (1007)
• Singapore
30 May 07
definately a yes for me... why not? i mean he must have his reasons for telling u stuff? n its wiser to share, listen and do things... whats more u guys are gonna spend a lifetime together? tell him ur ways of spending such things and im sure he will understand... or at least tell him tt he should be more understanding? =) i hope i did help u... =P
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@emckee (465)
• United States
29 May 07
Ha! My fiance has no money management skills but he understands that as long as our bills are paid, I am cool with however he chooses to spend his money. We give each other money and share expenses whenever it's needed. We're both Geminis so I think maybe that has something to do with it. I don't know much about other zodiac signs and I don't personally base much emphasis on astrology except basic personality traits, but I don't think Geminis place much importance on money. As long as we're having a good time and can share our minds and ideas, we're pretty much content.
@peavey (16991)
• United States
29 May 07
No one should ever tell anyone else how to spend money, it should be a mutual understanding. You should sit down and have a long, honest talk about money before you ever get married. Money is the number one thing that causes problems in marriages. You can share everything else, why not feelings and ideas about money?
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@Marie2473 (8517)
• Sweden
29 May 07
Yeah i think so. i mean he has no right to tell me not to spend any at all - however since we live together and we have the money in a joined account, so even if we are not married we do all the bills and shopping together. I would be angry if he went out and spent it all without asking me first!
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@jbb316 (1779)
• United States
29 May 07
I wouldn't exactly say they should tell you how to spend your money but maybe they should have some input. Since you will be married soon and you will share household expenses and money what better time to try and get used to discussing money.
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@lilaclady (28226)
• Australia
29 May 07
I don't care if a person is engaged or even married I feel everyone has the right to spend a little on themselves, being engaged or married is just two people on a jouirney together they are still an individual and one should never give that up...