h.e.l.p!

Jesus - Carring the cross.
United States
May 29, 2007 3:47pm CST
I have a little problem my step-daught was calling mom and now she wants to call me by my name.I have been in her life for the last 5 years it is going on 6 years since I have been married to her dad.She looked at me and said that I have a mom and I want to see her.She(her birth mom)has only seen her once in the last 5 years since I have been with my husband and now I was told not to yell at when she do something wrong.H.E.L.P.
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@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
2 Jun 07
As long as her father and you have been honest with her from the beginning, which I assume you have, I would guess that she is acting out to establish her identity. She is likely just lashing out because she knows that she has a birth mother out there, and feels the need to know more about her. My daughter never new her father since we split when she was a baby and he moved out of state shortly afterwards. Suddenly when she was fourteen, she went off on me about how she missed her dad. She never new her father so it was not him that she really missed, it was the idea of knowing him that she really missed.
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@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I can understand that one. My younger children have not seen their father in several years even though he lives in the same town. We have a visitation agreement, but only bothered to see them the first couple of times, then never again. The kids do not mind, but if they want to see him when they get older, I will not stop them. I did not stop my daughter either. I called her father up to discuss it with him, but would not send her to from Michigan to Florida alone to see him at that age. She did make the trip a couple of years later though.
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• United States
21 Jun 07
Now that she knows that her mom told her that she wanted to see her and we set up a time for her to see her and she (her mom) never showed up.That hurt her and then she stated to call me mom again.She asked me why her mom don't love her.I told her that she do love her.I don't know what to say after that.
• United States
5 Jun 07
We never told her that she can't see her.Her mom chooses not to see her.I have told her that I will set it up for her to see her she lives down the street from me and she still only seen her daughter once sice I have been with my husband.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
29 May 07
Thats No Problem! This is an intelligent Child, you need to count your Blessings! Just be Thankful, shes not retarded! She bright enough to realise that you are not her biological Mother. Good for her, Now its up to you recognise this, and allow her to choose a Name she wants to call You. And she wants to see her real Mom! Of course she does! For God's Sake, let the Child meet her Mom. How would you feel if you were in Her shoes? And something else you should remember.....The kids you Raise today.....will pick out your Nursing Home in the Future! In Other words, "What goes Around, Comes Around!"
• United States
30 May 07
I know that at time it do hurt since I have been thier since she was five years old and I love the same as if she was like my own child I have two of her half brother and sister.How do you tell young kid that I am not birth mom and that I am the step-mom?
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• United States
5 Jun 07
Yes my kids all have the same dad.I was in my stepdaughter live ever since she was five years old I had always told her that she do have a birth mom and I don't want to take her place.However I still want her to respect me.
• United States
8 Jul 07
I want to thank you for you kind words and I want to say that things are a little bit better now.She is now sad because her mom promised to come to my house to see her and she never showed up.Now she said why do her mom don't love her and I don't know how to responed to that.I told her that she do love her and that her mom is just going through some things.