Ugly fat jokes
By cdparazo
@cdparazo (5765)
Philippines
May 30, 2007 5:19am CST
I used to receive or be an object of fat jokes while I was still growing up. My parents even did some jokes about my being fat. I used to feel angry when people would make a joke out of me. But what really hurt me was the jokes made by my father. Up until now, I still don't what he must be thinking every time he makes a joke out of my being overweight. I have come actually to the point that I don't care what others say because I have come to accept myself. However, the jokes that my father still makes even up to now really do hurt me to the raw. My father has always been supportive and he is wonderful with his grandchildren but there are times that he makes a joke about my weight and how I look like that it really hurt me though I don't really show it and acts as if I am not bothered by his remarks or jokes. One time I told him that he should not make such remarks and he told me that it was just nothing and it's just a joke and if I can't take it, then I should loose some weight. Though he very rarely say jokes along that line, but I can't help but remember it every time I see my 5-year old niece being insecure already with her weight. I keep telling her that she is beautiful but she still felt insecure because she is being told that she is fat, when in fact she is not.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
30 May 07
He would say things such as; that I look like number zero or a bouncing ball especially when I dance. There are times that I trip and he would say jokingly that my feet cannot hold me anymore because I'm too heavy. Or that the floor might give way because I am again too heavy or that I won't sink because I have a built-in life jacket around me which is what he calls my those excess fats. I guess maybe he is just worried.
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
31 May 07
i admire you for being bold enough to share me and thank you for that. Parents are like that, they love you to much that they care for your health and if you accept it positively everything will be fine.
Just remember, he loves you always,and say thank you dad all the time.
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@ibsnet (1268)
• India
2 Jun 07
I faced same situations because I am also a just fatty in nature but at times in student life I got much more fatty. And there were friends who literally joked with my figure and I got too angry and sometimes also have a fight on this matter. But then I realised being angry on their jokes is not a good answer. I started joking them much more now and then as they were thin and it worked. Those friends gradually stopped joking me. And of course I got some regular exercise to reduce the fat and it also helped to kill the fat. So from this incident I realised if someone jokes to your heart you just joke something to them at their heart and this will neutralise, may be this can help you.
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
31 May 07
I understand this. My dad use to do the same thing to me untill he found out how upset it made me. He use to say seem really mean stuff like I was as big as the side of the house. he also did it in front of buys when i was a teenager to embaress me. i guess he thought he was being cute he even made a remark about one of my friends getting to be as big as I am. I felt like saying well thanks alot dad.
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
2 Jun 07
I can imagine how you feel cdparazo. It's tough when someone, specially if he or she is close to you like your dad, makes jokes about something that hurts. Perhaps you should be clearer about it with him and tell him : dad you're hurting me, no matter if i need to lose weight or not, but stop it!
You said he's a great man and he loves and supports you, so he should understand.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
I know that he would but I never got to tell him so until I became independent. Thinking about it now, I realized that I did't want to be disrespectful and gosh! I don't think that I had my reasoning straight then. It appears lame to me now. I learned that a lot of hurt could have been prevented if I had been straight with him also. Thanks very much for responding and for your understanding words.
@beaniegdi (1963)
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30 May 07
I am sorry you have been treated like this because of your weight. It sounds like your dad is actually worried about you but doesn't knwow how to express that properly. That is why he covers his remarks by disguising them as jokes. I am sure he loves you as you are but would like for your sake if you oould be slimmer. He probably thinks you would be happier and healthier if you lost some weight but men do find it hard to talk about such things which is why they make jokes about things. We all want what is best for our children and that includes good health and personal happiness, I am sure this is what your father wants for you.
It is not as hard as you think to lose weight if you ever decided to do that. Just try everyday to walk 10,000 steps, it might take a bit of working up to if you are not used to walking far. Howver you will be suprised how quickly you will be able to achieve this and you will soon get fitter and healthier and you will lose weight doing it. You could maybe take your niece on some little walks as well and save her some future heartache.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
30 May 07
I have actually never doubted that my father loves me very much. That is why it hurts because I don't understand why he makes such small yet hurtful remarks. I guess you could be right that he is worried about me and my health. There are times that he just doesn't cook us anything because we are getting fat already. LOL! I have actually started losing weight slowly and I am glad that I am getting the weight that I am targeting. I know deep in my heart that my father is not being malicious or doesn't have any intention to hurt me whenever he says such things. Maybe you really are right, he is just concerned and doesn't know how to express it. Thank your very much for your kind words and enlightening comments. I does make me feel better.





