When is the best time for a child to sleep alone?

@youless (99361)
Guangzhou, China
May 30, 2007 8:35am CST
I am wondering when it's the best time for a child to sleep alone. My son is nearly 3 years old, but he doesn't sleep by himself yet. I guess maybe it'll take few years for him to sleep alone. Please share your views, thanks.
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9 responses
• India
1 Jun 07
I think at the age of 16 they should go to sleep separately.At this age the get some individuality and some personality which requiers some personal space.Thanks.
@youless (99361)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Jun 07
16 years old seems a little bit late to sleep alone.
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• India
1 Jun 07
Ya I know this is some late or you western guys.But this is true time or us,like our country here anyone may think about personally.Thanks.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
1 Jun 07
Well, He feels secure being in bd with you. It possibly makes his night better. I would suggest getting a toddler bed if he can still fit in one and put it right beside the bed that way you can touch him while he is going to sleep to let him know your there and if he gets scared then your right there. We have had to deal with this with my little sister and this is what we have done and it worked great for us. The main thing is to get him out of the main bed and into a toddler bed then after awhile he sees that it is ok to be in a differnet bed. It still make take a little while after that to get him out of the room though. Well good luck in however you venture to do this deed..
@youless (99361)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Jun 07
Thanks for your reply. I will try it.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
12 Jun 07
That is great! I hope it works for you as it has worked for us. I hope he likes it to, the more he likes the bed the more easier the transfer will be. Well, good luck, I hope all goes well.
@mada9898 (193)
• United States
1 Jun 07
Well, I am not sure how can you cure this problem. My little girl is 2 years old and she has aways slept in her own room from day one. We have heard of children not sleeping by themselves and we didnt want that. I am sorry you have such a dilema. Good luck!!!
@youless (99361)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Jun 07
Yes, I know. I already realize that it's like a conflict. I will try to do it more tenderly.
@jackwa (28)
31 May 07
my son started sleeping on his own when he was 6 months. it is gong to be hard for you to get your child to sleep on his own as he has slept with spmeone for so long, it is going to be a long and hard process but stick with it x
@youless (99361)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Jun 07
Thanks for your response.
@al87exa (720)
• Romania
31 May 07
I think that a childe must to have his own bad all the time, even saty in same room with mother, he must to be educated to sleep alone...of course that he must to be close with his mother, but same time need to have his privacy too.
@youless (99361)
• Guangzhou, China
31 May 07
You are right, thanks for your comment.
• United States
31 May 07
My little kid is three years old too, and occasionally has sleeping issues. She has her own room and her own bed. Every child is different, so what works for me, may not work for you. You're the mom. And, you will know your child better than anyone else. Do what feels right for your child. Don't let anyone bully you into making him do something he's not ready to do. Since I have a three year old, I can tell you the one thing that bothers her the most, is sudden change. My best advice is to slowly introduce the idea of him sleeping in his own room. Refer to him as "a big boy" and constantly remind him that "big boys sleep in their own room." Make it a game. Let him practice getting ready for bed, and even dressing himself. He could get in bed, and show you how he would sleep. Then you would leave the room and call out to him, "Mommy's here! I'm just down the hall." Just some idea starters. I'm sure you could come up with some things on your own. These games will prepare him emotionally for the real thing. Whenever he is watching his favorite TV shows, like Elmo, let him know that "Elmo sleeps in his own room, without Mommy and Daddy." This is a technique that worked for me when I was potty training my little one. I would tell her that Big Bird uses the comode and doesn't wear diapers. She liked knowing that others had done the same thing. If you think that now is the time for him to sleep in his own bed, then set up his room. Let him help you pick out the paint color and even decorate the room. If he's personally invested in the way the room looks he'll want to "live" there. Just ease into it gradually. Maybe he could take afternoon naps in the room initially. And, then sleep in the room every other night. At least until he got used to it. After awhile you'll find that he insists on sleeping in his own bed every night. Use constant reassurance to let him know that you are still there for him, even if you'r not in the same room. Some kids need a night light, so keep that in mind too. Like I said before, do what feels right for your child. And, you can't go wrong! Best of luck.
@youless (99361)
• Guangzhou, China
31 May 07
I really appreciate your methods, as it'll be so tough for children to accept it. As I prefer to use some tender way than tough way. I don't want to hurt his feelings when I tell him to do something new for him.
@limcyjain (3523)
• India
30 May 07
I think it is the envournment we are giving to our child which would decide how soon the child would start sleeping alone. My daugher is eight years old and has seperate room for herself but wont sleep there and we have now a sofa bed where she prefers to sleep instead of sleeping in her room. We have been trying hard to make her sleep in her room but have not succeeded yet. There are families who from the very beginning make children sleep seperately.
@youless (99361)
• Guangzhou, China
31 May 07
Thanks for your reply.
30 May 07
Hi there, You need to put your son in his own room and bed now!!!!!!!!!!! The reason i say this is because my 3 year old was a nightmare when trying to get her in her own room cause she was so used to sleeping in my room, I went through hell and back she screamed the house down woke everybody up but it had to be done it took a while a long while before she gave in now i dont have a problem she will go to bed ok, Trust me do it and do it now,or your be sorry!
@youless (99361)
• Guangzhou, China
31 May 07
It seems it'll be a big struggle.
@pajmaz (134)
• United States
30 May 07
Its time. My kids went from bassinet to their own rooms. I think hes old enough to sleep alone. It will probably be a big battle but remember to be consistant. By the second or third day he should be fine. Don't give in once you start. It will probably be worse on you than him.
@youless (99361)
• Guangzhou, China
31 May 07
Thanks for your response, I will try it.