Favortism between children
By sbeauty
@sbeauty (5865)
United States
6 responses
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I admire you. A lot of people have a very hard time doing this. I had a little boy in my class who was from a yours, mine, and ours family. As the oldest, he was the scapegoat, and mom took out her frustrations on him. I felt so sorry for him. I had to turn my suspicions over to social services, and, of course, the mother immediately pulled him out of the school.
@isasice (2015)
• Iceland
8 Nov 06
I only have one child but I would like to think that if I had more I would not prefer one over the other. However I have to admt that when it comes to nieces and nephews and their children, I do have favourites. I try not to let it be too obvious.
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@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
8 Nov 06
You can see, though, with your neices and nephews that it's easy to have favorites. It's harder not to show it. My mother has blatantly favored my brother all of his life. When he was born, I ceased to exist for her except as someone to put down, complain about, and ignore. She always worked out the best of everything for him, but I had to make my own way. I try to make excuses to her because she had a pretty dysfunctional childhood and teen years, but she still does things today, like giving my brother ALL of the family heirlooms although he doesn't have children to pass them to, and I do.
@shellyrios (1212)
• United States
7 Nov 06
No, I treat both my boys the same way. One does not get punished more than the other, they both share the same consequences and get equal amount of gifts, presents, clothing, etc. Everything, is equal, I do not believe in that. The only thing that is different is my older son is allowed to watch certain TV shows or movies that my younger son is still too young to watch. That's it, but it's minor in my opinion.
Although, they do possess unique abilities that I take pride in and convey to both of them. I'm with the younger one more because the older son is always out with his friends, but we all have dinner together, we talk about each other's day, and we never exclude either one in anything, unless they choose not to do it.....
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@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
8 Nov 06
Good for you. You're the kind of mother everyone should have, and I tried to do the same for my kids. In fact, even though they're grown, I still try and not favor one over the other. The problem has come in because my daughter is a very difficult person to be around. She is very bossy, very extravagent, and very apt to jump my case about most anything. My son, on the other hand, is very laid back, has a million friends, likes to do the things I like to do, etc. I realize I prefer to do things with my son, but I'd feel the same way about two people I didn't even know if they behaved in these ways.
@usmcsgtwife (4997)
• United States
7 Nov 06
I like to think I don;t between my kids... I know I do between my own 2 kids and my stepson.. I seem to favor my kids more, and I donlt mean to but I do. Maybe because he is phycially not my own child
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@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
8 Nov 06
It's hard when you have stepchildren. I'm beginning to think it's only natural to favor your own children. Is your stepson's mother still in the picture. I always figure that if she is, then your stepchild doesn't need as much mothering as your own children do, because he has a mother of his own. It only gets worse as the stepchild gets older and tries to play his dad against you. I've been through it, and knowing what I know now, I'm not so sure I'd do it again. Good luck!
@firemansgirl001 (916)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I would hope that I wouldnt but I know that all parents do. It is the same as favoring one friend over another. Kids are no different. I was never close to my mom,but really close to my dad. The opposite was with my sis and my mom, they are close.
I try not to let any of the kids walk over me, but I do know that I do favor 2 over the other 2. They are step kids, and its just not the same
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@juicemilk (2283)
• Australia
7 Nov 06
I don't have any children, but I'm pretty sure I was my parent's favourite :)
hehehe just kidding, but I am the youngest and the only girl, so I was a little bit more spolit than my brothers
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@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
8 Nov 06
It's hard not to spoil a little girl, even if she doesn't follow brothers. There are so many cute, cute things out there to buy for girls. All the little pink, ruffly stuff, at least until they get old enough to refuse to wear it. Thanks for commenting.
