WWYD just looking for a little advise
By kakuemmom
@kakuemmom (859)
Canada
June 1, 2007 8:20am CST
Ok I have a little problem that I am hoping someone here can help with. I have a 4 year old and she is so shy and quiet most of the time and tries hard to please all. She came home from school yesterday a little upset and the teacher had said that it was a hard day for her. She has not had to bad of a time at school since maybe the first month and its been great since. Anyway she was quiet all through supper and right up until bed and she told her dad that 2 boys in her class did not think her new haircut was beautiful and she was ugly and she should pull down her pants and they would still be her friend. I asked her why she did it and she said she didn't want to hurt their feelings. My first reaction was WHAT!!! Then I calmed down and thought they are only 4 and I am sure is just curiosity. BUT i know this can't happen again Emma knows now she should not do that and if it happens again she should tell the teacher. What i want to know is do i go to the parents I do know one of them and she is always getting complaints against her son cause he is very hyper. Or just go to the teacher and let her take care of it. What concerns me most is that for about 2 weeks Emma has not wanted to go to school and cries when i leave and I don't know why.
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3 responses
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
1 Jun 07
I would definitely go to the teacher and also the principal. I would ask them to take care of this situation, but I would also request that the parents of these boys be told. They need to explain to their boys that this is inappropriate. Reassure to your daughter that things will be fine and with school almost over hopefully it will go away soon.
@kakuemmom (859)
• Canada
1 Jun 07
Yeah good idea my only concern is making this into a huge situation for her I want it handled quietly so as not to make her feel worse than she already does.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
1 Jun 07
If you talk to the teacher and principal, I think that they would be discrete regarding this. Anyways, where was the teacher when this happened? If I was the parent of the boys, I would want to know that they did this.
@explorations (1712)
• United States
1 Jun 07
I've gone through situations similar to this (I'm a mother of a five, six and seven year old.) over the past couple of years. What's worked best for me is to keep it all to parent and teacher conferences. Whenever parents spoke directly to other parents, only bad things happened and the parents would become offended by the other's remarks or complaints. However, when I went directly to the teacher and asked her to meet with just me and handle the situation - it was resolved diplomatically.
@Blazing15 (333)
• United States
1 Jun 07
I would say only go to the teacher. You dont' want things to get worse by going to the parent and she accussing your daughter and saying that your daughter started it. Hopefully the teacher will sit down with all of the children involved and talk to them and tell them this will not be tolereated.
