what is the best way to win a girl's heart?

I Wish I'll Win... - win
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@ronreyes (4724)
Philippines
June 1, 2007 9:23am CST
OK... so I like this girl so much... I saw her in my school. I want to court her! But the problem is... I'M NERD! Girls don't like nerds right!? Besides me being NERD, I'm also a WEIRDO! I'm afraid she won't like me and I'm also sure that she also have a lot of suitors since she's very cute and smart too! The first time I saw her, I unknowingly said to myself "HOLY SH*T SHE'S CUTE!" Heehee... sorry about that but that's what I really said! I mean, she's absolutely gorgeous! She blows me away... LOL! CALLING ALL GIRLS OF MYLOT... (Heehee) Please, please, please... tell me what am I supposed to do! and please tell me what you think of nerd guys like me. AND CALLING ALL GUYS OF MYLOT WHO ARE EXPERT IN COURTING... Please, please, please... give me some advice. Thank You! :) - Ron Reyes www.ronreyes.co.nr
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185 responses
• United States
1 Jun 07
Hmm for me i dont really like Nerd people but i like boy which have a good attitude, so for me eventhough you are nerd as long as you have that attitude, of course I will fall for them..as long as that nerd know whats best for that girl and have a self confident about what you are saying to that girl..just be yourself and dont be afraid to tell her what you feel.
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Well... I can say I have a good attitude. :)
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• Malaysia
2 Jun 07
haha... so confident that you are very good attitude? Since u so confident u r nice guy... then just go ahead... i will suport you !!! Maybe you affraid your look not so hamsome but you are kind people i think not the problem for you to chase that girl hehe
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
Heehee! :)
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1 Jun 07
I think that girls change as they get older. When they are at school they like the cute good looking guys who are good at sports, but as they get older they relaise that they need the security of someone who has a good job so go for more nerdy types, so don't lose hope!
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• Philippines
3 Jun 07
just dont lose hope...f u think u have what it takes.....go on!!!!!!!
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
ok! :)
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
But what if I don't see her again when we get older? LOL! :)
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@magikrose (5429)
• United States
1 Jun 07
you would be surprised as to how many girls like nerds. I am married to a guy who was a nerd in high school. I know this because we went to school together and had classes together. We did date in school for a little while. The most important thing for you to do is be yourself. I know it is easier said than done but if you try acting like someone else she will see right through you. Always be polite no matter what happins.
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Thanks for the advice! :)
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@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Also, stop putting yourself down. Confidence is also having a good opinion about yourself. I don't mean to go to the opposite extreme of how you think now, just be yourself as magikrose said and soon enough this girl or some other worthy girl will notice you. Chin up...good luck. :-)
@krebstar5 (1266)
• United States
1 Jun 07
There is no simple formula to winning a girl's heart. I think it in the end it just depends on how much you have in common and how well you get along with each other. I would start by thinking about what you like about this girl. Then you can use that to identify similiar interests and possibly come up with a way to talk to her. For example, when my boyfriend and I met, he found out from my sister that I like anime. This way it wasn't weird when he approached me because it seemed like he was just asking me about my taste in anime. Then we started talking about the shows we liked and didn't like and ended up talking to each other for the entire party. He took the time to find out what I liked and I was really pleased by that. Perhaps there is something that you and this girl have in common that you can talk about. Also, if she is really smart, maybe you can begin by talking about some school related stuff...assuming you share some of the same classes. I do have to warn you that I am a bit of a nerd myself, so we found that we both liked video games, comic books, and reading pretty fast. In fact, I was looking for someone who also liked those things so my boyfriend was really excited to find that out about me because his prior girlfriends were not really into that stuff. On a more general note, girls really like it when guys listen to them and take the time to learn about them. If she really is a nice person, she won't judge you right away. Just be open and honest. In fact, you might even impress her with some of your more "nerdy" accomplishments. Good luck and I hope everything works out.
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@krebstar5 (1266)
• United States
1 Jun 07
I would most certainly call your website an accomplishment. ^_^
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Oh gee thanks! :)
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Hey that's a great idea! Thanks for sharing this one! And NO! I have no "NERDY ACCOMPLISHMENTS" yet! HAHAHA! LOL! :)
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@archer1811 (1098)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Hi ronreyes! if you're really serious to that girl then go court her but act as a normal one..hahaha.. well for me all i want for a guy is with a good sense of humor and of course gentleman, even if sometimes a bit nerd.. why dont you start changing your attitude? go and court her just behave when she's around..hahaha...
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
lol! nerds are behave! hahaha! :)
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• United States
1 Jun 07
Well, don't be too excited but I have it on good authority that weirdo nerds can pullo cute females. You just have to use your god given geekiness to win her over with that special style and flair. Use common sense though :)
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@xionous (439)
• Belgium
2 Jun 07
yah silvernutbar is right....and i wonder why girls do that. i do have 2 really good looking friend of mine one of them even looks exactly like aston kutcher! its sad that girls never liked them! both of them had very few girls and they always had to go hunting for girls! girls never came hunting for them!! i wonder girls are dumb or what! these days i see almost every nerd boys having a very beautiful/cute girl friend and good looking boys having ugly gf's! and i always dumbfound myself!
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Given geekiness? I don't know what that means! I mean, like what kind of geekiness? :)
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
You're cute xionous! LOL! :)
• United States
1 Jun 07
This is not what you are going to want to hear, but it is true. You have to find the confidence and comfort in yourself, your own self-worth before any one else will see it. If you are happy with who you are: nerd, weirdo, etc. and see the positives in it, then it will be a lot easier to convince HER of your worth and how awesome you are. Guys who are confident DO get more girls. AS far as finding and being comfortable with your true self within, well it's different for each person. The journey to self discovery is often fraught with heartbreak and other bad stuff. You just gotta start looking for the good within. Start talking to the girl, the worst that can happen is she ignores you. And honestly if she did that, would you really want to hang out with someone who treated other folks that way regardless of how cute she might be?
• United States
19 Aug 07
Soooo, what's happened? Is there any progress? Give us an update!
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Hey good point! Thanks! :)
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
1 Jun 07
well first ya have to talk to her. But do be yourself nothing false! Dont lie to her If she isnt stuck on herself she will want to become friends. Got to be friends first then maybe later make a move but not till you are good friends. If she slufs you off she isnt worth your time. A person has to look to the innerself and person no matter that you are a nerd or weird! Personnality has all to do with it. If you are really out going, friendly to all and thinigs like that this make a cool persona
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
2 Jun 07
your very welcome I hope it helps you
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
Thanks! :)
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Nice response! :)
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
1 Jun 07
I'm sure she would like a rose or a carnation send here one or give her one. I am always happy when a man sends me one.
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
Cool! :)
@patootie (3592)
1 Jun 07
For once I shall have to keep this reply short .. ... ronreyes I haven't a clue what makes women tick .. and I am a woman .. honestly, I find it impossible to understand what a woman wants these days hhaha I can tell you what a man would have to do to get a chance with me though ... Just ASK !! hehehehhe
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@patootie (3592)
1 Jun 07
Giggles .. sorry I omitted a word .. should have been 'just ask me' ... meaning .. I'll fall for anyone brave enough to actually ask me out .. probably, perhaps .. well maybe .. hahahhahaa
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
HAHA LOL! Thanks for clarifying! :)
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
OK! Now I ask... What is it? LOL! :)
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@panicdude (456)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
oh, come on! i don't think that you're a nerd or a weirdo. i think that the most appropriate term for you would be "torpe". to those who don't know what torpe means it's a guy who don't really know what moves to make to court a girl... but it's way better than being "presko" -- a guy who is way too aggressive. and i think that it's quite normal to be torpe. a lot of guys are like that especially if the girl that they intend to court is too intimidating. maybe you are just intimidated with how many guys she attracts. but keep in mind too that she's a person that you can approach, i think. just think of ways to approach the girl and talk of things that is interesting to the both of you.
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• Philippines
1 Jun 07
and yes, i agree with aprilgrl. just be yourself. =]
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• Philippines
1 Jun 07
hey, no problem! just don't be too hard on yourself, ok?
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Cool response! :)
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
1 Jun 07
My advice is just to be yourself. First talk to her and get to know her better and before you know it ...you will be asking her out. Always be yourself.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
1 Jun 07
yup. that's the right start for it. be yourself. that's important. get to know each other before getting into the higher level.
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Both of you are right! Heehee! :)
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• Nigeria
1 Jun 07
well i think you should be courageous enough to go ahead and met her. A girl notices a mans' courage when they get to meet and can tell if he's fretting or not. What i think you should do is that you should have a positive outlook about yourself, try look good always cause you might never know when next you guys would meet, you should also try and plan everything to the end that is you envisaged what you would tell her when you meet her, what you think she would say and do, how she would react and respond, etc. Then also study her and learn about what she likes or dislikes, her tastes and her male preference, does she like tall guys or short guys, etc
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
Nice advice! :)
• United States
1 Jun 07
The funny thing is, I love nerds, and geeks, i dont know why but i do... I have a few very close friends that are nerds, and i love thier company. (im not either). Have you talked to her? does she know anything about you? the first step in any relationship whether it be a friendship or a relationship is communication. Even if she dont want a relationship, maybe you can get a good relationship that maybe weill be more down the road. I personally know this guy, ( he is a friend of my fathers) who is a complete nerd, he kinda reminds me of bill gates with his looks, he has a beautiful wife, and i mean a knock out, she could be a model. You never know what could happen.
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
lol! :)
• China
1 Jun 07
hehe...I think only one word is OK----ROMANTIC
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
That's two words! LOL! :)
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@ryanphil01 (4182)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Look at the mirror and smile. Then remember that nobody is perfect. Even the most confident people have insecurities. At some point in any of our lives, we may feel we lack something. That is reality. Learn that life is full of bumps down the road. Whether you are a nerd or not, be thankful for who you are and what you have. Always think positive that can you do it...you can win a girl's heart. Experience taught me that if you want to get the 'yes' answer from the girl you admire, you have to be honest or true to yourself. Never lie about your good intentions to her. Be sure the girl is not taken anymore otherwise I take no responsibility if her boyfriend comes to beat you up.LOL. Make sure you have a single girl in your mind that you'd like to go out with. Dating several girls would be fun but that's just hurting your chances for success. When you talk to her be natural, just be yourself. Lastly, be a gentleman. Doing simple things like offering her a seat, opening doors, greeting her with kind words is always going to be a plus for you. As the day progresses, start sending her flowers and chocolates, trademark of every men expressing their love to a girl or a woman.
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
Nice! :)
@Drakorus (71)
• United States
1 Jun 07
It comes down to being a person that people can count on for things, one of the biggest issues is, timing, even if you're the best guy in the world. If you missed your chance then you probably won't get it again.
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
True! :)
@2babita (1072)
• India
1 Jun 07
Girls now they are wat any men want to count for.Firstly try to look smart&cool not Mr.Perfect but Mr.Cool.Dont feel nervous but try maintain a cool and care a damn attitude,as if you dont feel if she is present or not.Try to be very calm&bear a magnetic attitude so that she is attracted towards you,dont let her feel that you are mad after her.And please dont carry the usual symbols of proposals like flowers or chocolate.First win her as your friend and then your sweetheart.Best Of Luck!!
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Thanks! :)
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@tmlnmr (1850)
• Canada
1 Jun 07
Hey Ron, just went to your website and man am I glad I did! I took a look at your pics so so cute and looked at the vids, all I can say is awesome! I was going to ask if you made the songs up yourself or if they were others songs until I read! LOL. Anyway, you have everything you will need to attract this girl to you. The keyboard was how my husband sealed the deal with me, he used to play for hours while on the phone with me. I loved that watching your video just brought back those days, I wish he would play more now but he is busy and his keyboard gets left alone often. I wish I was that girl you want to court, she is very lucky! Good luck!
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
First of all... THANK YOU for visiting my website. Some of my videos were just an interpretation of some songs from other artist played through keyboards and some were my own compositions. Do you think music can make girls fall in love with me? Heehee LOL! :)
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• Mauritius
1 Jun 07
hey man it's sad to think you tell yourself a nerd because of a girl...life is full of wonders man.
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
LOL! I'm not nerd because of her. I'm nerd in nature. HAHA! :)