please help spark my relationship..............

United States
June 1, 2007 4:51pm CST
Hubby and I havent been getting along for quite a while now. Since my second son was born and he just turned 2. Things are not looking good and i truley have been thinking divorce. I dont want to becuase I love him sooo much. But I know that neither one of us can go on not being happy anymore. Id really like to help our relationship....so we dont end up in a divorce. Does anybody have any suggestions? Thanks
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@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I think you 2 need to go out and have a long weekend- Just the 2 of you- no kids- ANy family that can take them for a weekend-- If you truly love him- work on it- Even seek out help- so many people throw out relationships these days- I hope you and your husband can work it out- I know kids seem to damper relationships at times- Less alone time- exhausted from taking care of the kids- to be intimate at night- You are also working nights right?? I think just some great bonding time- and togetherness might help you out! Good luck Jolene!
• United States
10 Jun 07
Thanks for your kind words. We are going to try and go camping together next week, Thanks
@melanie652 (2525)
• United States
2 Jun 07
Kids can be very stressful on a relationship. You were a wife before you were a parent and you were a woman before you became a wife. Get back to the basics. Do you ever go on dates? Make a date night once a week if you're not. Get a babysitter for the kids and go have some fun! Have you sat down and talked with you hubby to discuss how you're feeling? He may be feeling the same way you are? My hubby and I have been married 23 years. We've certainly had our ups and downs. Even through the worst of times, we managed to work through our problems. It was not easy. Marriage is work and you do have to work at your relationship. It is so worth it though. Best of luck to you. :)
• United States
2 Jun 07
Thanks. Great Idea! Hmmmm....now what could we do? Maby some of the same stuff we used to do beforre we had kids?
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• United States
2 Jun 07
You could do that or even something like dinner and movie. Doesn't have to be fancy or expensive. McDonald's and the dollar theatre?! The point is to have some fun yourselves and remember you're husband and wife, not just mom and dad. Now get out there and have some fun!!! LOL
@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
1 Jun 07
If u feel as if is is getting close to divorce, maybe it is time to go and have some marriage counsilling.. I also agree with the person before me. If u have a chanse.. get a babysitter and go out together or make a good and romantic dinner at home. Just spend some quality.time together. It is important to not forget about the love u have for eachother, even though i imagine that it is hard when u have small kids, since they demand so much attention =) It is a good thing that u are aware that there is a problem, coz if u are you have a better chanse of resolving it.
• United States
2 Jun 07
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• United States
2 Jun 07
lol./ Thanks for the help
@321633wy (1795)
• United States
11 Jun 07
First of all ,take a chance to sit down with him and write down what you like and don't like about him,and ask him to do the same thing about you. Once you get to know what you don't like about each other,please don't get so exited and argue about it,that does not help and would turn up wose. Calm down and listern to each other why you and him feel that way and from there learn to understand each other more to find out the better way to compromise.
@mummymo (23707)
9 Jun 07
oh sweety I am so sorry to hear that things are so rough for you at the moment. Having kids can put a huge strain on any relationship, never mind having two so young and still being quite young yourself! At least you know you love each other still, that is a really good starting point. When was the last time you and your hubby spent some time together without the kids? If you have someone you can trust to look after them you should maybe try getting away for a few days if possible or try setting aside an evening once a week where you can spend some time without the kids being the centre of attention and being able to rediscover the things you loved about each other in the first place! The main thing is that you are prepared to work at the relationship! Good Luck! xxxx
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
i think this would be a very tall order on your part, drop what you are doing now,stop tinkering with your pc and start a new life with your partner, i guess he needs your time with him and refrain from worrying a lot ,it can be sensed.have a certain number of hours on your pc and more time with him and start talking rather than taliking to us strangers,tell him all what you are telling us.make a productive life and start smiling whatever your situation is,live a life,my friend.money isn't everything.
@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
2 Jun 07
I am happily single. But try getting some alone time together. Marriage counseling or if you belong to a church, seek out the pastor of the church for some guidance. I think all relationships goes through some tough times, and it takes a lot of work to keep it going strong, and sometimes when you have little one's all your energy is spent on them, and not enough time for each other.
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
1 Jun 07
I am divorced but there is a lot of reasons for that All I can suggest is sit down and talk it out everything See if you both still want the Marriage, see what is bothering the other and hope you can repair it I hope it all works out for you
@Calais (10899)
• Australia
1 Jun 07
Maybe try and have some time together, just the two of you. Organise the kids and go away for the weekend or overnight.