Have you told your family when you want them to pull the plug?

Yes, we have talked both to each other and our grown children about exactly how much medical care we want. We have also discussed with them that we wish to be cremated. Our 19 grandson will be coming to live with us soon, and we will make sure he also knows exactly what we want done.

It’s very important for your family to know your wishes- and to have them in writing- Look at the Terry Shiavo case- Her husband swore she said to pull the plug- He had to fight long and hard for this- I haven’t yet- I need to make up a will and let my family know- I know my brother has this all set- among other things- like how long to wait before being declared killed in action- if coming up missing- He is in Iraq- You wouldn’t believe the things he told me- and had to write up- : ( what a sad thing to do- I think once you have children you should create a will.

i would rather my family pull the plug than live in a vegetable state,i have told my family that and they agree that they would and i have to do the same for them if they are in the same state.

My husband and I have spoken about this before. Neither of us would ever want to be a human vegetable and we both agreed that the plug would be pulled if the other was to become a vegetable.

i told my hubby it's something we REALLY SHOULD discuss, he just hates to think about it, but you really have to. especially now being parents, we really should get a will together, especially concerning our son, who will care for him if we die etc. but it's hard to sit and do. i personally haven't even thought of what i would want...i think i would WANT them to pull the plug. let me go to my Creator and i will see them all later! i would want to communicate, so if i was pure veggie, i don't know. that's difficult to consider! all my parents have told me is that they want to be cremated...but nothing else, such as if they were in the hospital in a coma and such. i'm sure it's all in their will, so if i had to make the choice, say one or the other wasn't around or sick as well and wasn't available to make the choice, i could have it in writing. but my hubby has the say right, not my parents if I was in a coma. i still would want to let everyone know my intentions though, but i would definitely get it into writing so there's no confusion!

If you make the decision to pull the plug it needs to be in a legal document done with an attorney. My dad several years ago made me promise not let him be a vegatable. When the time came to honor that promise the doctors refused because there was no legal document he signed making it clear it was his intention. In fact for whatever reasons he didn't even share this with my mother. He expected me to be the one to make sure his will was done. My mother knew what I said was his wish and the doctors still refused. God intervened and his organs started shutting down. That's when they pulled the plug. Had there been a legal document he had done with an attorney he would not have suffered so long.

At the moment my brothers know if that happens there not to pull the plug (the way i lived my life i'm going to hell and i'm in no rush to get there..lol) if i have my own family )wife and kids) when it happens i think i would leave it up to them but i would ask that they do it so as not to see me in that way and be able to get on with there life

My husband and I have talked about it, and we both have living wills. We've also discussed it with both my little sister, and his sister, because if we die together, they are the ones in charge. We've gone over all the details. We've assigned a guardian to our son of course, and even the dogs and the cat. Everyone knows who is in charge of who. The sister who would become the baby's guardian, isn't the one who is the guardian of his money, to just keep everyone from calling her out on any money that was spent that they didn't think was necessary. We've talked to the sister who would be in charge about how we want the baby taken care of. We don't want to leave any questions in anyone's minds. And if we die together, we want Elliott to have a transition that is as smooth as possible, with no fighting over him or money or anything. If we die individually, we each know what the other one wants.

I have told my husband and daughter what to do, if I am not going to have a good quality of life, please, please let me go and do not let me suffer, I watched my mother suffer for over a month, before the plug was pulled on her, that was a hard thing for a nine year old to watch. So, my decision is made, no chance for recovery, no life support.

For Sure!!! We have discussed it at length..we are all organ donors in our family and that is our #1 wish..but neither my husband or myself want to be left on artificial life support. We had a chance to first address this before my husband and son's liver transplant surgeries...we all agreed that quality of life is much more important than quantity!!! We have signed directives in case something happens to us both and the other can't express the decisions. I think everyone should consider this early in life...it takes away alot of stress from the family left behind when they know what your wishes are...it's like organ donation...that should definitely be discussed and people should research the subject so they aren't making decisions based on myths and untruths!!!

My family is well aware of how I feel about having the plug pulled and none of them agrees with me...of course. I have papers from my doctor that they are supposed to sign and have been trying for years to get their signatures but I'm getting nowhere. It's getting to the point where I told them I will leave it in the hands of a stranger if I have to. I certainly don't want to experience what so many people have all because my family can't bear to let me go. I don't want to put them through that.