Surrogate mother

I personally don't like this idea, ellie26! Following are my reasons: 1. Technically a so called "biological mother" is only a half mother even biologically. Donating an egg only makes a fertilized egg, not a child. Technically a child is only made after 6 months of pregnancy, which comes about by the nutrition provided by the blood of the mother who is carrying the baby inside her womb. I don't think that this biological mother can and will ever develop that strong bond with the child as she would have by not only donating an egg but also by carrying a child. Psychological theory suggests that we love most for whom we sacrifice most. Since she is not going through all those problems of pregnancy and is not sacrificing her comfort, she probably can't love to that extent which a full fledged mother can. 2. Motherhood is a priceless and a dedicated job. A surrogate mother is doing it for money and financial benefit, not for the love of child, in first place. I do believe that intentions do play a role in psychological, moral and ethical development and completion of a child. While all these elements are absent at start, this mother will develop a bond with the child in her womb, even though it's not her own child. For me, she does has her own claim towards the child as she has sacrificed her comfort for this child. Taking the child away from her will make her feel sick. I don't believe that she can emotionally detach herself fully from the child. So there is an ethical and emotional problem for the surrogate mother too. 3. As a father, I'll feel affection for the mother of my child as I do for my own wife. A father will consider her role in bringing about his child, which may create emotional feelings for the surrogate mother in the father. He may also think that she has probably more right to the child than her own legal wife. In the case of father too, I don't believe that he can fully detach himself from the surrogate mother who has provided nutrition to his child through her blood. In turn, these emotional feelings may make him attracted towards the surrogate mother and may create emotional problems between a husband and a wife. 4. I consider it as a new and more sophisticated form of slavery. One may say that a surrogate mother is doing this with her own free will but if you have studied the history of slavery then you must be knowing that many slaves were so mindless in following their masters and accepting their state that not only they themselves served but happily provided their sons to serve their masters for petty benefits. I see it even today in many third world countries. So, to me it is another form of slavery and that too for such a beautiful relationship as mother and child. For all these reasons, I don't think it is morally, ethically, psychologically, emotionally and socially beneficial for anyone. You have every right to disagree with me, though:-)

For me Surrogated mothers are like angels( I am afraid to compare them to mother mary, as they deliver without physical contacts. If I was a father of surrogated mothers baby, I would have married her with the consent of my first wife. If I was a surrogated child, I would have loved my surrogated mother more than my fathers wife.

As a father/husband, I would never have considered a surrogate mother. I feel my wife would not have achieved as close a bond, and on the other hand, you have a different woman having a special bond with a child which isn't even hers. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying I'm against surrogacy, but it isn't and wasn't ever an option for my wife and I. I love the fact that a child produced by the love of my wife and I also had that bond with my wife through the months of pregnancy! As an extra thought, I just wonder whether the surrogate mother ever finds it hard to break that bond after birth?!