leaving a husband
By mrsrobin
@mrsrobin (1)
United States
October 23, 2006 10:48am CST
my husband is verbally abusive and i want out but i'm scared.I have a daughter who doesn't want to be with him either.I need help with everything.I have no family or friends.It's kind of like the movie sleeping with the enemy.But he has never hit me just with words.I will need a car,a place to live,new identiys for both me and my daughter and a job that pays good so I know the bills will get paid with no problem.I have never been on my own so this is going to be so hard.Can someone give me a name or something of who can help me with all this.I may even have to leave the state because he will be in a rage when i do this.
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5 responses
@Weasel_Sponge (1069)
• Canada
23 Oct 06
Make a date that you are going to leave. In a place (inside or outside the home) prepare a "package" or bag that you can take with you when you leave that includes a little cash (if you can do so without him discovering it) and clothing, personal items, medications, and personal documents you may need. You only need enough for a few days-just to get you by. If you decide to go to a shelter (which I would recommend), be sure to take a photo of your husband so others can be "on alert", and don't use your home phone or a cell phone to call or otherwise make arrangements. It's easy to track such things. Once at a shelter, you'll find that many of them are interlinked with other shelters, all over the states and Canada-they can help you move to a new town, or a new state. The services shelters offer can help you find work or even help with training courses so you can support yourself and your daughter without worrying where the next meal will come from. If you require any more info, please do not hesitate to email (or myLotmail) me-I have so much more I could say, but I'd rather tailor it to your specific needs/situation.
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@claudia413 (4280)
• United States
23 Oct 06
You've gotten some good advice here. Please take it and get out of your situation as soon as you can. I wish you luck.
@Irishbabe (269)
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23 Oct 06
you sound like a strong person, you will get help from abused womens organisations and self help groups churches etc.. don't stay no matter how hard it will get as long as you are away from him with your daughter you will find a way xx good luck with your "abuse free" future xxxxxxx
@myscript22 (92)
• United States
23 Oct 06
where do you live? im sure there are places you can seek help at. maybe yoru church or a local shelter?
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
23 Oct 06
Is there a shelter or a counselor for abused women in your area? They can hook you up with the help you need. I guess I'd take whatever car you already own whether he likes it or not (unless it's only in his name), and I'd get just as far away from him as I could. It will be hard, but you can do it for your daughter. If he is verbally abusive, there's no telling what other kind of abuse he might decide to dish out. Save yourself and your daughter from that. DO IT NOW!
