Disagreements and Misunderstandings

Hi SWTROSE. I do not know about that person. but I can sure see where a misunderstanding can come in to place. I do not know why but I personally got all you discussions and responses in you discussion about abortion s and babies. I do not know why i got them , perhaps the answer is that I answered you discussion and the rest followed mine and some how became part of it, I know when I checked my emails I had 22 and about 15 were between you and two others . they were not very pleasant as they were bashing you, and from what I could gather a bit off topic. Who knows, but to answer you question. I wouldn't ever remove some one just because they didn't agree with me, I have said on countless posts I am not Little Miss sunshine and have to have every one agree with me. I want and need your opinion, but I do not want or need name calling and cheap shots like the ones thrown at you. this is a bit off topic as well but I saw a post to you discussion about you daughter that I took exception to and told her I believed she was out of line. . oh heck there goes another star. lol

I think that you handled your misunderstanding in a very mature way. I always try to talk to the person that I have had the misunderstanding with so that we are able to work everything out. Sometimes I have to wait a day or two to be able to do this so that they have time to cool down. I feel that it is always best to try to work things out before just giving up on a friendship.

Honest mistakes probably should be forgiven, up to an extent. SOmetimes it is tough to deal with if someone got hurt by it, as the person hurt by the error may still have that open sore &/or wound. Most times, friendships form on common goals & endeavors. As time passes, those sores & wounds heal, but things take time. If that friendship was valued, it just takes patience, & quite often, the disaster may actually be laughed at by both.

I think you have done a great job in handling this situation Swtrose. If I realize I have offended someone I will go to them in private if the situation was done just between the two of us, but if I accidentally offended someone in front of a group of people then I would handle it just the way you have. I hope this person will add you back to their friend list. SheliaLee

I usually try to clarify myself here on myLot if I think that the other person did not understand what I was saying, although I tend to be fairly long winded at times to try to prevent this from happening.... I, myself have misunderstood something that one of my friends here had said....I apologized and we continue to be friends..I would hope that if the situation was reveresed that she would have done the same.... Unless this person was verbally abusive...I think I would try to talk it out...I see no sense in exchanging words with an abusive person....I believe that would be the only reason that I would ever delete one of my friends...

yeah in close realtionships it does happens. the greater man is who he forgets and moves forward. u have already apologized publicly, if teh guy was ur true frend he will realize otherwise give another try and leave after that, its degrading u a lot apologizing pulicly!!!

You are so right with misunderstandings and the internet- It is hard to communicate online- You do not have the tone of the voice- or body language to judge what someone is saying- You can write on thing but totally mean something else. On several occasions I have been misunderstood or have misunderstood someone- due to poor communication online. My real friends know that I’m a huge joker- I would rather get myself out of anything with a joke- I try to lighten up situations by being funny- It’s hard to do this online. I try to be careful with what I type- I often times will read and reread before posting- If I do offend someone I will try to make them understand what I really meant- And of course I apologize!

I would not loose sleep on it as it is easy to misinterperate something some people have written here as soem stop reading as soon as they find soemthing to disagree with you one and soem are very closed minded about certian topics that they will nto even entertain the idea that others may have an opinion that may differ from yours as their is the righ topinion and that is all there is to it. I handle it by keeping an open mind to what is beign discussed and what is being said then add my 2 cents adn go from there sometimes i ahve a serious comment other times it is a smarta$$ comment it helps me get threw the days lol Take care adn keep up the great ideas for posts I do nto respond to all of them but i do read them.

Heck no, I don't let disagreements and misunderstandings get in the way for the simple fact that we are all unique in our own ways and may understand and take things differently. Misunderstandings and disagreements are a part of life, unfortunately, but they are just a sign of individuality.

Perhaps the reason why you were removed from someone's friend list is that you crossed over the line from offering up an intelligent debate to being offensive. Of course, I don't know for sure, but I'm guessing that it might be the reason. If you think perhaps it was too blown over the top on their part, you have to see your own part in it in order for you to understand where they are coming from.