My sister betrayed me and it hurts..Please advise
By deanamaestas
@deanamaestas (4)
United States
June 3, 2007 2:37pm CST
I just recently found out that my sister had an affair with my ex husband after our marriage broke up and I am rather confused as to how I should handle it. It has always been a unspoken rule between us that boyfriends, husbands, and ex's were off limits to either of us. At least that is what I thought. Me and my sister have always been very close and I trusted her with all my boyfriends knowing that she would never betray me.
Just recently however I found out she had slept with my ex husband a few times after we broke up. Even though me and my ex have been apart for many years now I still feel betrayed. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Should I forgive her and just let it go? Should I say something to her about it? Obviously this has put a strain on our relationship and I find myself unable to strike up any desire to visit her at all until I make peace with this. Part of me wants to forget about the whole thing and let sleeping dogs lie, but another part of me wants to confront her and ask her why she would do such a thing knowing that we are sisters and sisters just don't do things like this to each other. What would you do?
4 responses
@betty900 (29)
• United States
7 Jun 07
well my sister was in a somewhat similar situation. The only difference was that my sisters were both married and not even seperated. One of my sisters ran off left her husband and kids and ran off with my other sisters husband. This was about 2 1/2 years ago or so and no one has talked to the sister that ran off since then. My other sister said she never wants to have anything to do with her don't even want to see her.
I honestly think it was wrong of your sister. I am sure she knows just how you felt about him and I can't see why anyone would want to be with someone a close family member has been with. That to me would be reason to stay away. They shouldn't even go there. I would be aggravated myself.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
you have all the right to feel that way but i think for the wrog reason.... you may feel betrayed for being so close to her she didnt have the courage to tell it to you. but if you feel betrayed because she and your EX had an affair well sorry but he was your EX.... he was has been.
but if this happens to me and my sister i will really have a nice talk with her. to clear things out. a lot of things can be resolve by sitting down and talking. cheer up. goodluck
@songbirdnaimh (1422)
• United States
3 Jun 07
I would feel the very same way. I don't know if I could forgive her. There are just some places where you just go .... and that's one of them.
I'm so sorry...
@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
4 Jun 07
i am very sorry to hear that,my new friend,
but if i were you ,i would let it go ,he is my ex-husband after all.so his business is his own,not mine.
and for the sister,i will talk to her ,then keep a distance with her. the girl who will betray her sister can not be trusted again.
so ,that is just my opinion
best wishes for you.
