Is Cafe Mom really all that bad?

For me, the "feel" is different from Club Mom but I still do post there sometimes. It just seems crazy about the number of groups that spring up and I've found that if people further limit a group, the original group seems to lose members. I still liked the way Club Mom forums were organized. As for the bickering and nasty stuff, yes I've heard about it but never experienced it. A lot of people from the groups I'm in "resigned" from the site because of it though.

I am a member of Cafemom, actually this is my second round with Cafemom. I joined when the site was new way before they created groups and I left because it was kind of boring. Then I joined again when they upgraded the site. I think that it's much better now as far as the features go. Anytime you have a social network you are always going to have someone to jump in and cause problems. Those are the type that think they are 'supermom' and can say anything and everything, and thinks that everyone should listen to their opinion because it's the only one that matters. I just ignore those people. However, I am a moderator of several groups. I have a few set rules that I have posted. If someone gets out of hand, I delete the comment and if they do it again I remove the person from the group. So far I have not had any problems by doing this. I think that if you show the members of your group that YOU are in control by weeding out the nasty people, then it will only make your group grow and be stronger. There are some really sweet people on there and I have made a TON of friends, so don't let a negative experience scare you away from CafeMom. Just ignore those moms that are negative and nasty because they are obviously on a 'power trip' and sooner or later someone will put them in their place!

Well I just joined today and one of the members there welcomed me with open arms but also warned me that there is a lot of nasty drama that is going on in the message boards. Is that true? If so, sheesh why did I bother joining? Thats sad, it looks like a good site. Oh well, I'll still stick it out, I still may meet some other moms anyway who have things in common with me.

I have been a member of Cafemom since January, and I LOVE that site! Truth to tell it is just too addictive, and I have to stop going there once in a while and pull myself away! Cafemom is definitely like most sites that have many many members of many different backgrounds... some people butt heads and some people can be catty. But overall, I have found Cafemom members to be incredibly supportive and friendly!! I have met so many wonderful women on there it actually amazed me. And the friends I have made are ready to to do what they can any time you need them, and always support me; I do the same for them.:o) I think once they added "groups" to Cafemom, some drama started because some of the groups are basically "anything goes"... some are actually for the purpose of debate (not fighting). And when controversial stuff comes up, with 1000's of moms on there, sure some people are going to spring out the claws. I feel it's uncalled for to have name calling or stuff like that, but you will never be able to avoid all the catty/ mean people in this world. You just have to be yourself, and ignore the people who bring you down. The site does quite quickly close accounts IF there is a need (like people badly harassing). So, I think they are trying their best to root out the bad apples, as you say. All in all... I think the number of positive experiences I have had on there FAR outweigh the negatives.:o)

It's not that bad. There are troublemakers about, but if you choose the groups you join carefully you will avoid the majority of them. Trolls are everywhere, and so are scammers. You can't assume a place is a safe haven just because. Take care. Sherrie

I've heard the same thing about cafe mom, but honestly I have not come up against anything like that. I have heard thier can be cattyness, and drama, but everyone I have met has been really nice. We had to have our dog put down a couple of weeks ago and I got tons of nice messages from moms saying how sorry they were and that they would pray for me. It was just lovely. I have several groups over there all with nice memebers. I am sure alot of stuff does go on over there, just like with any internet community, but luckily we have a delete button. If anything like that does come my way..I will simply hit delete. You may want to give it another shot. If you don't like it you could always not go back. And it is a real good place for networking if you are a wahm. My user name is kymommy72 there. If you make it over give me a yell :) Eva

well i just joined not too long ago, so i don't know how it was b 4 and yeah, i've got into several arguments, one recently when this girl started a post about how construction workers shouldn't be required to work in the heat! well this girl went on basically saying her military man is better than our husbands jobs and we shouldn't complain about wut our husbands do b/c her man works in worst heat being in the air force! it's fine ur man is in the military i pray for all our troops but don't tell us that we have no right to talk about our men just b/c they're not in the military, my man works hard and doesn't complain, her hubby chose to be in the military! her hubby is not better than mine, so i kinda got offended!

If they are rumours, then maybe they are worth ignoring. I post at www.wahm.com. I've made some good friends there, especially amongst the blogging moms (and dads). I've also learned a lot and have learned how to make some money at home.

I am a member at cafe mom. I never much participated but it was okay. I havent logged in for a few months now. I did notice some nasty posts but that's pretty much a given at any message board/forum. Not everyone can get along, I just ignored that stuff over there. I just found it kinda boring which is why I never went back.