afraid of loving?

@chenee08 (591)
Philippines
June 3, 2007 10:03pm CST
there are times in my life when i became afraid to fall in love coz every time i fell in love, i got hurt. can we not love without feeling the pain? is it the price to pay for all the hapiness we feel when we're inlove?
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@kawaii24 (520)
• Australia
4 Jun 07
love is always associated with happiness and pain. Just like yin and yang. You cannot reach the height of love with out suffering.
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@chenee08 (591)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
thanks^^
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@jianhong (739)
• Singapore
4 Jun 07
hey. i have the same thoughts as you too. I have phobia to get into relationship too. That's why i am still single.. haha... From what i see from most of my friends experiences, it had form a negative image about relationship. But it is still good to try a relationship and learn from it. No pain no gain. haha... I know the feeling is so sucky but that's what you have to go through. Maybe give yourself sometime to take a break frist? kekes ;)
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@chenee08 (591)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
thanks for the advise
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@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
If you are 17, loving might not mean the "True-Love". I do suggest you grab a book of Bo Sanchez entitled "How to Find Your One True Love". He had a chapter made specially for the young ones. Being hurt often times are results of the despresing impression about a broken relationship. It is when love means "conditional. Everytime the condition is not met we tend to get hurt because we were expecting of another thing to happen. Lastly, always remember that is hard to give unconditional love and its hard to find perfect love in an imperfect world.
@jianhong (739)
• Singapore
5 Jun 07
hi beauty_ph, i agree with you. Thank for sharing.
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@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
Jianhong thank you for letting me know that you agree with my respond. I just want to let the young people know that at a very young age, starting a relationship can make their world very small as they are oblige to be with someone all the time. I don't want them to focus to one person only, they need to explore the world while still young. How? By joining an organization, into clubs, where they can meet several personality to interact with. This way they will grow a better person, a mature person, knowing them and others before going into a relationship. God bless you friend!
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@chenee08 (591)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
thanks for the comment..
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4 Jun 07
I believe that when you're in love, you didn't choose it to happen but you fell to it. When you're in love you must also know the risks and for one that is getting hurt. Sometimes we are just too selfish that all we want is to get happy and when we get hurt, we blame our destiny. Falling in love is a path that you chose to take and you must get ready of any thing that might happen. If you're still questioning why you got hurt, bear in mind that "what's meant to be will always find a way." Just wait, i'm sure it wouldn't harm.
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
You should expect being hurt and feel pain when you love. You wouldn't feel the pain if you don't really love that person. And that when problems come, and that you would feel pain, don't give up easily and try to fight over it. Save your love and fight for it. don't let pain rule your heart but try to convert that pain into happiness by fixing your problems and accept things. Things like this could even make you stronger. :)
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@tamskie (388)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
We can never love without feeling the pain because it is natural for us that way. We get hurt because we did not get what we expected from the person. Getting hurt is the way where know that we really love the person. I right now, I am not afraid to fall inlove but I am afraid to love the wrong person. Good Luck with your love life.
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@hmike_d (1529)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
It has been a concept that love is always entailed with pain. But it doesnt mean that its painful to love. In fact, love is a big thing that makes you happy. Yes, when you're in-love you put all things good and inspires everything. So please bear in mind that either you love or not, you still feel pains in life.
@chenee08 (591)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
i will...^^ thanks
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• United States
4 Jun 07
Emotions are strong ties to humans that we have and love is the strongest of all. As we travel along lifes road and meet people we fall in love with we hope it is the right person but sometimes it is and sometimes it isn't. We have to be able to go past the hurt and learn from it. No matter what you do when the relationship falls apart you are going to hurt. It probably will take awhile to get over it. But don't let your heart close. This is all part of life and I would not want to go through life not having loved someone. Look at what happened to make the relationship fail and try to correct that. But always open your heart so that another person can come in.