Friends wtih Benefits

Work is worship and workplace is a temple. Try to avoid thinking about romancing and also advice your guy to be deciplined at work. If you are a jolly type and can go for that kind of relationship unconditionally, go ahead, but play a safe game. Cheers..

Just think about it. Nice to be flatterd. Now remember it may not last and the negatives finally outweigh any beneifts. You are there to work and this coming to the forefront is totally out of place. You could even lose your job over this. Be polite and tell him absolutely not and to keep his mind on the work at hand. If he does not comply then go to your boss.

Uh, it might work but it may not. Depends on the people. If you work together and see each other every day in the same office it could get sticky if you breakup. If you work in different departments it might not be so bad. Working in closely together and having a relationship also might not sit well with other co-workers.

I could never be that to somebody. It's all or nothing for me. Things like that has the tendency to make me feel less of myself. I deserve more and that includes commitment. Such kind of relationship seems to be courting trouble because eventually one of you or both of you is bound to get hurt.

I think people would be hurt in a relationship like that. There is nothing wrong with helping a friend out in need, but no friend should expect anything in return because you helped them. Having friends at work is fine too, but I wouldn't get attached unless you felt a long life together was going to work out. If he only wants one thing, then tell him how you feel about it. If he won't be your friend because you won't give in then he was never a friend in the 1st place! Just my opinion...

and it's ok for me ,i don't mind it . it is very common that we are used by some friends and sometimes i use them for my benefits. on the other hand ,if i am a friend with benifits, that is to say ,i am not a useless guy ,the reason he uses me is that i can help him to get something. so ,this is my opinion ,i think it is ok for me . thank you for asking. best wishes for you.

For me that actually depends on the principle of a person. You said it's okay with you so go ahead. You are an adult already and you are free to do whatever it is that you want to do. However remember that in every actions taken there are consequences you have to take. You always have to be ready when that comes. As to being attached to him, you have to condition yourself in the situation you're about to get in so you will not expect anything in return. There should be mutual agreement and you have to see to it that you can really trust the person. You have to be a pro of those kind of "games" to avoid much damage. Even pro's get hurt. :) Good luck lovely.

Very, very tricky one! I think it all depends on the two people in this relationship. My personal feeling is I would think twice, I work for or rather with my husband (I'm his bookkeeper) and I can speak of experience. There has got to be discipline, respect, and above all time out. These days there are so much pressure on young couples so I would suggest before they get too deeply involved, to rather rethink, I know I sound horrible almost like a Capulet! But if something should go wrong, it is not just on a emotional level, but their careers might also be at stake. If they are really so much inlove, or committed already, then go for it! Just don't take the poison, or the dagger in the end! LoL!!

Lovely, you mentioned what if you get attached, have you thought about what would happen if he got attached? I've had a few of these types of relationships ans it's my experience that it's usually the guy who has more of an issue than the woman does as far as getting attached goes. kudos to you for thinking about hte consequences before you leap right in. If you're both honest with each other about what you're looking for there shouldn't be a problem.

Hmmm, I think I'd be really wary of such a relationship. We never know the intentions of otehr people. There have been too many horror stories of people being blackmailed by those they know. It's terrible to have this person distribute intimate photos or videos of the both of you to everyone in your company. That'll be terribly embarassing. I would avoid such a relationship at all costs.

That is a tough one to answer. I know of someone who is dating someone at work and luckily for now they get on great. I personally think it's up to the people involved.

I think it really puts you at the edge. Everyday that you go to work, you'll see him and you'll think of him and there would always be a chance for a flirtatious smile, a touch of the hand or something similar. On the more extreme end, there's always the quickie. It makes for an exciting life and not everyone can handle it. If you think this is something that you are interested in, then maybe you would want to try it out and go with the flow of things.

First of all Friends with Benefits is about not becoming attached and keeping it from developing into something real. I personally dont think you can have the benefits without emotional commitment. I think that one way or the other someone gets hurt. Guys are gonna agree to it but even they will find that it is unfulfilling. I think it could actually make it harder to recognize true love if it is ever reachable.

This kind of happened to me, though we never named it as such. It was more that we had been friends for a while, while in relationships with other people (outside of work), and then started dating when we both came of these other relationships. But as we worked together and were not totally there was a romantic connections, we didn't want to announce the relationship, and kept if from everyone else. I guess the main point is that you must be friends - friends first, so that you have a good common understanding, mutual respect and like each other a lot. You just don't necessarily see a long term, romantic future. In our case, race and family was partly the reason for this skepticism, as well the work factor. Anyway, it was painful when we one of us wanted a bit more from a relationship, not necessarily our relationship. I started seeing my ex- again, she started dating somebody else, in a real open relationship. We remained friends, but still it was painful. Can't say that work suffered though.

Yeah, that is so wise of you not to go there with him. If you didn't have to see him everyday then that would be ok. I honestly won't mind it at all, if I know I don't like that person intimately at all.

Right I dont think its a good idea to have a relationship with someone your working with. It never works out anyway. So dont even put yourself in that kind of perdickument. Hey thats just my opinion.

well, friends with benefits are cool if both parts are totally aware of what that means and are pretty sure they don't want further attachments. The problem is that normally at least one of them ends up wanting more, and there trouble starts! it's frustrating and if the other person doesn't correspond those feelings or simply doesn't want a relationship then everything goes down.

this arrangement is very tempting. i think the only factor that gets me thinking twice before getting into this kind of relationship is the fact that i may eventually get attached and whatever emotional impact it will entail. as to office relations, i try to maintain a platonic level. these are just personal thoughts. i hope it helps. p.s. whatever your decision will be just keep it SAFE.

You know that is a difficult one. I would definitely say stay away from friends with benefits with anyone you work with. Actually, being romantically involved with anyone at work is never a good idea. Even if it doesn't the possibility that it could lead down that road is not worth the risk of either of your jobs or your friendship.