how will i introduce my boyfriend to my mom?

Philippines
June 3, 2007 11:36pm CST
I am a very obedient daughter since i was a child, i was a consistent honor student until high school. i am the youngest of 9. all my sisters and brothers are now practicing their own profession and career. my mother pampered me so much and i can say that i am her apple of the eye. i have had a couple of boyfriends in the past but did not last long because we hide the relationship. now, that i have a boyfriend, and we really love each other, and he really wanted me to introduce him to my mom. i do not know if my mom approves of this. we do not talk much about the topic. im confused.
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5 responses
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
I'd say if you really love this guy then go introduce him to your mom. You will never know if she approves or not if you won't tell her about him. I'm sure she'll understand.
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
thanks. that adds up to my positive energy. :)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 07
we are in the same boat, but the difference is, i m the eldest n u r the youngest. I've had enough of hiding this relationship from her, so i decided to tell her. At first, she doesn't respond a lot to it. I've got the feeling that she thought i must be joking. After a few talks, she got mad at me. She even forbids me from seeing my bf again. Her reason is that, she wants me to focus on study as this is my final year in university, she wants me 2 be stabil...after all, i m the eldest, she wants me to set an example to the siblings.. I guess right now, it would be better for me to keep this relationship as a secret... maybe in your situation, it might be different, talk to her.. explain to her, you will not neglect important stuff with the relationship goes on, tell her the reason u introduce him to her, is that you want her to know who you are going out with and so on... i'm just giving my opinion, the rest is up 2 u... wish you all the best..
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
maybe your mother is correct in forbidding you. she did the same thing when i was studying my first course. and then she told me that i can have a boyfriend when i graduate. but then after i graduated, and studying my second course, it seems that she wanted me not to have boyfriend anymore. thank you so much. i think i have to tell her.
@sumimasen (644)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I say, dive right in! Don't hesitate, because then it's less natural. Even if it's a goofy first meeting, it needs to happen quickly. If you put it off, it makes it look like you're embarassed. Unless your mom is not nice, in which case, I would suggest this: Have your mom meet the boy without you. Then, if she likes him, she'll say she met a nice boy for you!
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
thanks for the advice. my mom is nice so i wont have to do your second suggestion. i almost fell off my chair when i read it. :D
@abrarr (1246)
• Pakistan
4 Jun 07
well since u like that guy and u r mom's girl so its better u shud tell ur mom as soon as possible bcoz if she got all about u from some other source she might get hurt. so i'll suggest u that just go and tell ur mom everything straight-forwardly and truely!! she is ur mom, if teh guy is rite for u she won't refuse. i did this and i got wat wasrite. my mom refused me and later, now i realised that wat she did was rite. so i would suggest to tell ur mom as soon as possible!!
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
yeah thanks. i am planning to do it when my boyfriend comes here. i mean, i am really feeling mixed emotions about it, they might disagree or sumthin.
• United States
4 Jun 07
I am sure your mom will approve. I am the oldest of 2 so I cannot really relate to the bigger family. I have always been told that since I am the oldest that I should set a good example for my youngest sister. I have always made good grades and done well in school so I was the apple of my moms eye and when i had a serious boyfriend I was scared to tell her too but once I got over my fears and talked to her I felt much better and I was suprised at how accepting of him she was. So I hope it works out for you too
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
yah. last night i was thinking about how to overcome this fear of introducing my boyfriend to my mom. i came up with some ideas on how to. thanks.