do you think the women who stay at home really become losyang?

Philippines
June 4, 2007 1:18am CST
hi there guys. i just thought about this topic because... its sumeer vacation, right? and because of that, i tend to stay at home more often. and so, i just tend to stay infront of the tv or computer, rotting away all day. lolz. i take a bath at night already. i dont comb my hair, my face gets too oily, etc. you get the picture, right? when i go out of the house however, i am completely the opposite of what i look like at home. my mom even teases me that i must have some "blusang itim" for me to look so "blah" at home and for me to look so stunning when im going outside. lolz. so, what do you think of this? do you agree that women tend to look losyang when they are at home? girls, do you agree? guys? what is your take on this?
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
4 Jun 07
I fully agree with all of you here. I just feel so lazy to groom when I am at home. My family always complain about my appearance when I am at home. I just don't really care. I wear t-shirt and short pants most of the time, and no make-up. I do all the house chores by myself since I don't have any helpers. Always no time to rest! But the best part is, my husband like the 'real' me..he he he... and that contributes to my 'laziness' He asked me to take care of myself but no need to dress up or make up too much as he doesn't like me with heavy make up. So for the time being, I am 'safe' :)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
hi there! :) with the "i dont care" attitude of yours, i can truly relate with you. lolz. :) we have no helpers also in our house so i tend to help around with the household chores since i dont want my mom to do all the work. :) well, you must be really beautiful for your husband to say that he likes the real you, huh? :) lucky lucky you.. :)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
hehe! ;0 you are so right! we really cannot trust men, 100% sure about it. ;0 i was cheated many times already and i tell you, i can really say that men are really conniving and manipulating people. :P
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 07
Ha..ha..ha.. Please don't jump to the conclusion that fast. I am just an average 30-something out there. Maybe I am lucky as my husband thinks so about me. But, still I need to be alert..Men cannot be trusted 100%, not even your husband!
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• United States
4 Jun 07
I really don't care what I look like. Who am I out to impress? I'm already married so I'm not trying to attract a mate. I have 4 kids and 2 dogs so I am busy as heck. I dress and look exactly the same when I go out to the store as I do at home--jeans, t-shirts, ratty old tennis shoes and pony tail in my hair. I'm 30 and I have never worn make-up. I find it a waste of my time and money. If people don't like the way I look that is their problem not mine. I am comfortable the way I am so I don't feel the need to get "made up" when I am in public. I was the same when I was younger and I still managed to have boyfriends and got married.
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• United States
5 Jun 07
I wouldn't call it beauty--just real. I don't believe in making myself up to be someone I am not to impress people. My husband loves me just the way I am just like I love him for who he is. We don't hide under make up and stuff. Which reminds me--why don't guys have to get "made up" to be presentable in public?
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
hi there! :) well, i guess you are one of those women who are blessed with effortless beauty. :) i have some friends who are like that, they are really too lazy to make themselves up and they go out au naturel, with no make up at all. and still, a lot of guys are fascinated by them! :)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
most do... Some of the obvious reasons are as follows: a. Housewives often neglect their physical appearance and vital statistics when they are at home. (This is because they think such things don't matter.. what matter's most is taking proper care of the family) b. Housewives usually don't have sidelines or part-time jobs which can fund their beauty regimen expenses. c. Housewives exhaust themeselves at home. They do all the hard work... and that work reaps wrinkles, dry skin, varicose veins, and the likes...
• United States
4 Jun 07
I agree to alot of this. I know when I get up in the morning to two kids and a sink full of dishes my first thought is not to shower and put on some make up. I do know women who stay at home and do take care of them first. I know my kids will love me no matter how I look, but if I dont get my chores done then I am not teaching them to do their chores either. I do exaust my self durring the day but it is all worth it when the work is done because I have all the time to spend with my family, and I hope that makes up for all the stress on my looks. I do have the cash for makeup but I have never been a huge makeup person. Mascara is a full face of makeup for me. Everyone is differnt but this is a great life for me. Now off to the grocery store with a kid in each hand and a set of keys in my teeth. Im sure it will cause me stress but we enjoy a good meal. Its all worth it in the end.
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
hi there. well, i guess you have made some real good points there. lolz. it really is true. there are really some wives who are like that. and those are one of the reasons why their husbands become philanderous. :P but thats another story. lolz. :)
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
yeah i got the picture and i have to laugh because i am like that myself..hehehe...most of the woman in our neighborhood looks losyang because they stay home and have lots of kids and they play tong-its a lot which maybe makes them neglectful of their appearance, my wife's cousen is 9 years younger than me and she also has 2 kids like me but i look far more younger than her....my husband even commented that if his wife is like that he will look for a replacement...so i made it sure that i take care of myself, my kids and our home even if im already busy with work.
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
hi there! :) oh my! the example that you have given is really one that is in reality! see? men really want their wives to still look good even if she is just staying at home and even if they already have children. ladies, we got a lot to do here, and maybe, we are a bit responsible or we are to blame, if our husbands or boyfriends look for a replacement because we dont really make ourself look beautiful. :P
@mschiqui (1284)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
for me it really depends on the woman, but sad to say most of the women who stayed at home do look losyang.. We women should be pretty as always and as clean as always, cause it wil really affect our personality.we should maintain our beauty.
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• Philippines
5 Jun 07
hi there! :) yes, you are right, it just depends on the woman. :) well, i think i learned some pretty good life lessons from this discussions. :) thank you so much for taking time to reply, my friend. :)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
wow. we share the same experience. i also do the same and feel the same as you do. however, i really dont think that women tend to look losyang when they are at home. It makes us lazy. :D it's all in the mind and routine. staying home away from the dust and smoke in the streets is relieving. making us pimple-free. when we go outside, we tend to make our self attractive, presentable and neat to socialize with other people. when we're at home, we dont need to make our self like when we have an appointment outside because only our family and us will look at us. we are comfortable and we are not afraid that they might make ugly comments on us. we wud not become losyang if we stay at home not doing tedious houseworks like cleaning the whole house, the backyard, washing the dishes, washing the clothes, ironing, and a lot more houseworks. :D
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• Philippines
4 Jun 07
haha, you are correct! lolz. i feel so lazy to groom myself when i am at home because i am thinking "so what, it is only my family who can see me". lolz. :) but you know, i am doing house work at home so i guess that adds up to my losyang factor. lolz. :P
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
nah. i dont think so, unless of course, u do ALL the houseworks. :D
@Meljep (1666)
• United States
4 Jun 07
It is sad, but so true that people tend to let down their standards when they are at home with their family. At some points you do need a place to "let your hair down", but this shouldn't be the case all the time. You're family might get tired of looking at your unkempt appearance. Your husband goes to work every day and sees beautiful women who smell good. Why shouldn't he have the priveledge of the same thing when he comes home?
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• Philippines
5 Jun 07
now that is the point that i have been waiting for! ;0 you see, it is good for me to stay unkempt and unsightly when i am at home because i still have no husband, im still 19 years old for god's sake! lolz! ;0 but for the married women, i think that is a different story and i think you have made some good points because i have really seen some real, live, good examples of men becoming philanderous because their wives are just staying at home, getting fat and not really minding their physical appearance. there is really a danger of men looking for someone new in their office or in their workplace because surely, all the girls in the workplace or in the office are well-groomed, good-looking, nice-smelling, etc. i just hope that married women could also take the time and effort to make themselves look presentable and fresh, and not just depend on the fact that since they are already tired of doing all the housework, they are excused from looking good. :P
@crazy_me (588)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
Most often than not, women who stay at home tend to look "losyang" because they think that they have no need to look good since no one else except their family will see them. There is no need to impress anyone. Your family will not judge you if you do not look presentable. I for one do not care much how I look when I am at home. I like wearing shirts with holes and very short shorts in the comfort of my house. You won't catch me wearing those outside of my fort. LOL!
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• Philippines
4 Jun 07
yeah, i can truly relate! how i look like and what i wear when i am at home will never ever be worn outside of our house. lolz. :) and i really see to it that i look nice and well groomed before i go out of the house. i really wont permit myself looking losyang when i go out of the house. we all have our pride and dignity, you know. ;)
@livvy092002 (1032)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
Yeah we don't care about our appearance so much when we are at home, right? Personally, when i know that i will just stay at home for the rest of the day, i don't care whether i combed my hair after waking up or if my clothes are so old, old, old that its colors already fade.. just as long as i'm comfortable wearing them. In short, we are really comfortable with ourselves just the way we are.. at home. We don't need to pretend so much when we are at home. Lolz! I don't mind being like that at home. But regarding being "losyang" when one is at home most of the time? Well we tend to be but that shouldn't be the case.. from time to time, we should be aware still that we should still feel beautiful, look beautiful, and stay beautiful even at home.. We should always feel good about ourselves wherever we are most of the time. :)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
haha! i agree with you! speaking of clothes? oh my, my clothes are so ratty and faded that even the salvation army wont even accept those. lolz. :P they are ugly enough to be rags. lolz. :) yes, i agree, we dont need to pretend or uphold an image when we are at home. we can looka s ugly as we want and our family wont disown us or whatever. :) as for the losyang thingy, when i am at home, i admit that i can look pretty "blah" but i am still comfortable and happy with myself because i am confident enough that when i prepare or make myself look beautiful, like comb my hiar, put on some powder, i still know that i will look stunning. lolz. :)
@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
In my case I'm sure it happened to me most of the time when I stay home. I guess it was because we feel comfortable of what we naturally wear and use. We never worry of how we look when we're in our house for as long as we feel better with it. My mother always advise me to look presentable all the time even when I'm home. It's difficult in my part because I prefer to have what would make me feel good and comfortable with.
@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
True and I guess our mother is right. It's not for their own good but for our own sake. Maybe we should still give our self some time to fix well.
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
haha, i feel you, girl. my mother always scolds me when i am at home and she keeps telling me to take a bath, to comb my hair, to wash my face, etc. but i just ignore her because i keep thinking, why should i? im just at home, why should i bother looking nice and cute? lolz. but seriously, i know what im doing is kinda wrong, it makes me belong to the "sloth" side. but what can i do? i am to lazy to primp myself when i am at home. for short, i have no motivation. lolz. :) haha! :)
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@maehan (1439)
• United States
4 Jun 07
Yeh, more or less, when I become stay at home mom, I tend to dress slopy. A T-shirt with bermuda will do. Do not have to maintain a nice hairstyle. Make-up, NO! Not even to my children school or weekend outing. After I become home-maker, my dressing is urgh......
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• Philippines
5 Jun 07
hehe.. so that really happens, huh? but do you still have some extra time for yourself? like a day where you go to a spa or something? and then you make yourself up and have yourself pampered? :)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
well, tehy say.. but sometimes i don't believe it. it is depend on how you treat yourself while at rest(tambaY).. well, this vacation really sucks. lols.. yes, honestly sometimes vacation make us lazy to fix ourselves. but its good coz we are not being a girly or we are not pretending coz what we are is seen... proper fix in ourselves like having a new style of hair cut or having tan. no matter what you know is unique will bring out the real you.
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• Philippines
5 Jun 07
hi there! :) see, that is one factor why we tend to not fix ourselves and that is: laziness... ;0 but im glad that school will start soon because i wil be fixing myself everyday. ;0 you know, its kinda important to look our best when we are in school. ;0 good grooming is really very important in school, right? :)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
reasons why we look losyang insisde the house: 1.Stressed or tired(from work or choires) 2.we like to relax once in a while, just minding your own business. 3.Its our home, our house, our teritory, so we can do anything we want in it, get dirty or pig out, so what? no one will see you(unless you have a visitor ;P). 4.Lazyness(sometimes this happens every once in while ;P) 5.people living with you already know who you are so they dont care if you look losyang. reason why we look the opposite: 1.We are self concious(number one and very most important reason. 2.some people(mostly) tend to notice negative things about how people look, and because of this reason we want to look presentable. 3.Women love attention.(especialy from boys ;P) its a different story when it comes to housewives, they're beautiful in and out of the house because they want to look presentable for everyone and most importantly their husbands.(depends if there doing house choires ;P)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
hi there! :) your points and opinions are very nicely put, i appreciate it. ;0 however, for your point which you said that the housewives look beautiful in and out of the house, i think i have to disagree on that one because you know why? a lot of housewives in our country, are living proof that some women, who are just staying at home and doing chores, are neglecting their beauty. sometimes they get too fat, and they dont even make any effort to beautify themselves anymore. its just too sad for a fact, and i myself sont want to be like that when i will be a wife and a mother in the future. :)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
well i'm a mom of two kids but honestly i still look good!! in and out of the house!! i make sure that ill still be looking good for my own pleasure also... so girls keep your skin and face looking good and smelling good!! you do not want your guys to be having second thoughts on you right???
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
hi there! : that is a really nice perspective. :) you are a real inspiration to other women. and you are also a good example. you are right, i should maintain my beauty,even if im just staying at home. beauty is important, even though it is involving make up or not. :)
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
I guess most that are a stay-at-home mom do get "losyang" since they don't need to fix themselves everyday since there's no used if you stay all day in the house and the only person that is with you is your kids and husband. You tend to be relaxed and more comfortbale on how you look at yourself. Another thing is its not practical to make yourself up if you'll just be staying home all day. you don't need those fancy perfumes and makeups if you'll just stay at home.
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
hehe, yes i agree with you. there really is no use to use make up and other beautifying products when we are at home. but like i said before, that can cause the husbands to be philanderous. lolz. :P
• Switzerland
4 Jun 07
Women look great whenever they want. So, there might be a few who look awesome anywhere and some who prefer to put in some effort to look better while going out.
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
hi there! you know what, i like your answer. i think i am one of those women you are referring to. lolz. :) i mean, not to brag or something, i do look good whenever i want to. its just that when i am at home, i dont really give some effort in trying to make myself look good. i mean, what for? lolz. :)
@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I dont think that women who stay at home become losyang thats depend on the person. I will take care of myself eventhough i stay at home. Just stay beautiful even you are at home.
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
hi there! :) yes, i think it really does depend on the woman who is staying at home. when i grow up, and have a family of my own, i wanna stay beautiful and fresh and young. :) but for now, since i am still young, i dont have my own family, i am still living with my parents, so i really dont see any reason for me to make an effort to beautify myself when i am at home. :)
@helenying (120)
• China
5 Jun 07
Well, I think many girls do it like you. Generally speaking, so do I. Home is a place where you can do whatever you want. We needn't make up ourselves when stay at home. Just be yourself. But when going out, we should do somework on ourselves. Besides making oneself look good, it's also polite to others.
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
hi there! :) you know what, my mom uses that line. sometimes, she makes "drama" and says, "you only fix yourself when you are going out of the house, you give more importance to other people than you family. why whey you are with your family, you just let yourself look homely?" i know that she is just joking, but she really made a point there, huh? ;0