Would you continue with a loveless marriage?

Hi Anamika, I think u r friend has typical Indian mentality or She had lost confidence on her self. Its ok she can live with some budy who didnot love her but how can she continue with the one who always abuse her, cheat her, drink and sleep with others.what else is worst than this situation.If at all she wants to stay with him she should develop confidence in her self, start earning for herself to fulfill house hold expenses than avoid listening and giving importance to him atlest for some time. I think he will continue with his stupid acts till he knows that she fully depends on him and will not leave him at all cost. She should take some tough decision or one day she will be forced to leave this world.

i think it is unfair on the parts of both the partners to continue staying in married relationship without having the love. for a successful marriage, and for that matter even for a live-in relationship, love is the only and the most important ingredient. and if there is no love between the partners, how do you expect the dish to be tasty. i would prefer to move out of such relationship. it would be better for the both of them.

I'd have dumped him at the first infidelity! The longer she stays the harder it will be for her to leave, because he'll have her even more convinced about how no one else would ever want her. She needs to get counseling, even though her husband will do his best to keep her from it. She's used to his abuse, now, and it's always easier to stay with what you know (even when it's painful) than to leave for the great "unknown." She needs to start making a plan to leave. Squirreling away as much money as possible, and finding a truly safe place to go to, understanding that she might have to just walk away with nothing. A good lawyer would be a huge help here too.

I would run......no one deserves to live in this kind of an enviroment.....that is not a marriage...not a true marriage....that is not what is intended with this type of cimmittment.

I have been in an abusive relationship. Only took a hit twice for me to realize I am done. I would never ever let someone put there hands on me for as long as I live. I love my husband, but if he raised his hand at me, I would pack my bags and leave. I do not have the time or patients to deal with someone who has no respect for me. He would have been out n his behind a long time ago.

Three key words in a relationship are Tolerance,Endurance and understanding.And u need to always remember that nobody is perfect.

I know it is easy for other people to say leave your husband because of his evil deeds with you. But if you are in the situation, you love him or have kids with him you have many considerations to make. You are afraid to live a life with your kids without your husband. But ideally she should leave. I think there is no future for that kind of person. Why don't you advice your friend to tell his husband that they will separate maybe for one month. Then they will stay together after that if everything stay still the same then I think she should decide to leave. I think there will be no future for them if that is always the case.

im garuntee the guy who doing such things on me will lay in hospital at least for three months.who do he think he is?your firend shouldn't cherish more to that man or their relationship because its already been cursed.maybe devoce is shame in indian community,im believe that still some conservative people keeping the outdate tradisional values,but its better leave from unhappiness and brutality than be blame by some illness peoples.

Dear lovelydam3000 All I can suggest about your friend is that she should talk to her husband about this. This is no way dealing .. she is also a human being, his wife and should discuss all the things that are bothering her with his husband's behaviour. Why don't she complains about this behaviour to anyone -- her mother - in - law and other family members .. If things will keep on continued like this then it will become a hard situation for her .. so it's better that she should take some necessary action at the earliest. She can also go for complaint with police regarding this matter.

really not she got to love herself, to after love another people, dont need be like that, i think which we need think very time before marry, cause i believe in only one marry for people

I would have left a long time ago. That is no life for your friend. Does she have low self-esteem? That's the only reason I can think would make her want to stay. Try to help her understand she doesn't deserve this. Good luck to your friend.

I don't want to die, and please tell your friend to stay away from that guy. I hope she can find a way to leave that guy, it's humiliating, slept with other woman then abuses you...I might be in jail now..

no way

Me? if that man ever physically abuse me although I am a christian I would give it back to him in full share that he would think tqwice before hitting another woman again. I would leave him. He does not love me so what I am doign there? Keepign him clean for his many women? You must be crazy. I would move out so fast he would not knwo what hit him. I believe in love and if I am in a relationship where that is not a content I have to leave. I refuse to love anyone more than myself.

She should try showing him love more than she is presently showing and he would eventually change.Love conquers all

She needs to go, she can struggle by herself, which basically what she is, alone, if he's cheating, abusing, and stingy with money. What is he there for, what is his purpose? I'd rather be by myself. One less mouth to feed.