If they cheat, do you stay or do you go?

@breepeace (3014)
Canada
June 4, 2007 7:12pm CST
If your significant other slept with someone else at a party when they were heavily under the influence of alcohol and then broke down and admitted what they'd done the next day because they felt so awful about it, would you leave them or try to work it out? What about if they didn't tell you, you found out from someone else and they were still incredibly remorseful but told you they didn't want to hurt you by telling you they'd cheated on you when they intended for it never to happen again? What about if you caught them in the act? In all those situations, is there even one you'd choose to stay with them after?
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vega83
@vega83 (6340)
• Bahrain
5 Jun 07
Well, I'd like to answer your questions one by one. First off, I don't really buy the whole "it was an accident" or it was a "mistake" thing. There's literally no way, that I could make that mistake no matter how wasted I was, which I never would be because I don't drink. But since the person was so truthful about it, it does deserve a second thought, but seriously, is that really a mistake? I think the chances of that are slim. If you find out through someone else, then that's the worst of the worse. No way you can believe anything the person says, and all their excuses about how they were protecting you by not telling you, that's just a bunch of crap. If you catch them in the act, well, then that's the easiest, because you'll have no regrets in leaving that person. In all the situations, I guess if my partner has strayed, it means something's wrong with us. And it's not a small thing. I guess it's time for both of us, then, to move on in separate directions. The way I see it is, if I don't do it, and I can have that kind of trust, dedication and self-control in my relationship then it's possible, and there's really no good excuse for cheating, no right reason...
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Withoutwings
@Withoutwings (6992)
• United States
5 Jun 07
No it would be the end. Because at my age I expect my partner to be responsible and not get drunk enough to "accidentally" cheat on me. Also what are they doing at a party without me? Not that we have to go everywhere together... but really if I'm in a committed relationship there is absolutely no excuse for cheating.