My son missed out on dancers because of other kids PART 2
By superchook
@superchook (1786)
Australia
June 4, 2007 11:39pm CST
Thanks to everyone that responded to my first discussion. I feel that I owe it to everyone to let you know what happened.
First of all, the parents will be given their money back, there was no arguement there.
The teacher was unable to come to the meeting, which is what I thought would happen.
The principal explained that he did support the teacher in the decision for the kids not to go and see the dance. He said there are kids in the class that keep misbehaving and that is what happened when they went to see the dance. It wasn't the whole class though that were doing something wrong. There is a group of them that keep doing the wrong thing and the teacher has decided to punish the whole class when these kids do something wrong to try and get the good kids to put pressure on them to stop them. I said to the principal that this is very unfair on the good kids, especially when they miss out on things like the dance. I said that I understand that maybe sometimes they are not sure what kids are doing what, but it can't be like that everytime. I also asked why were the two aboriginal kids still allowed to go, he was unable to answer that one. The thing that annoys me is he knew my son wasn't one of the kids that did something wrong on this day, but he was still punished.
He has suggested to my son to go and talk to his teacher and tell her how he feels, my son is going to do that. The principal is also going to talk to her as well. He is going to suggest a reward system for the kids that are good.
Once again, I would like to thank everyone for giving me advice and being supportive. Hopefully there won't be anymore issues. Thanks!
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5 responses
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
19 Jun 07
I am glad things got sorted out, kind of. I think the teacher should of been made to be at the meeting. I think it a poor excuse that she couldnt. As for the Aboriginal ones being allowed to go, it wasnt fair to the others. I hope nothing like this happens again.
Best wishes
@superchook (1786)
• Australia
19 Jun 07
I had a meeting with the teacher today because she is still punishing the whole class when some of the kids do something wrong. I asked why she is doing this and she couldn't give me a straight answer. I also asked about the other incident and why the two aboriginals were allowed to go but she wouldn't answer that either. I am not very happy about this and I am not sure where I am going to go from here now. My husband is going to go and see her next week as she is away for the rest of this week. I also had a friend come with me today because her son is also in this class and she was not happy either. Thanks!
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
19 Jun 07
This teacher doesnt sound like a very good one. I dont think she is a teacher i would want for my children. I would probably put in a formal complaint with the headmaster, and if he doesnt seem to care, maybe query department of education. They have no right punishing the whole class for things that only some do. She probably doesnt give answers cause she knows she is in the wrong, but wont admit it. You will have to keep us posted.
Best wishes to you
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@superchook (1786)
• Australia
20 Jun 07
My husband is going in this morning to see if he can get some answers out of her. He usually has a way of getting infomation out of people, but I am not sure if he will have any luck with this teacher. If he is not satisfied with her answers today, I think we will have to have another meeting with the principal and then maybe the education department. I hope we don't have to go that far though. My husband is also going to tell her that she is not to keep my son in after school unless he has actually done something. Thanks!
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I would not like the logic of hoping the good kids would put pressure on the misbehavors to stop acting up. Kids have a hard enough time keeping themselves inline, they should not be responsible for their peers.
The entire class, and parents as well, deserve a humble appology from this teacher. She made a bad choice. We make kids appologize when they make bad choices.
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@superchook (1786)
• Australia
12 Jun 07
I think she should apologise too, but they feel they made the right choice. I honestly don't know how they can think they have though. I also agree that the good kids shouldn't have to worry about the other kids acting up, that is not why they go to school. They go to school to learn and they should not have to worry about trying to keep other kids inline. Thanks!
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Since the principal wasn't able to answer all of your questions then I would go and speak to the teacher before or after school one day. I think that she should have to explain why she showed favortism to certain children. By her doing this it could cause even more problems amongest the children in her class. I am however glad that you were able to resolve part of the issues that you had.
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@superchook (1786)
• Australia
6 Jun 07
I think I will ask her, but I don't think I will get much of an answer. It's definitely worth a try though. I am glad that they understand how unfair they are being though. Hopefully it will get better now. Thanks!
@nicolecab (923)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Well, I am very glad that you had a possitive experence and I hope the teacher will see from now on that the good children end up getting hurt in the end from things like that. I hope your son will go talk to her next time. Good Luck!!
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@superchook (1786)
• Australia
6 Jun 07
I am glad that it has worked out and they can see how it is unfair on the good kids too. My son is still going to talk to her about this incident, he is going to ask if he can come in early tomorrow morning to talk to her about it. Thanks!
