what would u prefer love marriage or an arrange marriage???

@binny29 (1527)
India
June 5, 2007 4:55am CST
since we are the one who decide whom to marry so with whom would u like to marry ur love or ur parents choice??lets see what others think??
2 responses
@wolves69 (756)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I guess I'm on the fence on this one...but for different reasons. My country doesn't normally support arranged marriages. I'm sure they happen, but its kept quiet in most places. However, my marriage wouldn't have happened if my Mother-in-Law, persuaded me "date" her daughter. Eventually, I would have asked her out, but it would have been much, much later. The outcome either way would have been the same, I would have married her, but I like to think we've married for love and really don't consider our marriage of the arranged type. For my Indian friends, I do have a question that has been bothering me for some time. Arranged marriages are somewhat common in Indian culture? Many years ago, I was taking a college class and was asked by the professor to tutor an Indian lady. I didn't have a problem and found her to be very intelligent but lacking in interpreting English quickly in a college environment. She was 16 years older then I and was married ( I wasn't). About half way through the course, she asked if I wanted to meet her husband. He seemed like a nice fellow, but he couldn't speak English, so our conversation was mostly through her. Anyway, we met a few times at the school. A couple of classes later, she informed me that the local TV station was having a cultural show on India and wanted to know if I'd watch it...Sure, was my answer, in my mind, I thought knowing more about Indian culture wouldn't hurt trying to help tutor her. Well, on the last day of class, right before the exam, she wanted me to "pick" from her three daughters which one was the cutest and she would introduce me to her...I always felt that this was the start of an arranged--prospect? BTW: If I wasn't so nervous over the exam, I'm not sure if I'd go through with it. She was insistent that I pick one, but told her I couldn't because all of her daughters were really beautiful (which was the truth).
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
I will marry the one i love rather than sacrificing myself for my parent's choice whom i don't love. To whoever you might be happy, fight for it.