How to deal with seperation ,Divorse,Lonliness

United States
June 5, 2007 3:00pm CST
6 months ago ,I learned that my wife was having an extra-marital affiar behind my back... I left the home immediatly, we had three kids together, and I now have them with me, I miss my wife terribly, and sometimes feel as if I cant go on... but there is no way i could ever be with her agian... My questions is, should i start trying to find another woman, because I feel so lonely all the time, and could use a womans touch in raising my Kids...
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@Signal20 (2281)
• United States
5 Jun 07
If you still have feelings for your wife, I wouldn't go about looking for someone else just yet. That's just setting up for disaster. Instead, focus on your kids and moving on with your life. When the time's right, you'll find someone-usually when you're not looking for it. Good luck-and believe me, it will get better and easier to move on, just takes time :)
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• United States
5 Jun 07
this is what everyone tells me, and i would like to take this advice, but the heart wants what it wants, and Im so sick of being alone...
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
5 Jun 07
Do you miss your wife or do you miss the woman touches that were there and are not now?the reason i ask is you also say there is no way you could ever be with her again. As for the rest of you question again you seem to want a woman because you are lonely and you believe that you kids need a womans touch in raising them. If you could see that from the other side of the coin I want a man because I am lonely and my 3 kids need a daddy to be there for them, Can you see a lot of men lining up at my door. I can't because you are looking to USE a woman, at least you did not in one instance say what you would be able to provide for her. you have made this all about you. So I think you have to reread your question and if this is truly how you feel then you might expect that after you are finished using her she might look to some one else to fill her needs. Before you approach any woman I think you might visit a councilor and find out where you are at and what you want and need, but even more how to find someone that will enrich your life as you do the same to theirs.
• United States
5 Jun 07
actually i think you need to seek council as well, for your insencesitivity, apparently... You just said the exact same thing as i did... i have made it all about me , because, Duh, It is... Im not looking to use anyone... where do you even get off saying that... Btw I can see why they arent lining up your door, I do have them lining up at my door because women love single fathers for some reason I have a lot to offer but thats not what i was asking...... and I turn most of them away cuz they just aint up to snuff... Did you even read the actual question there, i dont think so... Im usually a very kind person, but you have really raised my temper with your Ignorant remarks that made no scence at all... I think you are a Bitter,
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
5 Jun 07
I am sorry I failed my mind reading classes, If I had known you were only looking for sympathy I would have never never answered you discussion. It has been a foolish belief that it takes to to make a marriage and two to break it up, Error noted and regretted. No reply is necessary
• United States
5 Jun 07
well sorry, a discussion, reqires a response so here goes... If i was looking for sympathy, I would have asked for it as you can tell im a pretty blunt person... but there is no responce to appease your bitterness, obviously you have been hurt as well as most have in love, but you took my topic completly out of context...
@kawillow74 (1417)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Yes, to here that my father done the same thing to my mother but she kicked him out. But with 3 kids you should not feel lonely, and there are tons of kids that dont have 2 parents so do you need the woman for the kids or for yourself I think I would give it some time. Good Luck hope it all works out for you.