update on my grandmother (post the other day about nursing home)

United States
June 5, 2007 8:43pm CST
well..she had a massive stroke. just like i though. that nursing home let her be in that room for three weeks without speaking and didnt find that odd. i have a problem with this. she has been there for two years. she has the same staff members all the time. how could they not see that there was a problem??? the doctors say that she is not coming back from this. this is it. in about 3-4 days, she will probably be with my grandfather in heaven. my 10 yr old daughter is having trouble with this as is my 4 yr old. my other two do not know her since they are so little. my 10 yr old lived in her house with me for the first four years of her life. she was very close to her so she is having trouble accepting it. we have talked about it for a while since my grandmother would be turning 90 in july and her health has been declining for a while now. it isnt a surprise but still hard to deal with, especially a child. just wanted to update all my mylot friends that posted to my last post a few days ago. thank you for all listening to me go on and on. i think i really just need to be heard right now and vent. so thanks!!
3 responses
KrisNY
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
7 Jun 07
I am so sorry to hear this- Try to tell your daughter that she will live on forever in her heart and memories- Is it possible to go and see her--?? WOuld it be wise if she isn't speaking- I mean for your daughter to go see her? I can't believe that the nursing home didn't say anything about it- especially with her not speaking for that long- what is wrong with them?? I hope you are able to spend some time with her before she passes-- Think of the long great life she has and had!
charms88
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
Hello mama4kids. I don't think I was able to respond to your previous thread. I'm lost. I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother though. I can understand that kids take the longest to comprehend what's happening to the people around them. I wonder why the staff wasn't able to alert you on your grandmother's condition right away. Your grandmother had survived 9 decades and I'm sure she knows that all of you love her dearly. I can't put in a better word to express my empathy for you. I know you will be able to hold up well and deal with your children's emotions. Make your presence known to them all the time. Explain to them gently about your grandmother. Your children will eventually learn to accept everything.
Thoroughrob
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Boy, this is like I wrote it myself. We are going through the same thing. My grandmother is 86. It is still hard to deal with no matter if it is expected or not. Especially when you are very close. I have a son, who is 12, he has CP and they are so close. I am having a hard time with making him understand. Good luck with your 10 year old. Sorry you are having to go through this. I will keep you in our prayers.