What do you do when you don't like your child's friends?

United States
June 5, 2007 9:18pm CST
Oh, my gosh! I have a 17-year old who is running with the wrong crowd. She's not into drugs or anything...yet. But, these "friends" of hers are doing coke and smoking pot, etc. How do you tell your child that they can't hang out with these people anymore when they've been friends for years? This sucks! Any suggestions?
2 responses
@rusty2rusty (6760)
• Defiance, Ohio
6 Jun 07
I hate to say it but when your child is 17 yrs old. You can't prevent them from hanging around with anyone. YOu can make sure they don't come to your house. Or make sure they are never over unless you are home. But this is the time you need to trust your child and know you raised her right. To make the right judgement calls you have taught her. If you try and stop her from seeing them. She will rebel and do it behind your back.
• United States
6 Jun 07
Thank you for the advice! I figured there was pretty much nothing I could do about it, except for not let them in my home and the like. It's frustrating!
• Defiance, Ohio
6 Jun 07
Yes, it is very frustating. That is why you need to trust your self on how well you raised your daughter.
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• United States
6 Jun 07
I'm beginning to think I didn't discipline her enough. I'm making up for that with my 4-year old. Poor guy!
@rusty2rusty (6760)
• Defiance, Ohio
6 Jun 07
Oh and I almost forgot..You might want to sit her down and have a talk with her. Explain to her that you know some of her friends (do not name names) are into things that are bad and can harm her. If not kill her. Tell her you will not stop her from being friends with them. But tell her you trust her to do the right thing. That you taught her better than doing those things. Or falling for peer pressure to do those things. At her age you will get alot further if you have a heart to heart talk with her. Than risking her rebel.
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