I think my kid is jealous of my cat!

United States
June 6, 2007 1:01pm CST
I wanted to get another parent's point of view on this issue, so I posted this question here, instead of the cat forum. I think my kid is jealous of my cat! Every since we brought the cats back into our living space, things have been tense in our home. My daughter tries to kick the cats and pick them up. She knows better than to pick them up. And, I am constantly reminding her not to harrass the cats. But, she seems to be jealous of them. I don't think that I am paying too much attention to our cats. But, any time at all paid to them, seems too much for her. The other day when my smallest female cat climbed up into my lap and went to sleep, my three year old got upset and demanded that I throw her in the floor. Of course, I didn't. But, I put the cat on another chair for her nap. After that my daughter got upset with me. I am not sure if she's just jealous of the cats. Or, maybe she wanted to hold the cat, too? Basically, she wants to be the only one that gets to pet the cats, or feed them. And, she's trying to exclude me from handling or caring for them at all. Has this happened with your children and pets, before? Please tell me how you handled it. I'm confused on the entire issue. Since this was a question that concerned small children as well as pets, I was hoping that maybe some of the parents here had some experience dealing with this issue.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
6 Jun 07
my little girl is like that with the dog. she likes to pick her up and i have seen her kick the dog. i think that she feels she has control over something smaller then she is. i don't see her so much as being jealous of the dog. she like your child wants to feed her and take care of too. you just have to let her know that she has to be nice, and she can not hit or be mean. and if she does then she needs a time out. when i find that my little one doesn't listen then she is not allow to feed the dog. she is ususally good for a while after that
• United States
6 Jun 07
Thank you so much for your advice. I was at my wits end on handling the situation. Just like your daughter, mine is in love with her cats. And, she gets devastated when I have to put them in the laundry room for awhile. And, at the same time, she doesn't treat them nicely. It's very contradictory behavior. It's been very confusing. I will tell her about treating the cats nicely or else she won't get to take care of them. She loves feeding the cats. I think that will straighten up the situation very quickly! Thanks again.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
6 Jun 07
you are welcome. the point is to let her know that acting that way she will not be rewarded. trust me i learned the hard way. with three kids, you learn as you go along and find what works. and that i know works. good luck with your little one and the poor cats. LOL