Are you completely open with your friends?

United States
June 6, 2007 9:29pm CST
I know for myself personally- it wasnt until very recently when I went through my own personal life crisis that I really started to be completely open with my friends. Confiding in them and leaning on them when I really needed their support. However, I often wonder if there are many people out there who are like I was- not open. For example, do you talk to your friends or close friend about everything? No matter what it is. If not, why not? What keeps you from opening up to them?
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@miaolin (397)
• China
7 Jun 07
I always say that I'm as simple as a piece of white paper.It's because I think I have no secret at all.I prefer to tell nealy all my business to my friends,of course,best friends.To keep those things to myself,I would feel uncomfortable.I hope my friends can share with me and help me.Even though I write diary everday,I can't help telling my business to my friends.I think now that we are good friends,we should trust each other.Yes,I tell them everything.
• United States
7 Jun 07
Well, is it really possible to have no personal secrets? Hmmm, I have heard other people say what you are saying and I always find that difficult to believe.
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• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Nope. I am not. I can't tell them everything. Maybe the problem is not with them me but myself. It might be that I'm just afraid to be judged or be rejected by them. The only person I can confide with is my boyfriend. I just trust him so much and I believe that no matter what my secret is he'll never judge me.
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• United States
7 Jun 07
Sweetangie26- I totally understand. I was exactly the same way. I guess its part of that knowing that your friends judge other ppl all the time and so when there is something really important or delicate that is going on in your life- it makes it extremely hard to open up to them. Thanks for the comment.
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@tmlnmr (1850)
• Canada
7 Jun 07
Yes I do I have a couple of good friends that I know I can talk to about anything no matter what it is. I have always said that my life is an open book and if you want to know anything just ask. I don't give out all details to everyone but to my closest friends I do because they can't give me proper support or advice if I don't.
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• United States
7 Jun 07
This is very true. I never thought of that. Thanks for the comment.
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@dlufel (424)
• Australia
8 Jun 07
Not completely. I dont tell them my very private issues but all the general stuff, they know. I cant tell the whole thing to them because sometimes it's too private and cultural expectation demands me to keep quiet.
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@once79 (89)
• China
8 Jun 07
In my opinion,everyone has his own privacy that he/she do not let others know because it is a secret.If he/she share it with others ,he/she maybe lost his/her dignity and be laughed at.Before answering this question,could I ask you :"are you completely open with your parents?" I think I could not completely.So I will open with my good friends and parents,but not completely,because it is my personal secret.
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
nope///// there are some things that i ought to keep for my self only...
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@syain1972 (1011)
• Singapore
7 Jun 07
I have 3 special friends that I would normally open up to. We have been for each other since we were a young teenager. It has been more than 20 years now. We would talk about almost everything especially when we have problems that are hard for us to handle alone. It does help a lot to have someone to lean on with no malice attache to.
• United States
7 Jun 07
I'm completely open with some friends and others I just don't tell things too. They just don't deserve to know in my opinion. There are some people that just cannot be trusted with certain information and in my opinion, I'd rather keep it to myself or only tell those that deserve to know instead of telling one unworthy person that will cause trouble.
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@rohit_16 (78)
• India
7 Jun 07
yes m completely open with my friends. We talk abt everything wat ever it may be bt v do discussion on it and then on some result. It helps me a lot to take important decision of myself. its good to b open with ur friends or close friends.
@mymytri (2032)
• India
7 Jun 07
yeah.i am open to my close friends.they are my well wishers.helps me a lot when i need thier support.they understand me well infact they know more about than myself.i really thank the god for giving me such good friends you know.i dont forget thier help and encouragement when am in crisis.
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@suspenseful (40314)
• Canada
7 Jun 07
I can talk to my friends, but I will not tell them everything. The only person who can do that is someone who has never done anything wrong. There are some things I will tell some of my friends, but I will tell it to others, because of their assumptions. It is the assumptions that prevent people from revealing everything.
@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
8 Jun 07
I guess im more of an introvert person.. I dun talk to my friends about everything, anything under the sky... I mean certain sensitive issues like family problem, bgr are hard to elaborate, isnt it? If they have been through it, they might uddnderstand, if not, why care, right? For me, i dun think many people would be interested in my story, thus i dont share things often with them... Unless, we are talking about it and they share the same view point, that will be different... =) At least i noe talking to them about it makes me feel better if i noe they can understand and relate to what im talking about...
@tala91285 (1080)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
I have this close group of friends whom I can share anything with. We tell each other our secrets and we can be assured that we wouldn't be judged based on what we say and stuff. I'm totally open with my boyfriend though. I tell him everything ^_^
@tamskie (388)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
Yes I am completely open with my friends. I tell them about my life, my situation, my happiness and also my problems. But, I do not open up to them those things that is concerened about other people. I just open up to them those things that they should really know about me.
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
7 Jun 07
I believe that almost nobody is completely open, but not only with friends, but with anybody. We all save a bit for ourselves. Some save a lot, some less, but i think there's always a bit of us we don't share. Anyway leaving that aside i consider it's great to open up to those friends you can really trust and that you know that will be with you in times of need like when you had your crisis. I am glad that you had persons around you that were eager to help :)
@hjoanne (10)
• Canada
7 Jun 07
I am a pretty open person so I'd have to say ya to this. I'm pretty careful tho to have cool friends. I don't hang out with people who gossip cuz i know they will be talking at my back when I leave so I say avoid those people.
@devilinu (105)
• India
7 Jun 07
nope...keep my distance....cant b too sure of the ppl nemore....its not like they'll hurt me...but sumthings jus need to end on u...u cant speak...sumthings are diffcult to understand...u do but not necessarily they'll.... things get too complicated at times...too much pain in it to tell
7 Jun 07
I can honestly say that as a child growing into a woman, I had a few close friends that I could rely upon to be genuine with me, at that point in time, I found it very easy to be open with anyone and I was a big believer in speaking my mind, whether my thoughts and ideas were postive or negative toward the listener. However as an adult, I have been repeatedly let down by people calling themselves my friends, and as a result, I say a lot less than I used to. It's a nice idea to be able to unload all of your thoughts an fears, but what if your listener decides one day to use these ideas and emotions against you. It's very true that during an entire lifetime we only meet a handful of others we can trust, at the end of the day, everyone does have their own agenda.
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Oh absolutely..I'm very open about my life the good and the bad and when it comes to my closest and dearest friends I'm very open with them..Mind you when I'm having a rough patch I wont generally tell them until after I've sorted things out but thats only becuase thats how I need to do things (sort it out for myself)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Honestly, I'm more honest and open with my online friends than my real life friends. I feel less judged by people I talk to online. I know part of the reason is we will most likely never meet in real life, so I'll never have to look at them in person and feel like they think I'm nuts, or they don't agree with the way I think about things, etc. I used to be very open with one particular friend in real life, years ago, who I considered my best friend. She seemed to be very trustworthy and a wonderful friend until my then husband and I separated. He went to her to try to get information about me to use against me and she willingly gave it to him. I'll never understand why. Hence, why I trust people I really don't know and who don't really know me over someone I know in the real world. Best of luck!