Am i too possessive?
June 6, 2007 9:55pm CST
I always wonder, or rather, sometimes i cant help but thinking, am i too possessive? I guess i am way too possessive right? But doesnt it happens to everyone? I would like to hear ur opinions on this... I love my bf alot... Thugh he calims that he loves me too... Sometimes i get very jealous by his actions... I know he used to do lots more for his ex gfs... =( I just cant stand his ex gfs and other bees around him... Meaning to say.. Sometimes, there will be girls getting too close to him... Even when his bro's gf gets close or talk to him, i will feel jealous, on a side note, his bro's gf is one year younger then me only... Sometimes i feel myself getting too paranoid.. Far too much for my own good, but i just cant help it... We used to meet almost everyday in the past, but now, i think he seems like abit tired of me... He will like tend to dun meet me, im not sure is it im thinking too much, or is it the truth? I dunno.... But i wants to spend every minute with him and of coz i hope he does the same, am i too possessive? Or am i just thinking too much?Dun like the insane me... =[
8 Jun 07
i think you are confussed with the emotion of you,exactly i am in the opposive situation. i have some guy friends in college and we are really good friends.my bf know that and he will be jealous of that sometimes, but i think i have to have some space although i am his gf,i have to have some friends,i insist it , and because of it ,he will be unhappy and sometimes we are fighting for it. you just worrying about losing him,and my bf is worrying about losing me.so i think you have to give him more space or he will feel more and more depressed to be with u.i kown your feeling and i really want to make you more confident, he is yours.i hope you can be more happier. if you have something unhappy, tell me and i will be with u.
8 Jun 07
Thank u! U r so nice... Yah, sometimes i think he ought to have his own cycle of friends too... Perhaps i shouldnt think of things my way and force him to accept my mentality either.. Hes someone whos truly sweet and understanding... I dunno why i am still so insecure... I guess its just that my past bf in flaunted the bad feelings on me, thus i tend to think of guys as that... But i really am trying to open up and be less jealous and psossessive... I wanna make things last as well... =)
8 Jun 07
yes ~~~i hope you happy. you are a sweet girl, i like the girls like you,maybe because i am some one like you , sometimes i will be worry about our future and worry about him.i hope i can get married with him, because i look forward a house and a sweet home, i hope i can stay with him every minute.i hope he will love me as i love him. sometime when he hurt me i will in despair and cry.he is a child and he could not know what i want sometime.i would like to share sth with u i think u can know me. the suffering from love~~~~in a holiday, we are travelling in a old city.he is unhappy and he left me there and i can't find him, i am scared and i have no money to check in a hotel.it is really heartrending experience~~and after that i am scared of losing him~~~
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7 Jun 07
You may be trying to hard to make him love you as much as you love him. I would stand off a bit but not too much and you know what I used to be the same way with my husband before we got married we even almost broke up over it because this one girl and her actions toward my then boyfriend. I just had a bad feeling about her so you know what go with you feeling inside. Just be careful and try to give him some space. If he has never given you reason not to trust him then trust him. Hey he's with you, you should feel proud to have him as your boyfriend.
7 Jun 07
Yah, i guess i understand what u meant.. Im trying hard to give him his own space and own freedom too... I dun wanna be an unreasonable and annoying gf afterall... =) Yah, i am aware that such acts might make me lost him too... But i guess its pretty hard ya... Sometimes i just cant keep my mind... Perhaps i love him too much, love him too much for my own good too... mBut isnt it suppose to be that way? I mean when u love one, isnt he supppose to be on ur mind all the time? Or at least most of the time?
7 Jun 07
it's but normal to feel jealous when you see your bf talk to other girls especially if he gets extra close to them. but if you trust him enough, you wouldn't feel intimidated by the presence of other girls around your bf. you are right.. maybe you're just a little paranoid. you said that you used to meet almost everyday.. probably, the reason why you feel that he's getting tired of you is because you see less of each other lately.. think about it. it's normal to feel like being with them every minute but there are instances when you can't simply do that.. the best thing you can do is to talk to him. talk about your relationship and how you exactly feel. listen to what he's got to say.. maybe you will feel a little better. good luck! ^^,)
7 Jun 07
We do talk and talk quite alot in fact... He noes im not comfortable with him having girls around him and hes one whom will say he misses them, but as friends only... But that is enough to keep me annoyed... I mean yah, when u said that often to another girl, she might just be mistaken right? I dun even wants him to lead others on... I mean i dun like people doing them... I guess i must keep down being too paranoid... =) Thanks for ur advice... it was great hearing from u guys... But i guess yah, its the tired days that keeps us having less energy thus not much time to meetup too... I will try my best to be more understand though... =)