Rules for A Happy Marriage...How would you react with this:
By archer1811
@archer1811 (1098)
Philippines
June 6, 2007 10:08pm CST
For all married people out there, are you applying this in your daily life as married couple? for those still single are you willing to do all this in order to have a happy marriage?1. Never both be angry at the same time.
2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
3. If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.
4. If you have to criticize do it lovingly.
5. Never bring up mistakes in the past.
6. Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
7. At least once everyday try to say one kind or compliment word.
8. When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it. It takes two to make a quarrel and the one in the wrong is the one who does the most talking.
So easy to think but hard to do sometimes specially the no.8. Hope all marriages works till forever..
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5 responses
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
7 Jun 07
My marriage is great and I am sure we don't follow any of these rules..lol. Although My husband does know that number 3 is a given with me. I am always the winner !! It is very hard to follow rules in a marriage. the real way to make sure a marriage succeeds, is to make sure if anything does go wrong, you are willing to stick it out and fix it instead of giving up. Too many people give up too easily now.
@archer1811 (1098)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
Same with me, am happy for my married life, though sometimes we have simple argument but we didnt do yell to each other, am a quite type of person and my husband do the talking most he didnt actually get angry to me, all he tells is he want me to learn sorry and admit my mistakes, i remember before i never really said sorry to him even if im the one in wrong, my husband do the first move to end the misunderstanding, according to him an argument need to fix before sleeping dont wait till tomorrow, am so lucky having. My husband is more mature than me, am that kind of easy go lucky person i depend everything to my husband, but am mature now and learning to be more responsible as my hubby is leading me to become a better person, am not bad, its just happen that i grew up as a dependent one, i get married when i was 22 and my husband is 25 then.
These days too many married couple is giving up easily, its maybe their pride. How i wish a successful marriage to all.
Thanks for sharing your thought. Hope that God guide us always thru a better way to protect our marriage.
God bless you and your family.
@patgalca (18181)
• Orangeville, Ontario
7 Jun 07
I think I have seen this list before. It might be a good idea to blow it up and stick it to a cupboard in the kitchen where both of us can see if every day. Of course my husband would be the first to point to, say, number four and give me a stern warning. LOL! How does one criticize lovingly? I think a better way would be not to criticize but suggest something else - turn towards the positive rather than focus on the negative. Don't say, "I don't like that blue dress on you" but rather say, "That red dress looks so good on you".
I don't let my mate win arguments because I am usually right. I have to choose the right time to bring up the argument. Arguing about his drinking WHILE he is drinking just doesn't cut it. I wait until the next day to tell him how stupid he was. But I must say, we tell each other every day, at least once, that we love each other. And he thanks me every time I put a meal in front of him and I thank him when he helps out washing dishes or cleaning the house.
I think I have to learn not to yell. :p
@archer1811 (1098)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
hahaha you made me laugh when i read your response about you dont let your mate win arguments coz your usually right. That's exactly me when i was on the early stage of my marriage, i dont admit my mistakes and my husband is the one who need to understand me coz he's more mature than me, but now am learning a little.
am thinking that am always right and never say sorry at all, but am so lucky to have my husband he dont actually drunk but smoke and now he is on his way of quitting (hopefully)hahaha, he is so responsible and do all household choires when he is on vacation coz im working. I am so very thankful of having him in my life no regret at all.
@urbangirl (1456)
• Australia
7 Jun 07
Well, we're all human...and following rules like this is not as easy as it seems. I think if it comes naturally to do all these things, then fair enough but otherwise, we all fall into at least some of these "no-no" behaviours at some point.
@youless (112131)
• Guangzhou, China
7 Jun 07
Thanks for your share, my friend. I especially think the rule 3 is very humorous:) The high EQ person tends to use it.
