How to acquire a successful marriage?

Don't leave the success of your marriage to fate; and belive in the 2 things individuality and straigt approach to life. Secret 1: Successful Married Couples get their deal straight .Marriage is different from living together. It's not necessarily better, but it's different. Both of you will have different expectations of a 'spouse' than of a 'partner' - often basing those expectations on what you saw of your parents' married life. For example, you may have been happy for your man to live the student life before the wedding, but afterwards, you expect him to draw a regular salary. Successful couples talk deeply before the wedding about their expectations of each other, and if there's serious disagreement - for example he wants kids, she doesn't - they think seriously about whether to marry. After the wedding, successful couples also talk regularly to check their expectations of married life. If those expectations clash, they keep communicating until they have understanding and agreement. Secret 2: Successful Married Couples keep their individuality . However independent you were before, marriage has a habit of sucking you in to being a couple. Particularly if the marriage involves children, your lives are increasingly tied up together day-to-day. The result is often feeling both dependent and depended on - as though you have someone constantly clinging to your ankles. Successful couples know that, however much love there is, marriage can bring this trapped feeling. They encourage each other not to be always 'us', to take 'me' time, to have 'me' hobbies and even 'me' friends. This way, each partner brings individuality in to the marriage, keeping it fresh and alive.

I guess the basis of a successful marriage is the unconditional love shared by the couple. If love is still there, everything follows...the thing is, each one should know how to nurture and maintain the feelings. It includes understanding, patience, trust, sacrifices, responsibility..etc...

I honestly don't believe any two people can have a successful marriage. I think it takes work and commitment and something special to jel the two together for life. A lot it has to do with the fact our grandparents and their parents handled things. They had fights but many would work at it and make it "something" special because they could be together even if they had moments we're they hated each other, they still worked on that. I met my wife when I was sixteen, we dated for 4 months when I asked her to marry me and we waited three years to do that. We've now been married for one year and we're happy together. Not to sound big headed but we know what we can and can't do and just accept things, we hardly ever fight and when we do it's just talking things out like adults. She's my world and I think the way we are means we won't get into trouble. I'm happy to be her husband for life. ~Joey

There are far too many answers to this question to list! I believe the definition of "successful" is personal; unique to each individual. Additionally, marriage is a a recipe with many ingredients - again, these ingredients are unique to each individual, each marriage. Some couples like romance, some don't. Some revel in the humor they share, some in interests. I don't think there is one big secret to a successful marriage, but I do think that there are some ingredients that need to be present in every marriage to serve as a foundation, specifically: mutual respect for each other, kindness (goes hand-in-hand with respect), a high level of personal integrity, and the ability to be alone at times and be happy about that. Yes, there are many other ingredients that can help form a foundation and again, I think those are unique to each individual. I do find it sad, however, that we often seem to be kinder to strangers in the grocery store than we are to those people who share our homes with us. Just food for thought...

The bible says "He who finds a wife finds a good thing".marriage is a wonderful institution.All u need to keep it going is to remember that you are not perfect and u shouldnt expect the other person to be perfect.You need to Tolerate,Endure and understand the other person

I think the successful marriage base on one thing,it is love.without it,you will fail. Before you get married,you should make a good understanding about your partner,you should know that the marriage is blest,if you do that,you should never regret. you should try your best to manage your marriage all your life. it is just my personal opinion.hehe

Relationships and Marriage are built on a foundation consisting of trust and communication. Your relationship cannot survive if you do not trust your partner. If your relationship is shaky, and you get married but you still have little trust in your partner, your marriage will suffer greatly. Communication is very important. You must be able to talk to your partner. How can your partner get to know you if you do not talk with him or her? How are you able to gain your partner's trust, if you do not speak with him or her? I met my now-husband on the internet almost 5 years ago. We moved in together in 2003. On Christmas Day of 2006, we married. There is something to be said for trust and communication.

ahh just love the guy