love marriage or arrange ??
By kishikapur
@kishikapur (564)
India
6 responses
@kishikapur (564)
• India
7 Jun 07
ya thats true
but if your parents asks you for arrange marriage then ??
will you go for your love or you will go with your parents ??
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@forisuru (217)
• Sri Lanka
7 Jun 07
Dear Friend,
At that if i had a love affair and i truley love my partner...I won't marry any other person. Even my parents don't like it. Because if i say "I love you", That love should be there forever, whatever obstacle came .
Thanks
@kishikapur (564)
• India
8 Jun 07
ok so you want to say you are going to leave your parents,
if they dont agree to your love marriage ??
are you going to leave them for your love ??
@paradise12 (938)
• India
7 Jun 07
I would prefer love marriage over arrange marriage because we know that person very well,his weakness,stength,likes,dilikes and the marriage would be smooth sailing whereas in arrange you dont know anything about him and it would take more time to understand him fully.By the we come to know about the person you would in middle of the marriage and if you think hi is not right you cant do anything.
In love marriage if there is a problem you know what the other person is thinking and what will be his next step.
And i beleive a a devil is better known than ghosts..
@devilinu (105)
• India
7 Jun 07
well said...i liked that last line u said...
jus too good..
ask me this question n i'll say no marraige....
luv or arranged....luv in the former ...all the luv is over b4 the marraige...after its jus complainin n 'u wer never like this b4...u hv changed' kind of fights....theres are many exceptions ...but this is wat happenes mostly...trust me i hv seen it...
arrange is far better...u get to know the person after marraige...u also know that u hv no choice but to live with it...so u start adjustind n adapting....so by the time u hv had enuf of it...it 40 years into marraige...
mostly u get used to their habits...there are exception here too....
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
love marriage of course.. i just can't marry a man i don't love and a totally stranger in me...
@TinaCL (429)
• United States
16 Jun 07
I can see the merits of an arranged marriage--there you don't come in with illusions of what love "should" be. You have more realistic expectations, so yuo're more willing to compromise and work things out with the person.
On the other hand, I believe that love should be the basis of any good marriage, and it's not for others to choose who you love. If my parents ever put me into an arranged marriage I'd probably run away.
@tracy1985 (654)
• China
7 Jun 07
In the modern society,I think most people choose love marriage.we get married base on love,because of love,it can make our marriage last longer.
but in the old ages of our country,a lot of people get married by arranging by their parents.they did not have love,they married just for kids.the responsibility is only thing for them to keep relationshiip.I think they did not feel happy.
if you want to marry,please pay more attention to love,not anything else.
@fleur_petal (883)
• India
10 Jun 07
well if gven a choice i wud say none. its lik asking a person whether he/she wants to be killed by bullet or by hanging!!! but tsill if hv to marry and i hv no other choice thn i ll prefer love marriage over arrange marriage. tht wy atleast i knw wit hwm i m spending my whole life wit!
