mother of one going on two

Hi browneyez, I also have two children and when I had my second one my girl(the 1st) was very excited. I made sure she was very involved with the taking care of him by bringing me things when I changed him and helping me feed him or keeping an eye on him when he slept. She was only 2 at the time but she never got jealous of him and they actually grew up rather close. I also spent as much time with her while he slept as I could. The two of us did special things together whether it was playing catch in the back yard or going for a little walk or going to a friends house. As long as it was just the two of us. She also knew that if I was feeding the baby and she needed my attention then she had it. I never left the baby alone but if she had something to say then I listened. As the baby grew I began to teach her that she had to wait her turn to talk to me and not to disrupt when I was being talked to. If you teach your daughter what is acceptable and stick with it then you will not have that kind of problem with her. If you make sure she knows that you will always be there for her she will manage ok. Don't take out any frustrations that are caused by the baby on her, as in being tired. If you tell her you will do something then do it. Good luck!