the ex at the wedding
By teleios
@teleios (737)
Philippines
June 8, 2007 7:46am CST
is is poor taste to invite one's ex at your wedding? what if you and your ex have become really good friends? im posting this because i'm watching a soap on TV about a guy who called to invite his ex to his wedding, which i think he really should not have done! now the girl is crying and this sappy music is playing and i'm sure housewives all over the philippines are crying and wiping their eyes with their aprons!
5 responses
@silver_shaddow (1204)
•
8 Jun 07
He would do that just to spite her. But generally, I wouldn't, because an EX must be an EX. It's like saying "hey, come to my wedding and see what you have lost". Sounds so evil doesn't it?
If that would have happend to me, I would come up to the groom and say..."hey I used to date your wife, do this to her if u want to make her come easy, lol"!
And I don't believe that Ex's can be friends again. that is total crap!!
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@teleios (737)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
i guess this depends on the kind of relationship that you've had and the kind of person that the one getting married is. if he/she is a spiteful person and the relationship with the ex ended up badly, then i guess we know the motive behind the invitation. but if the friendship with the ex is real, then its ok. but i really think that the guy in the soap only wanted to get a reaction from his ex...so typical!
@explorations (1712)
• United States
8 Jun 07
I don't think it's in poor taste at all if you're still involved in some way. For example, my best friends parents have been divorced for YEARS . . . but they're best friends and they attended each of their weddings. In their case, they weren't in love and decided to disolve the marriage before it turned bitter for the kid's sakes. I've always thought that was very healthy. I'm still involved with my children's father for obvious reasons - they need to see them and we both take part in raising them - and I've often thought we'd attend each other's weddings if we remarried so the kids could see how we can still all get along despite these changes in our lives.
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@teleios (737)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
reading the replies of the others i think its safe to say that it depends on the kind of relationship that you've had or still have. if you have a real, no-strings-attached friendship with your ex it would be totally healthy and natural for you to invite him at the wedding.i'm glad there are people out there who are making this work ;)
@amaleigh73 (499)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Well, two of my ex's were IN my wedding. I actually met my husband because of them, so we all had a really good relationship. They are both married and we all got along great. . .and still do. I think if inviting one's ex upsets the other one that much, it shouldn't be done.
@FenwaySox (321)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Its funny you bring this point up. My ex just recently got engaged, and we have a 6 yr old boy together. I am terrific friends with him and his fiance. Now they are going to have a small wedding since it is the second marriage for both. I would definitely go if I was invited, but I certainly dont expect to be invited. They are both wonderful people, and I am so happy for them, however, I would truly understand if thehy do not invite me. Its their wedding.
@pradoz (404)
• India
8 Jun 07
Its actually the choice of the individual whether to invite their ex to their wedding.But i don't think a unilateral decision is good in this case.The person should consult his/her prospective spouse and make sure she has no problems before trying out such a hing
