why is it that it's more okay if men were the one to cheat?

@kharen (1488)
Philippines
June 8, 2007 11:36am CST
I've noticed that when men are the ones who cheated.. it would be just an overnight gossip about them and then it's over.. it's like they've just made a little mistake unlike when women are the ones who cheated or who accidentally cheated (because hearts of women are very sensitive and easily fall), people think she made a very big mistake that can't be forgiven for a long time or even a long life time?? Why?? that's not really fair!!
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13 responses
@tarachand (3895)
• India
8 Jun 07
In this day and age, I think there should be no difference, In the past, when the woman was left literally holding the child with no prospects of marriage, and both the mother and generally thrown out of society this unfortunately was more acceptable. I'd say that is one cares and loves the other person, then one must accept that person with all his/her faults, that includes infidelity.
@tarachand (3895)
• India
8 Jun 07
oops...I missed the word child ..... mother and child. Sorry for the error!
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
tnx for sharing me your point of view.. ^^,
8 Jun 07
Hi there, I dont think its ok for a man or woman to cheat i think that if your with some one then there should not be anyone else. but i do feel its easy for a man than a woman
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
yep,no one is excused from cheating because even if who the cheater is.. it's still bad..
• United States
8 Jun 07
I know exactly what your talking about. I think sometimes it has to do with the fact that the women are the ones who get pregnant. What i mostly have seen is that women will cheat and not say anything until she has a baby and is unsure of whol the childs biological father is. Then the men seem to blow up the situation to make it seem like the woman wasnt allowed to make a mistake ever, when in reality...how many men cheat and have no one find out, but since women get pregnant, it makes it easier to get caught. More men just hide it and make it seem like its not so bad.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
and maybe one thing is men doesn't consider it as something big, it's not an issue for them, unlike when you call a woman bad names..it's a soo big issue for them that just makes them guilty and makes the issue last longer..
@martinha (631)
• Portugal
8 Jun 07
It's sad but it's true. I believe we live in a society where the male is still dominant. It's more acceptable to cheat if you are the man. I think that is stupid but if a man has lots of women he's awesome and if it's on the contrary the woman is called so many bad names... In my opinion they both should be punished. Cheating is always cheating. It doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
yeah..if only all people think the same.. cheating is still cheating, in a love triangle perhaps..the mistress will be called bad names and they'll say.. "how could she agree to have a relationship with a man who's already married?!"..a harsh reaxn for the woman but for the man, i don't think he'll be recieving such reaxn as harsh as what the woman/mistress recieved..
• United States
8 Jun 07
It's true.. in some societies it's more "acceptable" if men cheat as opposed to women. I think it stems from years and centuries ago, when men were allowed to take various wives and concubines and who knows what else. So, since at one point men were allowed to have more than one woman, some may figure it's not as disrespectful because there was a time when it was allowed. There's a lot things like this though, for example - women can cook and clean and work, yet if it's weird if a man cooks and cleans. A woman can wear both pink and blue - but men still get odd looks by some if they wear pink. I think in the grand scheme of things, it's all relative.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
you're right..maybe that's the real root of it.. thnx for somewhat giving me an idea.. ^^,
• India
8 Jun 07
hey its not true. whoever cheats it does become a gossip and falls one level low in the opposite gender's view. i feel women should stand 4 their own right wen it comes to sch stuff which in many cases it does not hppn.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
i just took a notice of it..
@Roswell (104)
• India
9 Jun 07
Well Cheating is not good either way by men or women. Women are like flowers they dont tend to move on much they look beautiful stay calm and cute whereas men are the honeybees they hav power i.e. stinger they make loud noises they come n take some nector from one flower and move on to the another until he is satisfied causes much grief to women as they want their babies (via pollen in plants) to germinate which sticks on to us and we take it
@inked4life (4224)
• United States
8 Jun 07
I don't believe that's the case at all. I don't think it's right or more okay for anyone, male or female, to cheat. There's absoulutely no justification given that will make me believe that it's an okay thing to do.
@pelo26 (1552)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
Because the world is so much saturated with men cheating on their wives that somehow people find nothing new or interesting anymore about the deed. On the other hand, if a woman is found cheating on their hubbies, almost everyone's quick to criticize how bad the deed was. I think culture has a lot to do with it. In my country, people are hard on women cheating. Cheers!
• Singapore
9 Jun 07
Maybe it is just the culture/tradition - after all, men have been in power for a long time and equality for the genders is a relatively new thing. I do not feel it is ok for either the man or the woman to cheat though. If you want to get married, practise fidelity.
• South Africa
8 Jun 07
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• Saudi Arabia
21 Jul 07
My dear Kharen that is because we live in a double-standard world! Whether we accept that or not is something else, yet, it's the harsh reality.
• India
17 Aug 09
Hey Kharen, nice discussion. I think this is one of the questions in life for which we will never get a satisfactory answer. I'll answer just for the question you posted. Nothing less nothing more. "Why is it that it's more okay if men were the one to cheat?" Suppose a man cheated on his spouse, with a one night stand with another woman. He goes home and forgets about it soon. The woman, let's say gets pregnant, is hooked with the child for the rest of her life. So you see, men cheats: just an overnight gossip. Women cheats: gossips till the end of your life or for a long time. N.B: I have no inclination to men here, but just an example of how things go around or people think goes around, to the question Kharen asked.