Do you dare to tell about your first love with your mate/lover?
By mymytri
@mymytri (2030)
India
June 8, 2007 7:20pm CST
well.if you fall in love with some one for the first time and get married then i might say you are lucky.ok.but it may not happens to everybody in the world.may they have some bad experiences,failures,broken hearts.right.if suppose if you got married to a person after failure in your first love or you met a ture lover who care you and loves you a lot (not first one).Do you dare to tell and discuss about your first love or would like to hide it in yourself?or you are the lucky person who got a good lover/mate with the person who you met first?
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22 responses
@vonne28th (1494)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
Yeah,i tell it to him if he ask me. I was also asked by my boyfriend about my former exes before and i tell him the half truth..heheh. He never reacted anyways,he just listened. Well,but i don't tell to my boyfriend all the private infos.unless we are married.
@Madona1 (2096)
• Gibraltar
9 Jun 07
Well, when I dated my husband, he asked me about my ex. Then I told him the true and reason. But I did not tell him in full details, as it is unnecessary. I think he already got what he wanted to know.
@navtech (1773)
• India
9 Jun 07
Hi, mumytri, This is a good discussion. Telling about the past life to a wife or husband depends upon the nature and understanding of individual. Because every individual has own outlook and understanding. When I started telling my wife about the past, immediately she said "I did not want to know anything about your past. Past is past. I never asked her about the past also. To great extent I knew her past. I also know she knew to a great extent of my past. I personally feel talking about the past after marriage is meaningless.
@katkat3 (425)
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9 Jun 07
Hi.. I don't really talk to my b/f about previous relationships cos he doesn't like it - which is fine by me. I do have quite alot of history so suppose it's probably for the best!
@fellowlife (988)
• Nigeria
10 Jun 07
well i had a break-up with my last girlfriend which was also my first relationship. I nearly ran mad when she told me she was no longer interested in our affair when i had given her my all.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I have no problem talking to my husband about any of my former partners or mates...I see no reason to hide it, its a part of my past, it gives a bit of insight to the person I am now in a relationship and IMO to hide it is to almost be ashamed of it and I'm not ashamed at all of my past lovers or loves...
@velvetprinzess (1064)
• Singapore
9 Jun 07
Yes, I would dare to tell them a little about my previous partners but no details. Because I wouldn't want my current partner to get jealous or feel bad.
I wouldn't voluntarily start telling my current partner about my previous loves though. But will do so only if I am asked. These matters can be rather sensitive that's why.
@Melody1 (967)
• India
9 Jun 07
I belong to the category of lucky person according to your description here.Lol.I had no experiences of any kind of intimacy with any man.Though I used to find many people attractive,but that's it.I like and find many men attractive even after marriage and do not hide it from my husband.Have no reason to.Lol.
@sweetmae27 (181)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
well, before me and my husband got married, we've talked about our past and doesn't seem to matter because we know that we love each other that much. we just want to share with each other our past experiences with our exes. for us, they're now only part of the past and what's important now is our family and our future ahead.
@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
That was the first thing I said to my partner when we decided to live in one roof. I don't want to hide anything from her and I thought it would be nice to tell her my past so she would understand me in times that I'm bothered by such experiences. And that works for us and she too told me about her past and now we moved on and both understand each other.
@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 07
well..i wouldn't bring up the subject about my first love to my special someone. but if he asks about it, then i wouldn't have any choice but to tell. i'd be careful with my words, though..i don't want him to think that i'm comparing him with my ex or for him to be offended with anything. if he really loves me and all, he wouldn't mind about my first love because he's the one with me now, and he's the person that i love, no one else^_^
@Avaava258 (4)
• China
9 Jun 07
Hi,I must tell you that my english is very poor.
I know the feeling of love,if I can't marriage with my first love,it's not the end. Love is a power that makes one grow up. If someone love me of now,if my BF want know this, I'll tell him.
And the first affect now,it's a problem between two.
TRUST
@michaelleo (179)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
its better to open up the topic about your first love to your lover in order for her to trust you....by telling her about it,you can establish trust and confidence with each other....then try telling her about all the things you have done before in order for her to stop worrying about your past love affair...this is one of the things you should do to stop the confusions and the doubts inside you and your partner.......
@nandhinir (154)
• India
9 Jun 07
It depends on the mate you get as wife or lover...
If she is good and understandable all matters then you can share with her.Or else keep going with present life...If not you will be in trouble for the rest of life...
