Do you let your baby cry it out?
By tanniebabe78
@tanniebabe78 (2934)
United States
June 8, 2007 8:25pm CST
I am not a believer in this practice at all. I see the temptation of giving into the strategy, but in the end, my darling baby's cry is too powerful. I tried it once with my son 4 years ago, and have never done it since.
Admittedly, it is very difficult to get anything done with a little baby attached to you, like some newly grown in appendage. And if they happen to be fed off of you, it is even more difficult, because they always want the milk.
I read about the process of letting your baby cry themselves out and self soothe and it never made sense to me. If a baby has no concept of object permenance, then when you leave their line of sight, you disappear.... and if you don't come back, they cannot know you are EVER coming back. Why would a parent choose to do that to a baby. And why would an expert knowing this is babythink, suggest such a thing?
Makes for some interesting thoughts that is for sure....
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@alibabes88 (514)
• United States
9 Jun 07
i would i have to tell you that i have let my son cry it out, a couple of times. However when he did, i was still in the same room with him. He could still see me, he just new it was time to go to bed, and he cried because he didnt want to go. Sometimes i think you do have to let them cry, other wise you are always giving into them. They start to notice that whne i cry, mommy trys to do anything to make it better. adn then they will start using it against you.. I think there is a thin line of when you can and cant let your baby cry it out. But like you said, i wouldnt let my baby just cry it out and walk out of the room, thats just a little too mean.
@tanniebabe78 (2934)
• United States
9 Jun 07
Well, mine is like a week old right now, so I try not to let her stay by herself too long.
I find though, that if you just let the natural order of the world play in their life, they are content to be away from you when they start to crawl and walk, so their demands for that kind of attention are short lived. At least it was with my son.
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I agree, I don't believe in crying it out or practice with my children. If a newborn is crying, it has a need to be met. Letting him/her cry is cruel in my opinion. The rare exception would be the frazzled new mom, who needs to say use the restroom & her child is being fussy for no apparent reason. I don't think it's wrong of her to let the baby cry for seconds so she can attend to her legit needs.
Also there are many styles of slings out there which make juggling your "new appendage" & your other responsibilities so much easier.
@tanniebabe78 (2934)
• United States
9 Jun 07
well of course I tend to needs of that nature, but I'm talking about to get simple tasks done like dishes and other child care....
I have a sling of sorts, but it only makes her more upset, cause she wants what is under the sling if you know what I mean. lol... babies!
