Renewing your wedding vows!!!!!!

On sixty years old in Maharashtra. They are marrage again.They are renewing there wedding.They are marrage just like first marrage.

I feel that these people who are renewing their vows know people want to bring gifts. They are trying to be practical in the gift department. I feel a money tree is appropiate. If you cannot afford to bring a gift then just bring a nice card. If the money tree is done like I have seen then the money is just pinned to a fake tree. No one knows who or how much people give. I think if they did not need or want the gifts they could have asked their people to give money to their favorite charity.

You haven't mentioned how long they have been married, but you do say they are well off financially. Any mention of gifts at all on any invitations should not be mentioned. It is tacky. Unless of course you say "in lieu of gifts, bring a donation to the food bank" for example. But be sure the food goes to the Food Bank and not your own kitchen cupboard. Usually with wedding anniversary parties, which they celebrate at 25, 50 and 60 years, they always say "Best Wishes only". That does not prevent people from bringing gifts, and usually everyone brings a card. No matter what the age, no matter what the occasion, it is never polite to request certain presents. I would like to see the day when people who request a certain gift for their party end out with no one attending because of such a tacky request. Then when asked why they didn't attend people can say, "Well, I couldn't afford to buy you a gift...." That would teach them.

I'm with you- I find it odd- I've never been to a renewing wedding- Sure it's cute- if that is what they want to do- I always thought you went off to some cute place and did it by yourself- not a whole party again- I wouldn't give money to the renewing couple- I find it odd.

If they are having a wedding and reception where they will be serving food for everyone then what is the harm in putting $20 on a money tree for them to help pay for the food, and to celebrate the fact that they are still married.

Hello kitkat1. I think renewing wedding vows is something every couple should do. It will remind them of the commitment they made to each other. But I think thats what your relative wants. If you were going to buy gift, you will also be spending cash. I think what they are trying to say is that with money, they can buy the thing that they really want. Beside they didnt put a specific amount you should give. So, I think it is alright. We have to respect the "King and Queen" of the day wishes, dont we?

No I do not think it is right that they have a Money Tree I mean they are only renewing the Vows and it looks to me like they are trying to make money out of it and I don't believe that is right If they where newly married then ok but not when just renewing the Vows

I agree with you . The idea of renewing their vows is a really nice idea but gifts or money should not be a part of this unless one wanted to do this . They already have everything they need and have already had their big name and it is kind of tacky to demand that one give you money rather then a gift . To me that is kind of ungrateful for what someone might have picked out for them .

The only way I'd see a money tree as being appropriate would be if they designated the money to be given to their favorite charity. Habitat for Humanity would be appropriate or a homeless shelter. When we have a party that would be expected as a gift-giving event, I usually ask for something for a favorite charity. I've done canned foods for a community food pantry, money for a fund-raising charitable event. There are all kinds of parties that can be used for all kinds of charities. And people seem to feel good about doing it.

For major anniversaries such as tenth, twenty-fifth and fiftieth, having gifts and a money tree is what I've commonly seen done. So this might not be a major anniversary but it is an anniversary with a recommittment ceremony so having a money tree only is quite appropriate.

I think its great they they are renewing their wedding vows. But i think its tacky they requested the money tree. And i agree with what someone else said you should never mention gifts/money on invitations. In my opinion not only is it rude, but its very tacky.