Fathers
@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
United States
June 9, 2007 9:42am CST
Do you feel that having or not having their father actively involved in their lives has a direct affect on a childs life? Do you feel that daughters without an active father in their lives to guide and teach them will seek out male attention from older guys? I have read that somewhere and I feel that it may be true. What do you think?
2 responses
@vokey9472 (1486)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I grew up in a house where there was a father present, but he was mentally, emotionally and verbally abusive to us at all times. There were a few occassions that he did become physically abusive too. How did that affect my sister and me?
The moment my sister turned 18 she moved in with a male friend. She became very frigid and didn't date. She finally married her male friend and he is the only man she has ever been with, dated, or anything. He controls every aspect of her life. He adores her and loves her to distraction. If anything happened to him, she wouldn't even know where their bank accounts are held.
I on the other hand, became very sexually active. I lost my virginity to a friend one night after getting drunk. Two weeks later I was sleeping with my new boyfriend. I cheated on him several times with his friends. I went through a horrible time where any time a man was nice to me, I would sleep with him. At one point in my life I was 23 and dating a 45 year old man. It took a lot of therapy to realize that I was using these men to try and a fill a void within myself.
Not having a father in your life is awful but sometimes having one in your life is just as bad.
@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I too was very sexually active, with any man, and some women, who were nice to me. Anyone that made me feel special. But, my I guess I should have rephrased my question to read "an active, non abusive, father". I'm sorry that your childhood was so bad. Huggers to you!!
@vokey9472 (1486)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I think that if your child has an active, non abusive father in her life, she is a very lucky child. A father has such a profound effect on his children. Most men do not even realize just how much of an effect they have on their children. Having a positive male role model teaches little boys what a man is supposed to be like. Having a positive male role model teaches little girls how men are supposed to treat them. If you have a man who is a positive influence to your child, he wants to be that child's father and he is not abusive, then you are a lucky person and should hold fast to that man.
@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
9 Jun 07
I dont' think that kids need their father per say. Now I am not saying that I want my kids father cut out BUT I think that if they have a good male role model that isn't abusive they will turn out the same as if they had a good father in their lives. I do think they need a man there just doesn't have to be a father.
