Do you and your partner disagree on how to raise kids?

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My husband and I got along famously until our sons came along. Suddenly, all these cultural and personal differences appeared and we have really started to fight about things lately, mostly kid related. I hate this, but I do feel very strongly about some things that he just doesn´t get. For example, before our second son was born, I weaned my toddler off his milk bottle at night. It took three nights of not sleeping while he screamed his head off because he only had water to sleep with. My husband wasn´t around for this because I had tried before when he was there and he always gave our son milk again. So, I managed to get him onto just water and was SO relieved because instead of waking up 10-15 times during the night, he got up only once and sometimes even slept through the whole night! Obviously, this is beneficial because with a newborn, I would be getting up a few times anyway. Also, there is the whole milk on the teeth problem, that was now solved and before lasting damage was done. My husband knows all my reasons for switching to water and my son was fine now with just a bottle of water at night and we were all great, or so I thought. WIth a newborn, I have to be up every 4 hours to breastfeed, so my husband was getting up with my other son. I noticed that after we got back from the hospital, he was waking up a lot more and chalked it up to the trauma of a new baby in the house. But then, when my husband wasn´t here for the night, I had to go in and give him his water and he would throw a massive tantrum! Finally, last night, I realized that despite all the problems solved, all the talks we´ve had, etc, my husband has been giving our son milk again at night! And then lying to me about it, because I had asked him a couple of times if he was doing so and he said absolutely not. I´m rather depressed about this because I really don´t have the energy to go through the whole weaning process again and repeated talking hasn´t helped make the situation any clearer to my husband. I actually yelled at him last night and told him that he has to pay the dentist bills when our son´s teeth are full of holes. But I don´t think it really hit home. So, what differences have you had with your partner with regards to raising kids?