Are you military?

United States
June 10, 2007 8:08pm CST
Are you or your spouse military? What branch? Were are you stationed? What do you like about being military? What do you HATE about it? My husband is USAF, with 14 years of service. We're right outside of Washington, DC, but we're PCSing to Okinawa, Japan in January '08. I love the travel, the excitement, meeting new people, and the sense of community that comes along with it. I HATE the deployments, the long hours, the unpredicable-ness. What are your thoughts and experiences?
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• United States
11 Jun 07
My husband is a Marine. He's been in for almost 9 years. We're stationed in North Carolina. I like - benefits, sense of community (especially being in a military town), meeting new people, etc. I don't like - deployments, when he's out in the field or has duty and friends coming and going every few months (due to PCS) and having to play both Mom and Dad to our kid so much. I cope well with this kind of lifestyle but I'm worried for our little one. He's only 2 now and my husband has already missed half of his life and he's due to deploy again end of this year. But we make the best of our circumstances, right? My husband wants to retire from the Marine Corps. So, we're going to be living this lifestyle for quite awhile still :)
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• United States
11 Jun 07
We absolutely make the best of it. We HAVE to, I think. I'm lucky--my hubby is 12 years older than me and we've been together for two years, so all together I will have only had to live with 10 years of this. It's exciting sometimes, but rough. I don't think I'd trade it though. Not QUITE sure about that. ;)
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@amyann16 (414)
• United States
11 Jun 07
My father is retired USAF, so I have a bit of a different perspective... It definitely is a different lifestyle, one that many civilian families just can not relate to. I think being a an Air Force brat has made me more flexible and it seems to be easier for me to change than for others. But I do feel like I missed out on the long term friendships that some of my friends now have had. I do not feel much of a connection to my high school (I went there for the last three years of my schooling and then moved away to college)and do not really talk to anyone from my youth. I am a bit envious of my friends when they are talking with a long time friend that they have known all their lives. On the positive side, I have experienced and seen so many things that they think are amazing.
• United States
11 Jun 07
I agree. I went to visit my parents recently, and I was struck how DIFFERENT the "civilian" worl is from where I live. No one seems to understand anything about me except for my friends who are also military/military spouses. It can be difficult.
• United States
11 Jun 07
yeah military here...currently in san luis obispo as an army recruiter. let me tell you what fun that is. i have been in for seven years now...
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@Savvynlady (3685)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I was in the USAF for like almost nine years; I liked it but got tired of the things I didn't care for, so at the time, they were offering folks to get out with decent seperation package, and I took it and got out. But I am proud of my military experience; Matter of fact, one recruiter was trying to get me back in and I was like, well ya'll must be desperate because it's been like twelve years since I've been in; but I guess with Iraq and all, whosoever will, come in.
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
I have 2 military uncles. And very many relatives who are soldiers like them too. I love my uncle, a scout ranger. I just hated it that before his retirement, he become missing. Then I heard his wife now with 2 kids with 2 different fathers in a span of 5 years from the date my uncle was missing. My other uncle also a scout ranger is great. He loves coming home once a year. He just happen to have 2 kids with the same women other than his wife. He lives with his real wife and his first child but the youngest lives with us. His real wife can't bear a child, now He can't tell his real wife that he had 2 kids with one woman.
• United States
11 Jun 07
That's so sad. I'm sorry to hear that. :(
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• United States
11 Jun 07
I would hope, if I was in her place, that I'd be able to accept the child, since it's not her fault. I'm not sure if I could though. What a horrible situation for everyone.
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
I don't know how painful it would be but her wive already love the first born very much. She does not even let the child come with my uncle everytime my uncle comes to our place once a year.