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I am no longer with my ex, though I am happy for you and your husband. It must be nice to have a good relationship and a happy marriage. Unfortunately, I did not have that. I could have said things like you are saying about your husband... unfortunately I would have been lying. He cared only about himself, and I am sure he said nothing positive about me since all he did was verbally abuse me.

I am divorced after 21 years of mental and verbal abuse I had enough and it was provoked by my Illness that I got the courage to get out I now have the most wonderful Man in my Life We do not live together but he is always there for me, he cares for me , he has built my Confidence in myself up again, he helps me to deal with my Illness I could not ask for better

i try to only talk positively about my husband. i do love him very much there are times though that he upsets me so much that i have nothing positive to say about him.

This is such a funny discussion to have. I usually sing my fiancee praises when he isn't around. I let everyone know what a great guy he is. But when he is with me I am always teasing him and harassing him about how mean he is to me. I use to allows sing him praises but that started going to his head. His head kept getting bigger and bigger so I had to stop that. This doesn't impact our relationship because as he puts it he is use to me being this way and if I were to change then he would know that there is something wrong with our relationship.

I am very happy for you. All your discussions are great and your responses are always thoughtful, therefore you obviously are deserving of what you have. I did not have that however. My wife and I always fought and never really had much of anything positive to say about one another. The only thing had that we both cherish is our kids. cheers,

Tinamwhite, you are such an optimist! I have a cousin like you! Her glass is always half full! Anywho, now what was the question? Oh yeah, spouses. My momma said if you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all . . . I have been married 37 years. Notice I said I. 'Nuf said!

You really have a great love to your family specially to your husband. I idolize you for that and how i wish i could have a loving family as yours. When i get married and have my own family, I wanted to be a good father to my children and husband to my wife. I will show them respect and love so that they could also have respect and love for me. I want them to be proud of me, no matter how many times i failed. Respect me though others will not, and love me wholeheartedly with no conditions. I never listen to other people talking negative to my spouse i will get angry if they do that.

I love my husband very much, we are married for 5 years now but have known each other for 12 years. He is a very intelligent man, with integrity and is a wonderful friend. He is a no nonsense kind of person and very practical and straight to the point. I am the extrovert and he is an introvert, I will take flight like a Super Frelon helicopter and he will grab me by my feet and bring me down to earth again. I think that is why we get on so well. Like the Chinese say yin and yang. My take on women who always speaks negatively about their husbands are really reflecting the bad choice they made. Seeing that I'm a new friend of yours Tina, please excuse the grammar and spelling mistakes as English is not my native tongue, my language is Afrikaans. I bet you have never heard that word before lol!

Congratulation on a great marriage and as you cannot clap with one hand, I am sure you too had a lot to do in the way he is towards you. I am not married but my partner is a wonderful man and even though there are a few things that I may not exactly agree with them, for example, he is very messy and I am absessive compulsive...I don't feel the need to talk badly about him ever! I a strange way I would feel like I am betraying him if I talk negatively behind his back; I mean, think about it, how much of a good friend I would have, he is the man that spends most of his time with me and probably knows me best as he gets the chance to see me in many different moods at many different times of the day and night. So, if I have to say something, especially negative, I think I should say it to his face so, he can hopefully do something about it. Behind my partner's back I can aonly tyhink of good things and therefore, I only sing his praises. I hope he does the same and yes, I would be deeply hurt if he were to confide in someone about something I do wrong instead of talking it out with me. Have a great week Tina! Best wishes, Magdalena

My husband is loving, caring, respectful, kind, appreciative, honest, very patient, calm, very generous, a postive role model, a leader, confident, hard working, a perfectionist, and someone who cares very much for his wife and son. The only time I speak negatively of my husband is if we have had a huge arguement and I can't seem to get my point across. He can be stubborn at times and always thinks he's right. We don't bang heads that often but when we do, I'm the one who is enraged and he's the calm, cool and collected one LOL My husband speaks very highly of my son and me and I know that everywhere he goes he always has nothing but positive comments to say about us. I know I can be stubborn at times and I have not heard him say once anything negative about me. He says "I am his life", and "If my wife is happy, then he is happy" - now how wonderful is that? I am such a lucky person to have found someone like my husband.

That is great that you and your husband have a wonderful relationship. My husband and I have been together almost 17 years. We have been married 11 years. He is also a wonderful husband and father. I feel blessed.

I too have a wonderful husband. We have been married for almost 20 years as well. He is very gentle, intelligent, caring, loyal, faithful and kind. Best of all he is an excellent daddy to our son. What would he say about me? Nothing unless you asked him point blank. That is just him. He is not terribly outspoken and would never just start telling anyone something they didn't ask about. Does this impact our relationship? yes, maybe a little. I admit that I wouldn't mind hearing him brag about me once in a while. How is that for honesty?