Will you leave someone you love for money ??

@mimpi1911 (25473)
India
June 11, 2007 7:37am CST
well, this might sound cliched, but its a reality. a friend of mine has left the man she loved (that's what she apparently posed) and married some real rich guy!! the shy, timid guy has little money to pursue his career, let alone giving her all lavish and extravagance. may be she is being wise to choose money. may be yes, may be not, i am not sure. but i am in utter shock right now, she has severed a relationship of 8 long years!!.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
11 Jun 07
Hello,mimpi1911,if i really love someone,i do not mind him poor,i can still be with him even we have simple life,we do not need a lot of materials but we can still be happy. I will not leave my love one for another guy just because of money.Money cannot buy love,if you are with a guy who i do not love,it will be meaninless.
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
that makes two of us anna. thanx for sharing.
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@dpk262006 (58713)
• Delhi, India
13 Jun 07
Anna, very good thoughts. Hopefully your to be hubby (wherever he is (or would be)...or whenever you get married) would be very happy and delighted to read your positive thoughts. deepak
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
20 Jun 07
thanx deepak.
@bhawnam (1436)
• India
11 Jun 07
no never .. i would never do such a thing.
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
i really appreciate.
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• Philippines
11 Jun 07
I could always found money everywhere but finding love and leaving it for money's sake, kinda weird but it's common nowadays. For me, no matter how poor i will be but i'd rather be the man i wanna be than being with the money with noone to be.
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11 Jun 07
I would never leave anyone i love for money because love is the only thing that you cant buy in live it is priceless and i think some people might agree
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
hi daredevil and theonereborn, i really appreciate you two. money can't be a substitute to love. love is hard to find and even harder to keep going... thanx for sharing.
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• Kenya
12 Jun 07
Sometimes you can decide to follow money and the person is a jerk! After a while, all that money is going to look like dirt cuz there's no way it can make you happy. And don't believe the hype, it don't give you self esteem either! That comes from inside of you. Your pal did a heinous thing, not just to her poor husband, but to herself as well. And what goes round, comes back round.
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@worthy (2413)
• India
12 Jun 07
Hi mimpi,I think the answer lies in your post itself.That is,she apparently posed to be in love with the poor guy.Had she been in love, she would never have left him for money.I think she has no belief in herself either.Had she believed in herself,she would be confident of earning decent money for living a comfortable life.There was no need for her to be a toy of some guy she doesn't love,just for the sake of money.Money in itself is nothing,but a facilitator of many other comforts,which we call happiness.But no amount of money is gonna buy her true love,and so,ultimately she would be so unhappy.I think she did a bad bargain.I can't and would never do that for money.I know I'll be capable of meeting my needs and thankfully I won't be using myself or my would be partner for money.
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
some good thouhts here --much appreciated. thanx. have a nice day.
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@dpk262006 (58713)
• Delhi, India
13 Jun 07
Worthy, a very thoughtful and intelligent response. deepak
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I am sorry to say that your friend did not make a wise choice if she loved the first man. Money can buy material things, but never, ever love and happiness. Yes in the beginning, she may be happy with all her new found money, but in the end, her heart will ache. I think chossing money over love is always wrong, but especially in this case, as she has not only hurt herself in the long run, she has hurt the man she was with for 8 years.
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
yes misheleen, its so very true!!! she has indeed hurt the man who loved her so much. we don't know how to console him. its terrible..
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
18 Jun 07
thank you all for your input.
@aretha (2538)
• United States
11 Jun 07
she will find out very very soon just how important that money really is. i would never leave my husband for money. when my husband was in iraq he asked me if i was sure i didn't want him to relist in the army because if he did while he was in iraq we would of gottin enough money to buy a brand new truck with cash. still if he relists they will give him a bonus that we could really really use but i am not willing to give up the man i love for money because i know if he was to sign them papers he would be sent back to war and whats to say i would get him back the next time. its not worth the money. she will find out that all the money in the world isn't gonna make her happy if she don't love the person shes with.
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
you are such a sweet heart!! i really appreciate. God bless you two.
• United States
11 Jun 07
i think if it me i wont do that becuz money is not everyting. she shouldnt leave the one she loved for money becuz she might regret it later in life. She will get the money but not the love that she wanted to have for her life.
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
some good thoughts here--much appreciated.
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@babostwick (2037)
• United States
11 Jun 07
As a man I wouldn't choose a rich woman over someone I love. I'd rather have long than marry out of money. I mean, sure it would be nice to be rich but it won't guarantee being happy or anything.
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
i agree totally. thanx for sharing.
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@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I guess it depends on how rich he is. Sounds bad but if I have chemistry with him I dunno what I would do . It depends on the circumstances. I would have to be attracted to him as well.
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
yes, attraction and love is the key word. thanx.
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• United States
11 Jun 07
i would leave someone i been dating for a cuple of months for money like somebody offer me a sum of money but never to get married to them for money specially if i been dating them for a while thats dirty
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
yes, when you posethat you love him and be with him for 8 years and then break up for money - that's sad!!
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• United States
11 Jun 07
Absolutely now. I could never, ever do that.
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
thanx for sharing.
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
11 Jun 07
I would never live my love because of money. I never thaught of it and i never will. Ofcourse people can not live out of air..Lol. But two normal people can live normally. I do not know why she did it, but maybe there are more reaons that you do not know. Because this sounds too strange to me.
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
yes, i am at my wit's end!!!??
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• Singapore
11 Jun 07
What is love? What is money? Why should one be more important than the other? I am suspecting though that for the case of your friends, there are other factors involved. It may look like a pure case of money, and she might even insist this is so, but I am still guessing that there are other factors involved that are not out in the open. Well I wouldn't care about others. Let others do what they want. When I make my own choices, I also hope others respect my decisions. Well, too bad for them if they don't lol. :P
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
you may be right, we shouldn't be judgemental. i just hope the deprived he gets over it soon.
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@rainbow (6762)
11 Jun 07
I wouldn't, I've never minded what a person has just who the person is. I've been with Shrek almost 8 years and jsut sort of expect to carry on, I'm far too lazy to think about a trade-in. What we have to remember is that although money doesn't buy happiness it can make being miserable a lot more comfortable. Maybe she loves the new one in a new and deeper way and the money was not involved in her deision?
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
that could be true rainbow. who would not be swept over by a handsome hunk with riches!! but hurting someone and disclaiming all love and responsibilites is just not done..
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@mari_skye (1638)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
No, I won't. Although the idea of living the rich life is very tempting indeed, I don't think I will ever be with someone just for money. Call me romantic, but I rather be with someone I love. My BF is not rich but he is kind and responsible and everything else that more than makes up for the lack of money. Never have I thought of ditching him in order to be with a rich guy. As for your friend, well its her decision and she will have to live with it whether she has chosen wisely or not.
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
13 Jun 07
some great thoughts here---much appreciated. love can bever be substituted by money. love is something celestial and money you can always aquire if you wish to. love cannot be bought, can it!! smiles...
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@lpetges (3036)
• United States
13 Jun 07
no i would not leave my husband for another with money. we have joked about that a few times. Getting out of debt, so just getting divorced, marry someone rich, then leave him and going back to my husband. I think there was a movie about that with demi moore? cant remember the name of that one.
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
13 Jun 07
hi lpetges, yeah, the film was 'indecent proposal', demi moore and robert redford..ultimately love had won. it had to, it has to no matter what. thanx for sharing. smiles...
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@aidonia (4209)
• Greece
11 Jun 07
If you ask about my personal opinion I'll never do such a thing but I can't know why your friend did.Maybe she thought if the boy loved her will not wait 8 years to get married,or she fell so big disappoint from him and thought that love not everything so lets money be. If she did only for the money ,what can I say except that even if you have all the money of the world you can't buy happiness or love.
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
aidonia, there had been no apparent reason to not to marry, only things kept coming up intermittently and the they werebusy sorting out undefined problems. look, as far as i know, its just for money she did it. i know her from close quarters and she confessed to me!! i am just praying for her.
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@aidonia (4209)
• Greece
12 Jun 07
I don't know if you are friend with the boy ,but if you are just tell him he was luck and didn't married a girl like these.
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
13 Jun 07
yes, aidonia, you are right. may be he is lucky not to marry someone like her!!
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
11 Jun 07
is this what she told you that she left her past boyfriend just because he was not rich and she met with a richer man?? or is this what people are saying after seeing she broke her previous relationship and married with a different man?? I mean, my friend, unless we have her own words, we cannot say anything about her choice..love is such a difficult matter and each story is unique and has its own rules..maybe they had lots of problems..maybe they were not in love anymore..maybe she didn't love him anymore or he didn't..who knows??? of course I hope they thought a lot before closing such a long relationship..eight years is just like being together for nearly a lifetime!!!
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
12 Jun 07
hi maribea, she told me that she is marrying another guy for pressure from family and she has had no problems as such with the guy she loved!! that's what shocked me maribea. i know what you mean, but its strange to the ones who know them from close quarters, that the two donot have anymore love left between themselves..
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
12 Jun 07
oh I cannot imagine what it is happening..I hope she knows what she is doing and that her parents are giving her a good advice..it is shocking..indeed
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
13 Jun 07
yes maribea, she has her values mixed up!! is love a bargain? how could she equate money with love. i am shocked..
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
uhm.. i think it depends upon the situation. I don't have the word to say no. But for me I don't and I can't see myself leaving someone just for the money. I can say that money is not that important for the people to achieve true happiness... But we can't blame someone if he/she do that. maybe she just badly need the money not just for his/her own sake maye there's a really who in need. But for me.. you can never leave someone you really love just for the money unless she/he doesn't really love the Guy..
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
27 Jun 07
i really appreciate your thoughts. its indeed hard to judge someone just like that. thanx.
@xiuluoelly (1225)
• China
27 Jun 07
Such is life, including love and money, and sometimes the choice is important, sometimes the choice is not necessarily suitable for them, Happy most important.
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
27 Jun 07
that was a nice input, friend. i guess, you are very sweet with great thoughts.
@anonymili (3138)
14 Jun 07
Wow that's shocking. I guess I'm just not the materialistic kind of person your friend is. When I met my husband 5 years ago he had nothing, through my love and commitment to our relationship he has just spent £20,000 on redecorating our home and the same amount on a brand new car. This is through money he has worked hard for in the last few years and saving every penny he could and still us managing to have a good social life and be able to buy ourselves luxuries when we want to. He says our love makes him rich and I feel the same way about him. My ex had 5 or 6 houses and businesses and he was never happy, the whole 14 or so years we were together he just always wanted more than life would give him and he is going to die an unhappy person because nothing he gets is ever enough for him. Money does NOT equal happiness. I know people who drive the fanciest of cars and have the biggest of houses but they actually say to me and my hubby that they wish they had the relationship that we do!
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
15 Jun 07
i have tears rolling down, don't have any words to express how touched am i with your motivational words. love, caress, thoughtfulness and values all are essential ingredients of happiness and a good family life. you are a wondeful person and so is your husband. God bless you all.