Do you care what other's think of you?

United States
June 11, 2007 8:17am CST
Are you concerned if people will accept you or not? Does it bother you when you are not accepted? Or does it not matter to you either way? I admit, I always want to be accepted, but I will not go out of my way to please others. If someone doesn't like me, it may bother me, but I will not change to make them happy. I am who I am and if people want to accept me, then I am happy. But if not, then I will brush it off. So tell me, do you care what other's think of you?
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@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
11 Jun 07
when i ws younger a little but now, i am who i am and you accept me this way or leave me alone. at times it hurts but i can live with it. people that are your friends for surtain reasons are not true. its my opinion
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• Philippines
11 Jun 07
If you think too much of what others may think of you then you'll always try hard to please them. And that won't be good for you. Honestly, it does made me think sometimes of what other people may think of me but i don't lose sleep over it. As the saying goes you cannot please everybody so it won't matter whether i am liked or not. As long as they don't get personal and do anything bad against me i won't take it against anybody if they don't like me.
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
Hello jennifer. I think at some point in our life, we will have this hidden desire of having anyone accept us. I have learned long ago to stop trying to please anybody. I am who I am and wouldn't change any single thing. I'm willing to improve myself further if its for my benefit. I know of a person who is always bothered by what others are thinking about her. She don't like her reputation be tarnished. I personally nag her to stop letting others affect her deeply. It doesn't make her happy anyway.
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
there is no way at all that we can please everybody. this is the reality of life that all of us must accept. the best attitude to accept will be to stay away from those whom we do not see eye to eye with. this will eliminate the possibility of breeding an undesirable feeling emanating from the non acceptance. each one of us must have noticed, that there are some persons that we just simply do not like for no reason at all. why then must we make extra effort to like them and please them? that is torture uncalled for.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
My thought exactly, trinidad.
@speedy1279 (2665)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Many years ago I would have answered yes. I had low self esteem and it really bothered me if others didn't accept me or like me. But since then I have been able to look deep into my heart and come to the conclusion that I don't care what others think of me. I like my self, I think I am a good person, I have a wonderful personality, and if others don't like than they can go else where. I am not going to change who I am to make others like me or happy. I am who I am and thats never going to change.
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@player07 (50)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
nope. i dont care..it hurts me sometimes but it doesnt get me down..i know who i am and thats what matters..i know my flaws and i most certainly know what i have to offer=)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I care about what others think of me and I must admit that I do get out of my way to accommodate everyone, especially, my family (sisters, brothers, etc.) I also try to please everyone, which is hard and doesn't always work. Sometimes it backfires and my family treats me like a doormat, but what can I do? That's just the way I am and it's hard to change.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I used to worry about it a long time ago but that was mainly because I NEEDED to feel accepted by someone, anyone (even though there were ppl that did obviously the ppl that SHOULD HAVE *my family* didnt).....These days though and probably for the past 15 - 20 yrs it matters none to me at all....If someone doesnt like me so be it...I KNOW I'm a solid, strong, loving woman...I KNOW I'm a great mother and wonderful friend...I KNOW what I'm about, where i come from and all that I've conqured in my life so really if someone doesnt care for me, its not my loss in the slightest...I'm happy just how things are in life ya know so I'm not goin to let how some may see me affect that..its just not worth it, not to mention what would that be teaching not only my kids but all the kids in my life...
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@honeyangel (1991)
11 Jun 07
i dont care what others think of me like me or not i am the way i am and i dont change for noone
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• United States
11 Jun 07
I think, basically, we all want to be accepted. And I feel-as you do that-I will not go out of my way for acceptance either. In a way, when I am not accepted I feel 'funny' as you do inside, but that doesn't last long and not real strong. I say, "The hater is missing out on knowing a character." ME! I sure can be a pain. But so can everyone else. I want friends who are rough around the edges. I want them to want me rough in spots to... Good post Jennifer.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
11 Jun 07
Hello,jennifer,i do not care whether other people accept my opinion or not,no matter they like my ideas or not,at least i have spoken up. If someone does not like me,it is their choice and i may not be able to change how they think on me,i do not really care if they compare me with other people or try to give me some wrong assumption.I do not care how other's think of me.
@ackars (1942)
• India
11 Jun 07
I dont care a damn about what others say about me except if they are my parents and my good friends.Even with my friends,I try analyze what they are telling and if it has some fact in favour of them,the I go about and change myself.But when parents say,,no appeal on anything.
11 Jun 07
Until six years ago,I would have said,yes I care.I think after I got married,wth the great support of my usband,I have got a lot of confidence now even though I still like it when others tell me that I am good or helpful etc.Gives my mood a nice uplift for the day!:)afterall,who does not love to hear a good word about you?I would also have changed to make others happy until some years ago.But once I became an adult,I realised that everyone id different and everyone has different expectations of you and you really cannot fulfil all of them.You just have to make sure that you are you and you are true and sincere to yourself.
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@MisterPlus (1915)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
Before I dont care what other people think about me. But when I happened to have a disease. I dont want to tell them about it because I might scare them just like what happened to some of my friends. Some of them left me when they knew about my disease. It's okay with just as long as they don't tell anybody about it. For they might scare them away too. Today I want to fight against stigma discrimination and marginalisation about this disease.
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@cobiasca (16)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
of course it bothers me if someone dislikes me...it is human nature, we all want to be accepted by anyone....
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• India
12 Jun 07
well i always care the feeling or others....what they think abt me...n also to others... i didnt anyones feelin......
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
12 Jun 07
i use to be concerned when people didnt like me and what they thought of me, but now it doesnt seem to affect me. i think when you grow up and just dont care and get use to it. like i like being accepted but if im not well i dont get all upset etc over it.
• United States
12 Jun 07
No I do not care about what others think of me. I am who I am and accept me as the person I am. If you can not do that than I don't need you to try and arrange my personality to suit who you think I should be. I accept people as they are and I like the same thing done with me. We all have our little quirks and idioacracys but that doesn't mean that the other person has a right to try and change us. If they don't like who I am I just shrug it off and go on.
• United States
11 Jun 07
Well, to know me is to love me. Those who may not like me, don't really know me for the most part. I don't really care what others think about me. I do care what my friends and family think. However, when it comes to people I don't know, I could care less what they think of me.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
11 Jun 07
"Well, to know me is to love me. Those who may not like me, don't really know me for the most part" ha! I love that!! and its so true too isnt it!! Excellent saying...
• United States
11 Jun 07
thanks :)
• Canada
13 Jun 07
not at all it surprises me how many are able to think for themselves soemtimes andn how many will follow liek sheep so why care.
• United States
12 Jun 07
I used to worry about what people thought about me, I tried to be someone i tried to please everyone and be someone that I was not. I learned the hard way that it is just easier to be true to yourself. Now I dont care what anyone thins about me. Take it or leave it, i am who I am.