A sad story related to teen pregnancy...

@soadnot (1606)
Canada
June 11, 2007 9:01am CST
I have a friend, who is 17. She met some guy, and they decided to have a baby in the first month that they were dating. Its about 7 months so far that shes been carrying the baby, and the worst part is, she smokes, and drinks, and smokes weed, with the baby inside of her. The baby is 90% going to have problems when shes born. I tried talking to her about it but she yelled at me and said that its none of my business. Im soo fukn angry at her, she screws up her own life, and she now wants to bring another life to screw over as well. again, this was a PLANNED baby... not accidental what do you think? should i do anything? ive already tried talking..
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Since she is 17, her parents can sign her into a rehab program where she will be monitored. Although she is already 7 months pregnant she probably has already harmed this poor baby. I would try to seek out some help for her. She won't like it much and she won't like you, but it is for the sake of the baby.
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
11 Jun 07
i dont think shes really "addicted".. im not really sure what the problem is.. but thanks
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
11 Jun 07
It doesn't matter if she is addicted or not. She is harming the child and if her parents have her admitted she will get the help needed to give the baby a chance.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Hope you have gotten help for your friend and her baby. Thanks for marking me best response.
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Time for them to be adults since they hurried that too much. Try to maintain a stance so that when the time comes you can have contact with said child and if things go as I predict in this case. You might have a hand in raising the kid to normalcy of some kind. A good friend can make all the difference. Good luck. These kids now have to finish the messed up job they have started. We can pray that at some point they get help and accept it before it is too late.
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@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
11 Jun 07
lol.. i want to help, but i dont want to be 'related' to the kid.. im not a babysitter, i just told her what she was doing is wrong and she snapped at me.. stress is another thing thats bad for babies
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@student7 (1002)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Absolutely!!! I would talk to her parents or if she is underage, call child protective services. Does she not understand that her baby could die before it is even born? I can't believe that some one who planned on having a baby could be so selfish. I can't believe that she smokes, drinks and smokes weed. That is sooooo mean of her. It is obivious that she will not listen to you so go to child protective services or her doctor or some one that will take what you say serious.
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@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
they cant do anything till the baby is born and the parents dont care
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• Philippines
11 Jun 07
deciding to get pregnant at a very young age is just something that i cannot fathom unless if she is already married. but smoking and drinking during pregnancy is unforgivable. that's just very unresponsible of the mother. if she won't listen to you since she is still a minor perhaps you could seek the help of an institution that are helping pregnant women with ths kind of problem. do this girl still have a parents? maybe they can help her too.
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@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
11 Jun 07
she doesnt live with her parents and they havnt talked and stuff.. and i dont really think thers anyway of getting her to any institutions that can help..
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@ashveen (301)
• France
12 Jun 07
if she's already 7 months pregnant dont think 2 much of anything can be done..anyway wht's been done has been done..no use blaming them irrespective of their havin planned..all tht they can do now is 2 seek medical attention and keep in touch so tht the baby is delivered in best possible conditions..its important 2 care for both baby n mother.. and as 4 u as a friend i feel tht tht girl should be rily rily proud 2 have such a loving and caring friend..believe me its rare nowadays.. thanx
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@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
yea, ive basicly given up now... and im sorry, but im anything but her friend right now.
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@xpac_25 (74)
• India
12 Jun 07
just ask her one thing.. how she might have felt if she was in place of the to be born baby and was made to suffer because of no fault of hers but her mothers'.... ask her to think about this and do whatever she wants after that... also tell her life is a big cycle and whatever bad deed she does to others will ultimately come back to her some day...
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@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
yea, but, i wouldnt need to, a real mother would care about her offspring no matter what, you wouldnt need logic to convince her, thats what you do to explain to a child not to be mean to others..
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@Mitraa (3184)
• India
12 Jun 07
Advise her, talk to her and let her feel that you are a part of her toughts. She may change her attitude towards life and living style. Above all she is one of your friends, who has taken an exceptional decission that is not supported by any society, religion and moral backgrounds of any person! So treat her very sympathetically and quite affectionately. If there seems to be not any change, then you may bring the unusual habits of her to her male friend to protect the child from her unusual habits. I think for the sake of her planned child she must change for a better life. Hope your success. Thanks.
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
i dont think religion is the answer as laws in religion are usually morals of society. and shes to stupid to get into that thick skull of hers that she is turning into a murderer. sorry for the harsh words but shes being really stupid right now, and for the past few motnhs
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@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
11 Jun 07
This was a poorly planned decision. I do not think this girl is ready to be a mother and the father is not playing with all his marbles either. To plan to have a baby after one month of being together is totally irresponsible. Add to that the lifestyle of this girl and this becomes a terrible decision. There is little you can do. The damage has been done. Hopefully, the child will find a way to survive and be healthy. It is hard to say if any permanent damage is being done to the unborn child. Help in any way you can, but the mother sounds far to immature to accept your assistance. This really is a matter for the mother and father to work out, though I don't think either is responsible enough to do it.
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@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
11 Jun 07
yea, ive told her many times that its stupid to have a kid and everything.. but.. i really think at this rate the baby is going to die before its born
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@ackars (1942)
• India
11 Jun 07
Im very sad to hear the story and Im very surprised at the decision of such a young lady to become pregnant so earlier.Even if she doesnt smoke,her age will be a huge problem for the baby to be born and on top of that the bad habits will really screw her life as well as the baby's.Try to make her how much ever you can and talk to her partner about the same.Have you talked to thay guy?Or he has left her and walked off???
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
11 Jun 07
no, hes working, i dont really know him, but they are both being really stupid.. im not sure about the age thing cuz people used to have kids at that age, but im sure it will be a minor problem.. the smoking is the biggest problem. i know a mother who ate too much sour stuff (cus she liked it lol) and her baby was born with a small hole in his heart.. this is because of low blood pressure the sour things caused.. but yea, if something as lil as that can harm a baby, smoking drinking and weed at that age is horrible
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• United States
12 Jun 07
It should now be in the hands of the athorities. If the doctors and nurses deem her an unfit partent then the child will be taken away from her at birth. I am not sure of the law is in your state. I know in California if a health care worker suspects a parent of child abuse then they have to call the athorities. This includes if a baby is born with the DT's. I feel there is nothing else you can do. I feel that baby does not have a chance except what the athorties can do for it. It is out of your hands.
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
im from Canada and Canada and California have a lot of similar laws.. so im sure that this may be the case
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• United States
13 Jun 07
although she decided to be pregnant she has not planned a thing. She is ignorant so unable to plan. This is something she will probably be sad about in time. I just hope the baby is not harmed by her. I also think you should check your local laws and report her for her breaking of the law to protect the baby.
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
it probably is harmed by now, and the laws wont do anything till the baby is born
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@molusk (857)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
teen pregnancy is something that is discouraged in our place as most babies born are unwanted. I am surprised that in your friend's case, the pregnancy was planned. And if the teen mother did planned to have a baby, why the uncaring behavior? Does she plan to have a deformed baby ? Considering its rather late in the day to prevent her from hurting the baby inside of her I would suggest you contact her parents about this matter so that they may be able to provide her with the proper councilling.
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
seems so, it seems like she planned for her baby to turn out fukd up..
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• India
12 Jun 07
i know its kinda hard on u now but try to get to kno her problems i thinks it somthins emotional n take her to a rehab n make it fast !
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
rehab with a baby?
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• India
12 Jun 07
i know its hard now but its gotta stop take her to a rehab n plz try to tell her tht shes the person who will be blamed for her problems so warn her n try to find out wats wrong with her i think it is emotional find it n lemme kno
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
i dont know what the problem is, ive just kind of given up now...
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
11 Jun 07
This baby should have not been conceived! the only thing I know for sure that will hurt it is smoking the weed. I smoked and drank some when PG with all five of mine and they came out perfect!
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
whats PG?
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@ElicBxn (63194)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Honestly, its pretty much too late now. Anything that might have been prevented should've been done in the first few months. Now, the baby could be born & survive (well, probably in the states anyway, I don't know about there.) There's not a whole lot more damage she can do the baby. Just pray, or whatever you do, for the child & hope that the baby will soon be rescued from her neglegent parent.
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
yea we are from canada.. so its like the liberal states lol
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@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Do her parents know? If not my first step would be to contact them and see what they say and if they are going to be proactive. There is still 2 months left to help the baby. The baby might have problems but the sooner she stops the better. If the parents are of no help I would contact the local division of family services department or the police and see if there is anything else that can be done.
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
the parents dont care.. she moved out at 15
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@Sherry12 (2472)
• United States
11 Jun 07
That is very sad. I don't think there is really anything you can do. You've tried talking to her and since she won't listen to you, she probably won't listen to anybody. Probably the best thing you can do is just be there for her when she finally realizes the mess she is creating with her life. And, to be sure that she is taking care of the baby when she does have it.
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
yea, shes pretty stupid right now, when she gets older i think she will regret it.. if the baby doesnt kill her ironicly..
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• Philippines
12 Jun 07
Oh..she must stop somiking! it's really a mistake and not advisable to smoke if you're pregnant. She will harm the baby not just physically but also emotionally. She will suffer also when the poor baby will be delivered in this world. Take necessary action it's ok if she'll be angry with you at the end she will realized that you love her and her baby coz you're doing only the best way to ensure their safety. For me, I will tell her parents and force her to stop smoking, I don't care if she'll be angry with me.
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
oh trust me, i dont love her, i hate her for now, shes being stupid.. her parents dont care she moved out when she was younger
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• United States
12 Jun 07
can't people just do it when they are just married
@soadnot (1606)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
whats the difference of being married and having a kid to abuse and having a kid to abuse?
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