if your bf ' parents don't like you,what will u do to please her?

China
June 11, 2007 8:54pm CST
my friend was suffer a lot because of her bf ' parents~~they don't like her~~what can she do to please them?can you give her some ideas?
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@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
12 Jun 07
i guess first and foremost... u need to know and find out, why doesnt she likes u? is there some misunderstanding or? for me... im lucky.. my bf's parents quite dote on me... i guess u can get the bf to talk to his parents? find out and understand why? and from thee amend and correct ur doings accorddingly? but i think talking to them like normal friends helps... =) gd luck to her...
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• China
12 Jun 07
maybe it is because they are so proud of their son and they said my friend is poorer than him.something like that~~she is sad for this relationship~~but thanx for your response ~~
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• Philippines
12 Jun 07
if the problem is htis simple, it might be easy to deal with. they will just have to live away from the family of the boyfriend once they decide to get married and be settled together for life. for the moment while they are still on the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, it is best that the girl will stay away from the man's family. the girl will also do best to further her educational attainment and secure for herself a good job. this will boost her self confidence immensely and she won't feel down even if those people will not accept her.
• China
14 Jun 07
ya~~ i think they need time to solve this problem~ if they love each other, they will struggle for it~` but i think if they get married they will have a lot of trouble~
@marinarovi (1318)
• Argentina
12 Jun 07
If they don't like her, I guess there's not much to do about it. Just hope they'll come to their senses soon, and that in the meantime her boyfriend won't listen to their parents! Good luck! =)
• China
14 Jun 07
yes~~actually,it is tough~~ thanx for you response~~
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
i really do not know how to please the parents of a boyfriend. i have never done this because, i have never encountered this problem in my lifetime. i am very sure though that had it happenedn to me, i will immediately break up with my boyfriend and find someone else. i know that in laws can make one hell of a life which i may lead once i get married to one who will make my life so difficult with unfriendly inlaws. so my best advice to this friend of yours will be, to dump that boyfriend and find someone else. there is always someone much better than him somewhere.
• China
14 Jun 07
you are cute~ i have give this suggestion to her ~ but she can not give up this guy~~ this man can not promise her anything such as marriage or home of them~ he said he will company with her but i don't think it is good to both of them~~ thanx for your help~
@ayza27 (10)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
your friend and i definitely have the same situation. But i dont suffer much.Why? coz i dont care and i dont mind if they dont like me.its their son that i'm gonna marry and not them.They say that there's always a string attached between me and his mother if ever i marry her son.So, what? i can live with my husband & children alone even without any care or guidance from his mother.I just stay away from her as much as possible.minimal contact i suggest and never argue with them,so won't hear any bad words.
• China
12 Jun 07
yes~~it is a good suggestion~~thanx for your sharing~~
@ToriaT (102)
• Canada
12 Jun 07
are you kidding? not like me? i'm shocked! whats not to love? lol all joking aside...i would try to be friendly ...one thing i wouldnt do is put the b/f between me and His mom...if she dislikes me thats fine but if its a serious relationship between me and her son, then the ball is in her court isnt it...if she wants him happy and he is happy with me that should suffice...she doesnt need to start a fan club or anything ...just be civil and i will do same... toriaT14
• China
12 Jun 07
good sharing ~~~thanx for your response~~ i hope she can get through it ~
@kawaii24 (520)
• Australia
12 Jun 07
okay, i used to be in this kind of situation too. However, its best to tekll youtr friends to be just herself. Respect and show courtesy to her bf's parents at all times. However, always remember that its their son that will be her companion and not them....
• China
12 Jun 07
yes~~ u are right~~i think they will try it~~thanx for your response~~
• India
12 Jun 07
i think she should vist her bf house everyday cook food solve prolems at house if he have bro or sis so play with their kids go out with moth n father in laws n other in family many ways r there attend pooja function etc as these way she will go daily n make them feel happy n im sure they will accept her