Who you will choose, your mother or your spouse?

@gr8life (6251)
Malaysia
June 12, 2007 12:41am CST
Tired of driving, I took a taxi to a city recently. It was raining heavily and resulted in a heavy traffic jam. I was lucky that the taxi driver was very talkative that he talked non-stop and asked me so many questions. At least I feel entertained to answer his questions mostly about jokes. Looking at the traffic, he told me that he was definitely sure that I couldn't reached my destination, not at least after an hour or so. I just sighed. I hate traffic jam. I looked out from the window and realized that he might be true. There was no sign that the rain was going to stop. Suddenly he asked me,"Are you married?" which I answered firmly, "Yes!" "So, if lets say, you are having a picnic with your beloved husband and your mother-in-law, near a waterfall. Then you and his mother decided to swim. Out of sudden, something bad happened and both of you almost drowned. Who do you think your husband will try to save?" he glanced at me and giggled. Ahh, this old man! Why did he ask me this? It was hard to answer. I tried to think logically and came out with the answer. "It depends on whom he loves more. Maybe ME or maybe he loves his mother more than me! Well, I don't mind who he is going to save. But if he saves his mother, I know then that he doesn't really love me that much and furthermore if I die, he will definitely marry another woman. But if he saves me, he will lose his mother forever! Uncle, why you asked me this question..it is hard to answer!" I sighed. He laughed at me. Then he told me, "Wow, you are very kind to let your husband saves his mother! Most women want their husbands to save them!" and laughed again. Then he continued, "You know what! He is supposed to save you instead of his mother. I believe his mother will agree with that too. You see, his mother is old. She will die of old age sooner or later. And you are her daughter-in-law. She doesn't mind if her son saves you instead of her because it is both of you who are going to continue the family line!" And he continued laughing and singing happily. So friends, what do you think? Who you are going to save, your mother or your spouse?
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@ssh123 (31071)
• India
12 Jun 07
One cannot leave out the other and live with one. Many parents of the boys do not wish to interfere or stay with any of their children for the fear of being neglected and live separately. In case where it is inevitable for mother to stay with her children after marriage, then it is responsibility of the children to take care of her. But, love life is also important and compatability between the wife and mother is quite rare phenomenon. If they get along well, man of the house will have absolute peace of mind. Otherwise, it is second war front - first one being office/business premises.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 07
I totally agree with you. As for me, honestly speaking, I prefer to live on my own. I told my husband that I do not want to stay under one roof with my in-laws nor my own mother and family. I don't have anything against them, but I think it is better if we could live on our own.
@ssh123 (31071)
• India
13 Jun 07
Living separately is absolutely good idea, Let you and your husband visit his mother now and then and ensure that they do not suffer for want of money, affection etc. My wife never liked mother-in-law but now she is beginning to worry whether her son and would be daughterinlaw after their marriage would allow her to stay with them? What you do, comes back may be in double.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
20 Jun 07
I can understand the situation that your wife is facing now. I am also a mother though my son is only 9 months old; I have been thinking how it would be if the same thing happens to me in future. How do I feel if he has to choose between mother and wife and so on... I understand that mothers do love their children but some mothers (hopefully not my mother-in-law) love to interfere in their son's marriage life. I do not want a situation where my husband needs to decide whom he has to choose, between his own mother and his wife. Any choice that he made, will definitely hurt the other party. That is why I try to avoid this kind of matter. I think as long as we 'stay away' from my mom and mother-in-law, my relationship with my mom and mother-in-law will be okay :)