Do you get defensive when someone tells you that you are WRONG?

United States
June 12, 2007 9:28am CST
I admit, I like to always be right, and when someone proves me wrong, I get a little defensive. I do it because they have made me feel like an idiot. I will disagree with them and continue to say I am right, although I know I am wrong. I only do this sometimes though. Other times I will just let it slide and admit I was wrong. Just yesterday, my husband pointed out a wrong, and I blew up! I couldn't help it. He made me feel stupid, so I was just defending myself. Of course, he ended up being right, but I didn't admit it until the end of the day. I appologized for my behavior and told him he was in fact right. So, how about you? Do you get defensive when someone tells you that you are wrong? If so, why?
7 responses
• India
12 Jun 07
There is no need to get offensive if are proved wrong.You get a chance to rectify your mistake and helps you take caution not to repeat it in similar circumstances.You know that to err is humane but what is important is to acknowledge guilt and get it corrected.
@carryli (876)
• China
12 Jun 07
yes,i will.i don't like another person point out what i am wrong.I will feel unhappy.Many friends don't like my this fault.But it is my character,i can not change myself.I think i can find out the wrong by myself,i don't need another one tell me.
@williamjisir (22884)
• China
12 Jun 07
I have the same feeling. I hate to be pointed out to be wrong even if I am, but it mainly depends on the attitude of the other party. I mean, if the attitude is acceptable, I am happy to admit my being wrong, otherwise I feel very defensive. To me, a friendly attitude always makes me feel welcome when pointed out wrong.
@camar_lyn (1028)
• Singapore
12 Jun 07
I do get defensive especially when it comes to my husband. Maybe there are still areas of communicating that we need to work on. But since men and women are different and we communicate differently, i try to tell myself that it's ok. Blow off steam by keeping quiet! - Lyn
@pallidyne (858)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Some of it depends on delivery. My fiance' and I have been trying really hard to work on this some. We both get very defensive if we're in each others face, saying, "You're wrong." There's a tactful way to approach your partner and tell em you disagree. And a way to talk it through. Course both people have to cooperate at that point.
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
If it was said in a nice way, I wont be defensive. I'll take his advice. I can't blame you if you flare up when someone tells you you are wrong and it was said in an offensive way. I would react the same way too.
@gambit12 (11)
• Denmark
12 Jun 07
i dont get offensiv because well i just dont get offensiv