Dont call him that.

@vorbro (83)
United States
June 12, 2007 11:07am CST
Hi Everyone. Well for some reason I keep catching myself calling my son Bubba. Hes got a cute little round face and it just fits him to me. Of course some would see this as having negative conotations. For instance my loving wife and his momma. She keeps getting after me not to call our son bubba/bubs. Now being completely honest I think she is right, he prolly wont want to go through life as Bubba. So im doing my best to not call him that. I catch myself doing it usually when im sleepy. which of course shows its worked its way into my subconcious. The final piece of the puzzle here is that her family are from kentucky and this nickname would likely catch on rather readily with them. Anyhow the point to this post/question is how many of you had to break yourself from a baby nickname before it catches on.
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16 responses
• United States
13 Jun 07
Well, when I think of the name Bubba, I think of the character on "In The Heat Of The Night" played by Alan Autry. However, the downside of that is that my sisters and brothers always call my Dad Bubba Chubs because he is about 150 pounds overweight and you definitely don't want your son to ever think of himself as overweight because that image is very hard to get rid of. It also makes it even harder to keep weight at the normal level when you have an image of yourself as fat. If your son has a round face, you don't ever want him to start thinking of himself as heavy, which tends to sometimes happen in people with rounded faces. And, you don't want kids teasing him in that way, either. If you want to give him a nickname, give him one that he can see himself becoming like Einstein. Even if he doesn't seem like an Einstein, start telling him that he is smart like Einstein and he's getting smarter all the time. That would be a good way to see your son. As for me, my real name is Kimberly and when growing up, I got stuck going by Kim. I never cared for it and when I moved to California, I decided that I would no more go by Kim but Kimberly. Even now, 23 years later, I have to correct people who attempt to shorten my name. It's amazing how rude people are who don't even know me and presume to call me Kim. It's annoying as all get out. Anyone who really knows me knows I don't like my name shortened and those who attempt to call me Kim, I always complete my name by adding "berly." I used to have a co-worker who finally started calling me "berly" as a joke. He was the only one I let get away with that because it was funny when he did it. Anyway, that's my take on the subject.
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@vorbro (83)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Sounds like you understood my post rather well thank you for your addition. Im personally the opposite on my name. I really dislike my ful first name so I go by only the first sylable but like you im also very insistant on being called that and only that.
@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
13 Jun 07
When my son was a baby, he was so fat I called him Hunka Chunk, thankfully it didn't stick, and since he is a man now, and all muscle, I don't think it suits him. LOL My older daughter we used to call Bag Lady, becuase she would insist on picking out her own clothes, and she would come up with all kinds of weird combos. We also called her Pookie, which kind of stuck and she is now 24. My youngest daughter is now 17, and we always called her Boo.
@vorbro (83)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Lol yeah before my son stretched out a bit I called him Chunky McFat Fat. But that is a habit im happy to have broken. Before he started talking much I might add. lol
@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I'm trying to figure out what the issue is with calling him bubba? I don't see any harm in that being his nickname at all. Its just like being called little man or something I don't see a problem with it. I called my daughter baby budah for a while because she had a cute little belly that made her look like a little budah. I call her ladybug now and I doubt very seriously she'll think she's a ladybug when she gets older. There is nothing wrong with nicknames and for someone to get upset that you called your son bubba is just beyond me.
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@vorbro (83)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Where I live people will almost guaranteed make fun of him if he's known as bubba. Its pretty much a regional thing. Thanks for your input though
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
I call my daughter a lot of names. Sometimes I call her choobie or choob-choob, that may sound like chubby, but she's not fat or chubby at all. I just find it cute and I call her that whenever we're playing. I always give her a nice warm hug always whenever I say that. I guess that's why she doesn't mind be called as such because she knows it's mommy's special term of endearment. Anyways, this is not the case with everybody. Like in your case, when the name Bubba means something else to a lot of people, then it becomes a problem. I think you just have to do what you feel is best for your son. You can just think of alternative alternative names that's cute, will fit him well, and won't be made fun of when he grows up. :)
@vorbro (83)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Thanks for your reply. And while my term of enderment may be flawed he does get tons of hugs too.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
I'm sure that memory will stay with him for long. :)
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
12 Jun 07
I think your wife is right! (Oh wait, I'm your wife). =P I know a lot of kids who have had parents who "accidentally" dubbed them with such nicknames which just stuck, and that's why I'm kind of leery. Besides, growing up where I did, I knew a lot of people known as "Bubba" and not one of them was the type of person I want my child to grow up to be. I really appreciate how you make sure to present my side of this in your post, honey!
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Jun 07
Meant well! Hmph! *glares* Oh yeah, that's even better, let's just use it as his permanent name. And then he can grow up to be a real redneck just like my relatives! Yaayyyyy! Of course, what did I expect you to say, living where you do and all! =p I can see you calling a child Opossum. That's funny.
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@pendragon (3352)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I called my lil girl Bumley for quite a while,it was short for "cute lil bum", and yeah I stopped myself after a few months, I just thought it was cute, she had such a round lil face and every thing else,lol.
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@vorbro (83)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Bumley. Ive never heard that before thats pretty creative. But yeah its prolly good you quit
@dawnhm6 (48)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Man, so many parent, siblings, other relatives call little boys "bubba"! I think it's almost programmed in genetically to do this. My 7 year old son has always when called "bubba" by us, and "bubby" by his sister. I heard a bunch of other family doing this too. Yet, I don' know vey many adult Bubba's. I'm sure its something we all grow out of. It's just a cute and loving nickname for a child!
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@vorbro (83)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Thanks for the examples. I've got to admit there have been a lot of bubba supporters today. hehehe. Now hopefully the wife wont get to ticked at me for putting up this discussion. lol.
@lvhughes (545)
• United States
12 Jun 07
i dont see anything wrong with calling a child bubba or bud or something that fits them as long as it is not something that would hurt their selfesteam. i can one of my sons bubba and one bud. we are from Mississippi some it may just be the redneck in us. i dont think i will ever stop calling them by their nick names. although that isnt the only names i call them by. infact my yougest son may not even know is real name if it werent for me calling him by his full name when he is in trouble.
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@vorbro (83)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Lol. well nothing wrong with being a little redneck. I'm just far enough north that he'll get picked on.
• United States
12 Jun 07
Well I haven't had a nickname for my baby but I understand what you are saying. My son is still in my belly and I know he is a boy. The whole family knows. However I catch myself referring to him as "it" or "the baby". I know he is a boy but I can't seem to quit doing it. I think Bubba is such a cute nickname for a baby. I don't know if it would last his whole life. It depends on him I guess. My brothers name is Richard and he had the nickname Ricky for most of his childhood. But he just didn't want to be Ricky anymore and just told everyone to call him Richard or Rick. I see no problem in calling your son Bubba if it fits him. He can always say he doesn't want to be called that later in life.
@vorbro (83)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Thats true if he later wants a change he can speak up. I just think that such a habit by that point would be incredibly hard to break. For instance most of my relatives still call me Noah. Its my middle name and while i haven't officially gone by it since i was 5 all my cousins, aunts, and uncles still call me that. Not that it bothers me its just an example of how hard those habits are to break.
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
12 Jun 07
My fiancees family calls her Bubba. She has been called Bubba since she was a baby as well. A couple of her siblings couldn't say her name properly so they nicknamed her Bubba. It hasn't had any kind of effect on her. No one other then her siblings call her Bubba. I don't see how a family nickname can hurt a child.
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@vorbro (83)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Interesting ive never encountered a girl being called Bubba. thanks for the response.
@Nykkee (2523)
• Canada
12 Jun 07
There is a guy in the town where I grew up that we always called Bub, or Bubby and as far as I know that is his actual name. No one ever made fun of him for it as far as I know, and if you were gonna get picked on for anything anywhere, it would be at the school I went to.
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@vorbro (83)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Growing up we had a Bubba in my school, which is prolly where i picked it up in the first place his real name was Daryl. Anyhow thanks for the response.
• United States
12 Jun 07
LOL Bubba is cute for now, but you are right, he probably wont appreciate it when he's older. I would try replacing it with something equally "natural" to you...or something close to bubba, like buddy. I got the habit of calling my daugher Punkin-head (her hair is orange/red!) from the minute they brought her to me at the hospital, and realizing that I cant continue calling her that...Ladybug has been slowly taking over...good luck!
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@vorbro (83)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Thanks for the suggestion. Currently im trying to train myself to say the shortened version of his first name that most people are gonna call him anyways.
• United States
12 Jun 07
I think that is silly, it is just a nickname its not like you are calling him stupid or something. We all come up with cute silly names for our children, for whatever reason makes you pick it. Not to mention once he goes to school someone is going to pick a nickname for him, you might as well pick one you like. I grew up in a small town and I went to school with a Bubba and he grew up to be a lawyer and we still call him Bubba. I think its cute
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@vorbro (83)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Thanks for your response. The story of a Bubba being a lawyer does help to prove its pretty much just a stereo type.
• United States
13 Jun 07
why do you want to break the habit. it is a nickname that you have picked out for him. keep it and cherish it.
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@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
14 Jun 07
Hello vorbro! Having my own, I can see your problem there:-) I call my son by many names, whatever appears cute, lovely, intelligent and anything good but I understand that many of them have some negative connotations, including one similar to what you use, which is dubba, with almost the same meaning as Bubba. So you know...My wife doesn't like me calling him by those different names, LOL. But it's a two way story. She also calls him by a name which though mean intelligent but on a negative side it means devil. So I don't like her calling him by that name. If you could understand my language I would definitely have shared all those names. Now the fun part is that, though we don't like each other using some names for our son, we always have a good laugh whenever one of us uses those names followed by a warning by opposite side about NOT to use it again. But the cycle repeats itself and it really gives a good fun time. I wonder if we could stop using those names anytime sooner, lol.
@SARAJEV0 (27)
• United States
13 Jun 07
BUBA (with one B) means BUG in Bosnian lol :) cute nick name though :)